nasty baby group :(

[emmi26]

hi
theres a baby group near me where you go get baby weighed. i didnt want to stay for the group just thought id get harry weighed and say hi etc wish id never bothered ! in a room of 30 women amd babies not one said hello all of them ignored me 2 gave me dirty looks and one commented on harrys dinosaur babygro saying to a friend she couldnt understand why some people dont put proper clothes on babies !
i asked one woman if it was baby weighing she said yes put yr name in that book and pointed so i did after 30 mins of people arriving having baby weighed etc the woman said oh you put yr name in the wrong book guess youll have to wait an hour now i felt like i had done something wrong i left in tears.
oh well looks like i wont get harry weighed for a while
its totally put me off baby groups now x

 

[mumtobeplus1]

Can you get him weighed at your Doctors/Baby clinic?
Our doctors has a baby clinic every wednesday where you can go
have the injections done if baby is due them, see the health visitor
and get them weighed on a wednesday 1.30-3pm you just turn up
and then wait to be called.
(they have a baby changing room with scales
in all the time so you can go whenever aswell)

I dont go to baby groups either, didnt with my daughter and wont
with my son, im not confident enough to join in and let my voice
be heard, id just sit there with no one talking to me feeling stupid,
so i just take my lo to soft play/the park/swimming ect myself. x

 

[Sarahwoo]

That sounds like an awful group!!! What nasty women!!!

Don't let it put you off though honey, do you have anywhere that does baby massage or something? I found that really good when I first started - because its not just about chatting if you know what I mean?

 

[chazzette]

sorry to hear that some people just dont use thier brains! I have found that the majority of baby groups are freindly and welcoming but unfortuantly a small handful are full of 'clicky' mums that dont appriciate new people.
Fingers crossed your next baby group/weighing goes better x

 

[pixydust]

Our local baby group is like this! I still go and still say hi i'm only just now starting to get a few "hello's" back now after going 5 or 6 times!

 

[binxyboo]

I used to go to a 'stay and play' to get Daniel weighed.
It was full of people like you described and ran by 2 HV's that were frankly, so ill-informed, I didn't trust their advice.

I now take him to my Drs Surgery. They have a childrens clinic on a monday afternoon for weigh ins and vaccinations.
The HV there is lovely.

 

[Kimmy25]

emmi was his dino gro from next??

 

[emmi26]

thanks, my drs dont do baby weighing anymore baby jabs are just booked with the nurse. wish they did. my hv is useless im trying to get her changed shes lovely but she knows nothing ! the first sure start centre i went too was awful, however my friend says the one at the other end of town is much nicer, baby massage sounds great i'd love to try that !
youve made me feel better though least i know its not just me !
thanks xxx

 

[emmi26]

kimmy25 - yes thats the one i thought they looked nice for daywear !!!

 

[mumtobeplus1]

Dont worry i still dress my lo in sleepsuits most days, just because hes
asleep more often than not and i think they are more comfortable for him.
Also he has reflux, so from a washing point of view, one sleepsuit
and one vest, verses vest, top, trousers, cardi/jacket, socks ect...Think ill
take the suit! lol

 

[LesleyP]

I haven't taken LO to any baby groups, and to be honest I don't think I will - I've only ever heard negative feedback about them, and not to mention I class myself as quite 'alternative' which naturally makes it hard for me to fit in anyway. I'm quite shy so don't think I'd ever make the first move and speak to someone.

I'll just stick with taking LO out to the park / walks / soft play etc...

 

[emmi26]

harrys a dribbler everything is wet so i end up changing his suit and vest lots. like you saves washing and hes only 4 months so i think he looks cute, he has some little trousers and t shirts ready for summer.

 

[mumtobeplus1]

Exactly, whats the rush to make them look like mini adults?
Do whatever your comfortable with hun, dont listen to others. x

 

[Harveysmum369]

Please don't let that one group put you off...most of these groups are lovely.xx

 

[Kimmy25]

I love his dino gro infact hes wearing it now..its freakin lush \/ to the snotty mammys!

 

[jakey1]

I know exactly how you feel hun. We used to go to a baby and toddler group and I was always made to feel so uncomfotable by some of the other mums there who had been going there for ages and knew everyone. So I stopped going but felt really bad because I wanted the twins to mix with other kids. Then I met another twin mummy while I was shopping in Sainsbury's and she was in a similar situation to me. So we decided to meet up and go to the Family Centre together, which was a completely different experience. It is so much more laid back and you can come and go as you please as it's open from 9am-3pm. So we took the kids there in the morning, then went for a walk and had lunch at a cafe, then went back in the afternoon for storytime. I'm so glad I went and will be going there all the time now. Some baby groups are awful, and very clicky with mums who like to make you feel inadequate but look out for other groups in your area as they're not all like that

 

[littleD]

I know how you feel chick, i had an almost identical experience at mine when i took lo to get weighed, got stared at by everyone and one woman found it funny to tell me the wrong information about how to get him weighed so i had to wait an hour too. Have never felt so humiliated but thing is lo loved looking at all the other babies so i feel bad depriving him of that. I take him out every day for walks, shopping etc but just dont want him to miss out on the socialising with other babies bit but i really cant go back there xx

 

[Scally]

What i dont get about these weigh and stay places is why would u put the baby in a full outfit when u have to strip them off and get them dressed again? surely its better to be wearing something easy? i very rarely got izzy weighed as the hall they do it in was so cold, but when i did she was always in a sleepsuit x

 

[Lena]

Sorry to hear this hun. Ive been to a few like that. I also have that dino babygro from next. Its lovely. My LO is 9 months old and unless its a special occasion or we're going out to eat, he wears babygro's. I would've said back 'I dont understand why people feel the need to dress their babies like adults'. When your a baby its the only time you can get away with going to tesco in your pj's. Let them be comfy.

 

[Cookie1979]

Ah what a bunch of cows!!! I dont think I'd be brave enough to go to a baby group on my own cos I'd expect the same. And how dare she comment on his outfit, if I could get away with putting Addison in cutesy stuff to go out in I would, but it just doesnt suit him, probably cos he's the size of a 6 month old.

Sorry you had a bad experience with it, its not nice when people dont make you welcome.