My husband wants me to go to a wedding tonight but I'm feeling fat and ugly

[twiggy327]

We have known about this wedding since before I was pregnant. I was excited then. I was in great shape, size 2, tan, and ready to party. .... then it happened. That unexpected missed period and those faithful 2 pink lines on the pee sick. I'm pregnant. This being my third I'm not unfamiliar with the fattening and widening that comes with growing a human. I'm depressed because i'm always hungry. Because I'm always hungry, I'm always eating. Because I'm always eating, im fat. Well today's the day! Wedding day! I don't want to go. I don't want all of my friends to see me fat. I don't want to watch people get drunk while I'm drinking juice and I especially dont want to stuff myself into an ugly maternity dress for all to see. Ive been emotional the last few days trying on dresses I already own and new ones at the store without success. I still look fat. I'm still depressed and I still don't want to go. Huge fight with DR about it. Men don't understand. I know if I go I'll have no fun and be miserable. Should I stay or should I go?

 

[MnGmakes3]

First off, you're not fat..you're pregnant! Gaining comes with the territory. (I wish I could take my own advice, I've gained 55 lbs and I'm only a smidge over half way).

I know exactly how you feel. I would probably go if hubby ccompromised on leaving early. Are you going to the ceremony and reception? Can you stay for dinner and leave shortly after?
I know every time I end up not wanting to do something I have a good time anyway, you never know Plus there's always dessert!

 

[MrsC10]

I've got a wedding tonight too. I'm not overly keen in having to go because, like you, I think that maternity dresses, not matter how nice they look on the hanger, once they're on you still feel huge!!
I'm going, but only because it's a really close friend of mines whom I haven't seen for ages.

Is it a mutual friend? If so, would your OH be happy to go on his own? If you feel so strongly about it then I wouldn't go. There's no point in going and feeling miserable all night. Your OH will only get annoyed that your sitting looking glum and it'll probably turn into an argument later on.

Stay at home in comfy close if that's what you want to do xx