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[jenny25]

so girls im debating finding out the gender i have a cervical scan on monday but i don't know if they will be able to tell as its nhs scan or wait till my following scan on feb 14th i really wanna know but paul is in a cross roads xxx

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Hi Jenny, is it a cervical length check that you are having done?
I'll be getting those starting at 28 weeks along with a growth scan.

Have you always stayed team yellow with your two boys? I would go for it and find out the gender only if you don't have a preference. I know some people like you with two boys may be hopeful that it is a girl to the extent that they would be disappointed if it were another boy.
But I think if your going to be happy either way then it is exciting to find out. At the end of the day a healthy baby is all that matters.

I was like you and undecided if we should find out as my husband made no secret of it that he would prefer another girl. When they said a boy at the scan I felt as though he went quiet. I said to him that he better not be disappointed and he said of course not but that he was only being honest by saying his preference would have been another girl for Emelia to be close to.
We're both happy that we're having a boy and have bought several blue things to make it feel more real.
Its funny aswell because when I was pregnant with Emelia he actually wanted a boy but he just loves her to bits now and could probably only imagine a girl for that reason.

But I have to say that a surprise the last time around was the best thing ever in my opinion, especially for your first child.

Melfy, glad to hear that Alexa is doing so well and Zoe is adapting to it.

 

[jenny25]

well you see when i had aarron i found out because we lost paul and with kieran we found out cause of all the losses we had im happy for either sex but we are already set if its a boy and would need to get clothes for the baby if its a girl and i dont want to be rushing at last min i would like to spread it over time getting bargains i would need to make space as i have loads of clothes in the loft out the way , i really would like to to find out and not announce it on fb i would only keep it on here and between paul and i what the gender is , the cervical scan i am having monday is to check cervix i didnt think i would need one cause i had kieran but apparently its just precaution cause i had a delivery at 24+ weeks

i know the baby will be a boy i have had 4 boys already lol xxx

 

[croydongirl]

It's always a tough decision to find out because once you know, you can't un-know it

I agree that if you need to prepare for a girl then you might want to find out beforehand to make preparing less of a rush. That's ultimately the reason we found out this time. I think if we are ever blessed with another pregnancy after this we won't find out because we will have stuff for a boy and a girl and thats always been my hubby's reason - I would have stayed in the dark the first time around but I was ok to find out this time.

Wow, we had a rough day yesterday. Levi is hopefully finally getting his bottom teeth but he was a nightmare! Feeling so thankful that he went down easily again for his nap, but of course there is a huge construction project started across hte street - no warning - I guess they are taking down trees to build on an empty lot or something but geesh,. its so noisy. Feeling good that he went down but hoping they don't wake him up! Oh great, now the chainsaws have started...might have to go and shout at someone soon. So inconsiderate!

Might have to go an explore because if its the start of them clearing land to start a bigger project I want to know. I am going to have a toddler and a newborn and if they are going to be banging and making naps hard I have a HUGE issue with that! Hope they can be quick to do whatever it is they are doing. Levi will love the trucks and diggers so that's a positive at least

Ok, off to change the diaper load in the laundry. I keep having flashes of just how many diapers I will be washing soon ha ha

 

[hopeful23456]

get disposables croy! lol sucks about the construction, hoping levi slept through.

jenny - i love it when people find out gender find out! lol

melfy - happy to hear zoe is adjusting well! are you getting any sleep?

madrid- what is it with boys? they are alot of work! are you on facebook?

just - with that said - you are going to love having a boy too

bump pics anyone? saw croys - looks great! miss my bump!

 

[Madrid98]

Jenny I would find out if I were you. It's always better to have more time to prepare everything!

Hopeful, boys are definitely a handful!! I don't have Facebook. This takes enough time as it is

Croy I hope it's just something that'll be sorted in a few hours and not a big construction.

Just, dh also wanted another girl but he was and is very happy when they told us it's a boy. I understand your dh's point of view as I was thinking exactly the same for Zeynab.

 

[croydongirl]

ugh so found out they are building a house there. I hope they are quick about it! Levi did sleep through though so that was good but still, it wasn't banging and sawing, that will be much louder.

Pretty sure baby girl is trying to get out by pushing her hand or foot out of my va-jay-jay, seriously, tonight has been painful!!

Melfy how are you doing?

Hopeful - We will use disposables for the first few weeks until she is big enough to fit in the diapers we have for her. I am hoping to start really working on potty training Levi after she is born so I am really hoping I won't be doing double nappy duty for too many months. I guess we'll see?!

Going to get some sleep now, i am tired!!

 

[jenny25]

well i spoke to paul and babybond have an appointment available sunday for a gender scan but now he says he wants it to be a surprise im annoyed now i doubt the hospital scan on monday they wont tell me but just hearing him say he wants it to be a surprise has put me in a situation where i don't think its fair xxx

 

[wookie130]

Jenny, I don't know exactly how it's done in the UK, but I do know that in my office, they'll basically just hand you an envelope containing the gender news, and then leave it up to the couple if they want to find out...you have to ask for that, of course. Or, you could always pay for a private scan if you really want to know, and just keep the gender news from DH.

I have no idea how people remain on team yellow. I just have no patience for that, and I'm a chronic organizer/planner, so I must know what gender it is I'm shopping and planning for.

Just, I totally get why your DH wanted another girl, but there are many sisters who are very close to their brothers. My DH has two sisters, and is best friends with both of them. On the other hand, I have one older sister, and I can't stand her...we have nothing in common, and we probably never will.

AFM- I'm about 9 1/2 weeks gone. Hannah and I have been sick this week (she had it worse than I did, with a fever...fortunately I did not run a temp), and we're both now on the mend. I have to begin planning a birthday party soon for Ms. Hannah, as she's now 10 months old! I can't believe how quickly this year has flown by. She's a precious girl, and we just love her so much.

Since I'm 35, I'll be getting the MaterniT21 test done, I assume somewhere around the 12 week mark...it's much more accurate than the NT scan and bloodtest, and tests for several trisomies and chromosomal abnormalities...AND, we would also find out the gender within a couple weeks of having it done. So, I'll most likely know what we're having by week 14. Whoohoo!!!!

 

[daviess3]

Hi ladies so sorry not been on had a busy few weeks, sold my car again!!! We lost one of my best friends dads to cancer, I broke my phone....an to top it all off I had my scan (32 week) same day all looked good on the scan so she told me!! Then I saw consultant who then said babies abdominal circumference is not following the same centile! So he wants be back for another scan, if its the same we will talk about delivery!!! Oh ab baby is breech!! Anyone had a breech baby I can't remember??? Xx

Ps Jen I think stay team yellow!!! Just coz I have lol! X

 

[daviess3]

Oh an my actual bump is small the mw measured me as 26w an cons measured me at 28w! But I think its just where I'm tall will show bump pics from today, I feel like we had not of movement today! Has anyone else measured small??

Also my sister in law who had eptopic last year an lost her tube has just had a 2nd an unfortunately lost 2nd tube!! I'm so gutted for her an its hard being preg as I can't imagine how sge feels x

 

[wookie130]

Oh, Davies, how awful for your sister...please send lots of prayers from me her way.

 

[hopeful23456]

Davies- so sorry for your sister! Does she have any kids yet? Dylan was breech but didn't matter with the c section. Hope everything goes good at your appt! Maybe the measurement was off?

Wooks- glad to see you are doing well!

 

[wookie130]

Thanks, Hopeful!

I'm beginning to make plans for Ms. Hannah's first birthday party. I ordered really cute customized birthday invitations today from Mpix, and hope to have them by the end of the week. I think I'm going to head out to Party City tomorrow for some ideas. I'm thinking of going the cupcake route for guests, and having a smash cake for Hannah. We'll see. I have plenty of time to get this underway, and I love planning parties and such.

 

[daviess3]

It's my sister in law, sges got no children, really feel for her! Hopeful I'm hoping the measurement was just off, but breech I will then b offered to try turn baby or c sec, I'm not up for the turning thing!! Thought of it makes me cringe! After your section how long till you felt well enough up pick up babies etc?? X

 

[daviess3]

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This was this morning
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This was this afternoon xx

 

[daviess3]

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[daviess3]

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This morning! Sorry for triple posts!! 33 weeks 1 day x

 

[hopeful23456]

Love the bump pics! I sat in a wheelchair and they handed me the babies that same day of section (section was almost at 4am). The first 2 days were rough but then I was walking the third day from what I remember. Slowly though. They were so tiny and full of tubes though so not like I was holding a big baby
Seems like just a few months ago you had Lexi! Time just flies. Any names picked out? Any guess on gender ? I will guess girl

 

[croydongirl]

Hopeful - I think you're tiny still, you look lovely. So sorry that tou ve to worry about the baby, I hope the consultant can put your mind at ease and everything is ok. Levi was breech until right at the end.and we opted not to do the turning thing. We had a Csection and honestly I was up and about sooner than many of my friends who had regular vaginal births. Just take the meds.for as lo g as they give them to you, I was on them round the clock for 2 weeks, but then came off them without much pain at all. Its uncomfortable but because of the meds I don't think I felt much pain at all. Make certain you take your stool softeners because I think the first poop was more painful than labor! Ha ha. I know that's not what you want but you still have time for baby to turn on his or her own and if you end up with it you will be fine if you take it slow afterwards.

Melfy - so glad to hear.things are going well. I love that you ate on here it gives me hope that life goes on with 2 tiny babes

Was pretty sure that the Seahawks game was going to send me into labor this afternoon! We are going to the Superbowl! Yay! Fireworks all over my neighborhood! Love it.