Mummies of 2 under 2's...

[KateyCakes]

Or pregnant mummies with no.2! Could do with bending you ears a little.. I also posted this in baby club but I'm not sure whether the advice would related to me.
Can any of you give me experience of what it's like to have 2 under 2's?
How they are with each other?
How much harder is it than having one?
If you take them out, how do you do it?
How did you find looking after LO while you were Pregnant?
And generally any advice or examples.
Thanks in advance

 

[lizardbreath]

Hey I have a 21 month age gap between my two. So if you have questions you can pm me my kids are great with each other Jaymee is awesome with kat and was awesome when i was pregnant . I personally find it easier with two most days there's hard days but they amuse each other. When we go out Jaymee walks and we push Kat. I found being pregnant horrid I suffered from hg and was constantly sick and in and out of the hospital is randomly pass out while looking after I constantly had to be with someone it wasn't a cool thing. My advice for you is involve LO as much as possible. We took Jaymee to the ultrasounds we took her when Kat was in the icu and she gets me diapers ect.

 

[aidensxmomma]

Neither of my kids are under two anymore, but they have a 16 month age gap, so I figured that would work.

Honestly, I love having such a small age gap between my first two. They are best friends. The only time we've ever had problems with them started once Mady started crawling and taking toys. That still seems to be the only problem we have. They're never jealous of each other or competing or anything. And I don't know if you would really considering this a problem, but my kids don't like being away from each other. We've tried to set up a day where Aiden went to his grandma's by himself, and Mady had a fit and wanted Aiden to come back. It was actually kind of cute.

I really didn't find having two that much harder than having one. Sure, I have to divide my time a bit, but that hasn't been bad at all. Plus, I never got out of "baby mode" when Mady was born, so I wasn't going through any major adjustments like getting used to not sleeping through the night, not having to change diapers, etc.

My pregnancy with Mady was harder than my pregnancy with Aiden, but it wasn't unbearable. When I had bad days and wasn't feeling good or I was really tired, Aiden and I would have pajama days and lay in bed a watch movies. He enjoyed the time together and I got to have an easier, more relaxing day. And I tried to make sure we went to the park or something on the days I was feeling good.

As for general advice, if you decide to have another, include your first in your pregnancy as much as possible. Aiden got to help prepare for Mady (picking out outfits and stuff) and we made sure he knew that Mady was his baby, too. Once she was born, we gave him a lot of opportunities to cuddle with her and feed her (with close supervision of course) so that he could feel like he was a big part of her life, too.

Hope that helped some. If you have any questions or anything, feel free to PM me.

 

[BrEeZeY]

ill let you know next week haha they are going to be 2 days shy of being exactly 24 months apart
So far tho Aiden is really good with his half sister when we see her, she is 12 weeks old, he is scared of her crying and starts to cry too but she has a very unusually high pitched cry so i think thats what scares him most lol but he will rub her back and kiss her and talks to her
with me being pregnant the only time its been hard is this last couple weeks, its not especially hard its jst trying to keep up with him, but he knows there is a baby in my belly and he kisses my belly and tells his brother its time to come out and play toys lol we have kept him pretty involved by showing him pictures and getting all of Aidens old stuff out , explaining that baby brother is going to borrow them and putting it in designated places (he has even gave him a few toys, obviously wont be able to play with but he was sharing) and have him help pick out clothes for baby brother, i had him help pick out his coming home outfit (we sat and went thru the dresser and told him to get a pair of little pants and then asked his opinion on the rest and he did great)

he seems rather exited, he knows when mommy goes to dr that he goes to grandpa's house and he ask if baby brofher Jack is coming home lol but we will see how long that interest last when he has to share mommy and daddy, but i think he will be fine!

I didnt gain near as much this pregnancy and before i got pregnant i had lost almost all my weight from the first one so im hoping it melts away pretty fast, its harder to gain weight cause ur constantly go-go taking care of ur first LO lol

are u considering having another?

 

[rainbows_x]

Thanks for posting this, I also want to know all of this

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

My children are a week or so short of 18 months apart. My daughter's now over two, but I did have 6 months of them both being under 2!!

Two words: HARD WORK!

BUT, 1000000000000000000% worth it.

How they are with each other? They're actually really good with each other. They adore each other. I was terrified that Robyn would resent Logan, hate him for coming in and 'taking mummy' but I just made sure that I didn't say 'no' to her alot, and I paid them BOTH attention, at the same time and individually. They love playing together now

How much harder is it than having one? Yes it's harder, obviously. When one is settled, nine times out of ten, the other one won't be. You don't find yourself having much free time to yourself, and by the end of the day you are absolutely pooped!! But I wouldn't have it any other way. I may be exhausted, but I'm happy.

If you take them out, how do you do it? Now, in a double buggy. Or a single buggy and Robyn walks or uses a buggy board. When Logan was littler, I used a baby sling, and then I had an option of whether to make Robyn walk or use a buggy. Again, it's fairly hard in the beginning, but you soon get used to juggling them.

How did you find looking after LO while you were Pregnant? It was okay, it was harder in the respect that I couldn't always just sit down or nap when I felt shattered, because I had my daughter to still look after.

Advice... Make sure you don't say 'no' all the time to the eldest, particularly when they're showing interest in the new little one. Try and word it so it's not 'no no no' because then you might find them reacting badly to the new arrival. Encourage them to show affection and play with them etc. Try to spread your time between them both, particularly in the early days. When you've got your newborn sleeping, make sure you try and spend some quality time with the eldest. It's getting the balance right.

Hope this helps

 

[bbyno1]

Interesting read
I can't answer any of the Q's except for one

My pregnancy has been so easy so far. I don't even feel pregnant atm (that may change soon lol) but it's a breeze right now. Same as if i wasn't pregnant tbh

 

[KateyCakes]

Thank you ladies, you've all been very helpful. Yes we're planning to have another, but were unsure when. We're still debating TTC date but your posts have helped me alot

 

[pip squeek]

Obj very interesting there will be 18 month between mine and wondering how I will cope with a 18 month old and a new baby

 

[Lauraxamy]

They'll be 18 months between mine and it's interesting reading replies I've found this pregnancy lots harder than my first because I've had a LO to look after, I get bad sickness at the start and I needed to rest but couldn't. Same as at the end I'm very tired and achey, the normal, but I still have LO to look after all day so I can't have a lie in or rest much lol but it's worth it

 

[emmylou92]

I cant answer all your questions apart from the being pregnant one and when I was preggo with Hollie I had bad morning sickness till 35 weeks this time I can eat something when I wake up so I'm not sick I'd say one day a week I have a bad day where is sick and shatterd and Hollie has just 2days ago started STTN again. y/day was a bad day for me and Hollie has just learnt to crwal so is getiing around and going after her al the time is nackering but, this stage only last's till 14-16 weeks in most cases so FX'ed I'll be good then.