Seriously, oldermom1975? Your RE refused to see you bc if your age??? You're 38, not 58. I didn't think it was even an option for a dr to refuse treatment. My lord. How rude and unprofessional. It's not like you showed up high on crack and said, "get me pregnant." That's downright ageist. I was 35 throughout most of my pregnancy and despite having some issues that in my opinion far outweigh age in importance, my age was my first risk factor written on every sonogram requisition, lab form etc. It got to the point where I almost wanted to beat them to the punch and say, "yeah, yeah, I'm ancient. Deal."
I certainly wasn't ready to be a mother in my 20s. I would have ended up resenting my child and that's never pretty. Bringing a human being into this world and caring for and shaping them is a monumental responsibility. I wasn't sure I was up to task at 36! It is extremely humbling.
Ahnshi, you want some hope? I'll give you hope! As I said before, I got pregnant my first try of my first cycle TTC and I know a lot of people who have had babies after 35. My sisters-in-law had theirs at 37 and 39 and I have met several women in the past year who had their first babies at 40, 41 and 42. I don't know them well enough to ask whether they'd been TTC for long but I know they didn't have IVF. Actually, the people I know who have had trouble getting pregnant were under 30. Take that, doctors!
It's funny, people's attitudes about having babies 35+. Here we are, mid- to late-thirties, freaking out about being too old to get pregnant, yet (in my experience at least) it seems like a lot of women who are 40+ are a lot more relaxed about it. I met a new mum recently who said if she was going to have another child she would have to soon because she's 41. She then corrected herself and said "well, not RIGHT away, but I couldn't wait YEARS." It kind of gave me perspective, since I'm already freaking out every cycle I don't get a BFP (and I'm only on my third cycle of TTC). Perhaps my fifth decade will bring more patience?!
I certainly wasn't ready to be a mother in my 20s. I would have ended up resenting my child and that's never pretty. Bringing a human being into this world and caring for and shaping them is a monumental responsibility. I wasn't sure I was up to task at 36! It is extremely humbling.
Ahnshi, you want some hope? I'll give you hope! As I said before, I got pregnant my first try of my first cycle TTC and I know a lot of people who have had babies after 35. My sisters-in-law had theirs at 37 and 39 and I have met several women in the past year who had their first babies at 40, 41 and 42. I don't know them well enough to ask whether they'd been TTC for long but I know they didn't have IVF. Actually, the people I know who have had trouble getting pregnant were under 30. Take that, doctors!
It's funny, people's attitudes about having babies 35+. Here we are, mid- to late-thirties, freaking out about being too old to get pregnant, yet (in my experience at least) it seems like a lot of women who are 40+ are a lot more relaxed about it. I met a new mum recently who said if she was going to have another child she would have to soon because she's 41. She then corrected herself and said "well, not RIGHT away, but I couldn't wait YEARS." It kind of gave me perspective, since I'm already freaking out every cycle I don't get a BFP (and I'm only on my third cycle of TTC). Perhaps my fifth decade will bring more patience?!
Hoping to see some BFPs from this thread. GL everyone! 
It's good to know that I'm not alone, though. Thank you for posting your stories. 
