Naming the Baby??

[blondemop]

I lost my baby at about 10 weeks, although she stopped growing at 8w6d. SHe had a heartbeat that I was lucky enough to see 4 times before it stopped. DH actually suggested that we name the baby, and at first I said no. I don't know why, maybe because it made it more real, and I was already so upset. I warmed up to the idea. When we found out through genetic testing that the baby was a girl, DH named her Angel (very appropriate). So now we have Angel Marie looking down on us and are praying for a sibling for her that we will get to hold someday (soon I hope!)
It is a very personal decision, go with your heart.

ps. My mom had an ectopic pregnancy when I was about 1 - named Joseph Ryan, my other brother

 

[Mammatotwo]

Thank you for starting this thread, this is something that I have also been thinking about. I do not think it is silly at all to name our much loved, much wanted babies.

 

[ickle pand]

We didn't give our baby a nickname and I don't think it'd feel right to do it now, for us, but as soon as I get my next BFP I'm going to give that baby a nickname, because I think it'd really help with the mourning process, if the worst was to happen again.

It's a very personal decision, but I say go with what feels right for you and your OH. You're friends haven't been through this, so I'd take their opinion with a pinch of salt.

 

[tinkerbelle2]

we never named ours, but have since both found ourselves referring back to it (the time and the baby) as Lani which means heaven , neither of us can bring ourselves to use the word miscarriage

 

[Cornish]

I think it's a very personal decision but one that has helped me greatly. I chose a sex and named our baby girl following a mmc at 12+1. I can now talk about her to people and she has an identity. We also bought a tree that blossoms in early spring so we can watch it grow.
I hope whatever you choose to do helps you to deal with your loss.xx

 

[kiki04]

I planted a flower garden with a beautiful garden stake in it that is a poem from Hadlee to us.. It is basically saying please stop crying for me I am in a better place no hurt no pain just love so please dont cry for me. It is a much longer poem but its in there and solar lights that are dragon flies and I call it Hadlees garden. I love it Also Hadlee means Heather Meadows so it is a perfect fit

 

[dreams_of_bfp]

Absolutely! Do what feels right to you!
I had an early miscarriage and my DH coped with it better than I did. I for some reason feel it was a boy and have since named him Malaki. For me it just helps...
xoxoxo to you!