My appt

[Beckic]

Hi

I had another appt with my FS this afternoon.

After having my lap back in sept which confirmed my tubes were patent and no endo or cysts - i have been going in for ultrasounds to check I am ovulating.

well after last cycle confirmed lefty was working we confirmed today that there was now a lovely follie sitting in my right ovary ready to pop over the next few days.
i have also been going in on day 21 to check my uterus lining which has been confirmed as 'text book' by the docotr - and so today he finally said I have unexplained infertitliy and that we can now move onto IVF.

I was really starting to get my hopes up - thinking that we were to get on the waitign list and in 12 months time could be getting treatment - when he said - so come back in 6 months time and I will refer you.

Turns out - if they dont know why you cant get pregannt you have to try for three years before they started AC.
so now after 2 and a half years of waiting I have to wait another 6 months just to start the ball rolling.

I know I should be happy that there isnt anything wrong with me - and I am honestly soooooo grateful for that - but I really feel so disappointed at the same time. I just dont think it is going to happen natuarally for us - if it hasnt in the last few years then why would that change - and he can say I am 'text book' all he wants but i'm not pregnant so there must be something not right - and so i just want to move onto IVF.
Having to wait even longer to then start another wait is going to kill me.

I am grateful for the help the NHS have given me - cos since my first appt in April I have been seen regulalry - but three years is ridiculous. when the clinical definition of infertitliy is no BFP after 12 months - then why make me wait another two on top of that before they can help me!!!!

Am going to contact a couple of private clincis offering free IVF in return for egg donation just to find out a few more facts - have to do something or I am going to go crazy.

Sorry for whining.

B x x x

 

[rachelle1975]

Hey B

Oh i'm soooooooo sorry that it is totally shit. If TTC isn't working after 2.5 years what on earth do they think another 6 months is going to do? how totally ridiculous!!

Have they done a post coital test to rule out whether that is an issue??

I can see why you want to look into private funding through donating your eggs - if you are happy with that and your head is in a good place then definitely look into it and i reckon if you still want to do it after Christmas then at least you know it's for all the right reasons huh hun??

So in 6 months time is that the GP that refers you to the clinic or were you at the clinic and you go on the waiting list?

 

[Farie]

Oh honey
What a crap system
Fingers crossed you can find alternatives ... or could you get a second opinion?

 

[miel]

sometimes the medical system make no sens at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[missmarls]

Aww honey, I'm sorry you're being put off like that! So would you get in alot sooner if you go private? I would say go for it!
Hugs!

 

[Beckic]

Hey B

Oh i'm soooooooo sorry that it is totally shit. If TTC isn't working after 2.5 years what on earth do they think another 6 months is going to do? how totally ridiculous!!

Have they done a post coital test to rule out whether that is an issue??

I can see why you want to look into private funding through donating your eggs - if you are happy with that and your head is in a good place then definitely look into it and i reckon if you still want to do it after Christmas then at least you know it's for all the right reasons huh hun??

So in 6 months time is that the GP that refers you to the clinic or were you at the clinic and you go on the waiting list?

Thanks huuni

I am being seen by the clinic but no have to wait 6 months before the clinic can refer me for IVF - and then I go on the IVF waiting list for another hospital in Hammersmith that my PCT outsource their IVF to cos they dont have the capabiltiies to do it themselves.

At the moment I am so desperate for IVF that I think I could deal with the whole donating eggs thing - although I am presuming a private clinic can see me quicker - but who knows??!!

I know 6 months isnt a long time in the great scheme of things - its just not knowing how long I have to wait after that that is difficult - if they could tell me you will have IVF December 2009 I think I could deal with it - its just the not knowing.

The post coital test is the only test they havnt done - not sure if that is offered on the NHS?

Bx x

 

[HAYS]

chick thats absolute crap!!! I guess im in the same boat, i have unexplained, after having all the tests & im due to go and ask for IUI next, do you reckon they will tell me to come back after 3 years!!! i cant afford private
xx

 

[Jessgirl]

Hi Beckic - thats so heartbreaking. I think I'm in the same boat, so far all my tests have come back ok, tho I'm due for a lap & dye on Thurs but its taken me bout 19 months to get this far. I think I will absolutely cry at my docs if they said to me to wait another 6 months. They may not as I'm quite old already. The only positive thing is that if you go private its super duper quick. I looked into it and when I spoke to them you will be "assisted" within the first couple of months! Keep your chin up though, got to believe in the power of positive thinking.

Sending some baby waves your way.

 

[maz]

Gosh - that is sooo bad!! I hate how they get your hopes up and then dash them so harshly. I don't understand why they say go for medical help after 12 months and then tell you to wait another 6 months. What difference is 6 months really likely to make when you've been trying for 2 and a half years already!!

I think it's great that you have private clinics nearby that are licensed for egg donation. I asked at my clinic and they don't do it. They decided not to apply for the licence for egg donation, so unfortunately it's not an option for me.

I'd get Christmas over first and then start afresh in the new year. good luck hun

 

[Beckic]

chick thats absolute crap!!! I guess im in the same boat, i have unexplained, after having all the tests & im due to go and ask for IUI next, do you reckon they will tell me to come back after 3 years!!! i cant afford private
xx

I think its different for every PCT sweetie (im under went herts)- they haven't even discussed IUI with me - just gone straight to IVF - so hopefully yours is different.

Crossing fingers yours are more helpful.

Bx x

 

[Beckic]

Hi Beckic - thats so heartbreaking. I think I'm in the same boat, so far all my tests have come back ok, tho I'm due for a lap & dye on Thurs but its taken me bout 19 months to get this far. I think I will absolutely cry at my docs if they said to me to wait another 6 months. They may not as I'm quite old already. The only positive thing is that if you go private its super duper quick. I looked into it and when I spoke to them you will be "assisted" within the first couple of months! Keep your chin up though, got to believe in the power of positive thinking.

Sending some baby waves your way.

thank you sweetheart - good luck for the lap - mine was absolutely fine - no real pain at all - actually enjoyed all the attention and the excuse to watch films and eat chocolate for a few day.

Bx x