This is my 5th cycle TTC. I had a really bad weekend since AF came this Saturday. Being 36 and not having children, I feel a lot of pressure. Even if I get pregnant this cycle, I'll be 37 by the time I deliver. I want two children and I'm running out of time. I have friends who got pregnant right away and I feel jealous, I wonder what's wrong with me, I feel like a failure.
DH keeps telling me to relax and be happy because it's good for me and will make it more likely that I will get pregnant. I know that even though plenty of miserable people get pregnant, he's right. So I feel that I should come up with a plan. Anyone with me?
First, I need a plan to put all the chances on my side, fertility-wise. Then I need a plan to make myself happy.
My fertility plan is the following:
1. I take a multi-vitamin that includes follic acid. I also take fish oil, calcium, and since Saturday I have been taking Evening primrose oil (which I will stop after ovulation).
2. No drinking alcohol at all for DH or myself
3. I bought grapefruit juice and will drink to drink a glass everyday and also drink more liquids in general. I drink a 100 calories can of Coke everyday, I'll try to stop that.
4. We have sex every two days. Last month we had sex everyday leading to ovulation and I fear it may have been too much.
5. I will use opk, I started last month. My next ovulation should be on November 22. DH thinks I should just forget about opk and have sex every other day but it reassures me to see that line.
6. We found a store in Toronto that sells Preseed and will be trying it this month.
7. NO symptom spotting, no obsessing. I will do what I can to put the chances on my side but otherwise will try to forget about it.
This brings me to my plan to be happy:
1. Get a foster dog. I work mostly from home, I love dogs, but feel scared to commit as mine died after 11 years a couple of years ago and I'm still not fully over it. A dog will make me happier, will help me meet people in my new neighbourhood and will get me to exercise.
2. Do 15-20 minutes of yoga everyday. I will do this at home. I did yoga for years before and it made me feel great.
3. Go to the office more often. Seeing people is good for the soul.
4. Take a bath before going to bed, or go for a walk (instead of watching TV until I'm passing out). I wake up with anxiety most nights - usually about my job but now about TTC - and am trying to find ways to have a more peaceful sleep.
What is your plan to make a baby and be happy?
DH keeps telling me to relax and be happy because it's good for me and will make it more likely that I will get pregnant. I know that even though plenty of miserable people get pregnant, he's right. So I feel that I should come up with a plan. Anyone with me?
First, I need a plan to put all the chances on my side, fertility-wise. Then I need a plan to make myself happy.
My fertility plan is the following:
1. I take a multi-vitamin that includes follic acid. I also take fish oil, calcium, and since Saturday I have been taking Evening primrose oil (which I will stop after ovulation).
2. No drinking alcohol at all for DH or myself
3. I bought grapefruit juice and will drink to drink a glass everyday and also drink more liquids in general. I drink a 100 calories can of Coke everyday, I'll try to stop that.
4. We have sex every two days. Last month we had sex everyday leading to ovulation and I fear it may have been too much.
5. I will use opk, I started last month. My next ovulation should be on November 22. DH thinks I should just forget about opk and have sex every other day but it reassures me to see that line.
6. We found a store in Toronto that sells Preseed and will be trying it this month.
7. NO symptom spotting, no obsessing. I will do what I can to put the chances on my side but otherwise will try to forget about it.
This brings me to my plan to be happy:
1. Get a foster dog. I work mostly from home, I love dogs, but feel scared to commit as mine died after 11 years a couple of years ago and I'm still not fully over it. A dog will make me happier, will help me meet people in my new neighbourhood and will get me to exercise.
2. Do 15-20 minutes of yoga everyday. I will do this at home. I did yoga for years before and it made me feel great.
3. Go to the office more often. Seeing people is good for the soul.
4. Take a bath before going to bed, or go for a walk (instead of watching TV until I'm passing out). I wake up with anxiety most nights - usually about my job but now about TTC - and am trying to find ways to have a more peaceful sleep.
What is your plan to make a baby and be happy?
