Need Advice Girls..

[ella170]

You also say "someone is making assumptions about u when they dont even know u"isnt that why we are here cuz people make assumptions about a 16 TTC

find me the comment in this thread where i've been making assumptions about a 16 yr old TTC

 

[sao]

i bet before getting pregnant u used to sit at home all day thinking about "the thousands of people who call teen mothers cheap whores and try and force us to do things like get rid of our babies" i dont think u read it properly because i said before i got pregnant. yh ive been called a slag for being pregnant, but i just laughed about it because what so slutty about a 17 yr old having sex with her bf who shes been with for 6 months? if u wanna get uptight about it, thats up to u. by the way ur goin on, u aint mature enough either

no i didnt sit at home thinking about it alday but living in the real world being a teen and having female friends the topic popped up a few times and having a brain i had a view on it i didnt sit there like a mug saying "oh it will never happen to me" i knew my thoughts on so call me immature if you like dear but i made a valid point that this topic is always debated how can anyone with sense say it isnt something people can agree or disagree on it just happens....

 

[sao]

ella i said PEOPLE not YOU re-read it dear

 

[ella170]

no because its different in everyones case. i dont know what to think cos if i see a girl with a baby, i dont know how it came about. its called not judging, not getting involved and letting people get on with their life

 

[nikky0907]

How can I agree or disagree with unplanned pregnancy?

Someone says : 'Oh a 16 year old got pregnant accidentally'' and I should say : 'Yeah,I disagree with that''.

You can't agree on something that already happened...

And yes Ella,exactly.I have nothing to agree or disagree on what happens to a girl in her life.

 

[ella170]

ok .. i dont know what making assumptions about a 16 yr old TTC has got to do with someone assuming that a teen didnt use contraception :s ???

 

[sao]

god ella i don't even know how u came into this i was replying to a comment nicky made about my question and you feel it ok to brand me as immature rofl this is simply because i felt it was UNFAIR that SOMEpeople (no not you ella b4 you moan again) were judging the poor girl who started this thread without knowing her...and you just said yourself if you say a teen with a baby you wouldn't judge so why is it such a big problem if i voice my feelings that its unfair?

the only problem with you i have is your comment on abusive partners as my family has be thru the same thing my dads a monster and its not something you can use to insult people.

 

[nikky0907]

god ella i don't even know how u came into this i was replying to a comment nicky made about my question and you feel it ok to brand me as immature rofl this is simple because i felt it was UNFAIR that SOMEpeople (no not you ella b4 you moan again) were judging the poor girl who started this thread without knowing her...and you just said yourself if you say a teen with a baby you wouldn't judge so why is it sure a big problem if i voice my feelings that its unfair?

the only problem with you i have is your comment on abusive partners as my family has be thru the same thing my dads a monster and its not something you can use to insult people.

She wasn't insulting you.She made a comparison with the comment Darkheaven made about me.An insulting comment to me.
Don't take everything personally...

And I don't judge this girl(I try not to) but this forum is a place where we can state our opinions.
And not just ttc and pregnancy related.I won't tell her the best way to get pregnant.
I'll try to voice my opinion so she thinkes twice about it because I really want to give her an advice for her well being...

 

[ella170]

if u re-read that comment i wrote, it was an example, i wasnt specificially aiming it at her. she said some details about herself as a young mum, so i took that and showed what it would be like if someone was to make an assumption on that- doesnt mean i actually hold that opinion. i already said in an earlier comment about how we should give the girl advice and not start a massive debate on teens TTC. when i wrote that though, i wrote it passively and didnt start arguments with everyone who had 'judged' her

 

[sao]

And what im trying to say is what makes you think she needs to think twice look i dont wana fight for god sake but people don't post things like TTC at 16 if is a thought that will change just cuz you "give her advice" altho your 1st comment wasnt advice at all nicky if it was friendly advice i wouldnt have a problem with it i just feel that lately so many people are giving teens a hard time ive seen it in many different posts.....
and i didn't take it to heart i simply said if she knew anything about the situation of abuse she wouldnt use it to compare like that....

 

[vickilouise]

I'm torn on this subject,
there are very obvious reasons why planning a baby as a teen would be seen as silly or mad. but then if anyone of any age was to decide to ttc without a place to live, a job etc i'd see it as being barking mad age doesnt come into it.
Even now at the age of 22 friends/family pass comment on what ill be missing out on in life... holidays, nights out etc but the way i see it they personally dont think they could cope so they assume i wont (if you get what i mean). whereas Ive already been a parent to my little brother and I still am in some respects. I dont feel like I have missed out ive still been able to enjoy my life even if i did have my little brother to think of.

 

[ella170]

And what im trying to say is what makes you think she needs to think twice look i dont wana fight for god sake but people don't post things like TTC at 16 if is a thought that will change just cuz you "give her advice" altho your 1st comment wasnt advice at all nicky if it was friendly advice i wouldnt have a problem with it i just feel that lately so many people are giving teens a hard time ive seen it in many different posts.....
and i didn't take it to heart i simply said if she knew anything about the situation of abuse she wouldnt use it to compare like that....

what makes u think i dont know about the situation of abuse? (assumptions)
i wasnt even thinking about abuse when i posted that comment, because it was JUST AN EXAMPLE.
but fair enough, if someone wants a baby at any age, i doubt people on a forum are going to change their mind, but nikky was still trying to be helpful..

 

[nikky0907]

And what im trying to say is what makes you think she needs to think twice look i dont wana fight for god sake but people don't post things like TTC at 16 if is a thought that will change just cuz you "give her advice" altho your 1st comment wasnt advice at all nicky.

16 year old sometomes don't think things over.
I wouldn't be sure she actually thought about it.

And my first post maybe wasn't a comment but I posted an advice and it was friendly.I don't judge the girl or think less of her.
I don't think less on anyone on this forum and I keep my posts strictly friendly and nice.

 

[Vickie]

Nothing wrong with opinions, forums will always bring questions - as long as they are friendly opinions not racist, aggressive, abusive its perfectly healthy. Just can't keep eyes shut that it doesn't happen.


Play nice girls x

I haven't made it through the entire thread yet but from what I have seen we all need to be reminded of what Wobbs said on page 3...back to reading now

 

[sao]

lol ella if you knew about how painful abusive families where you wouldnt of even used it to comment on weather dark was being harsh or not. if you were making an informed comment on it you'd of not even mentioned it cuz hello its not the done thing in any situation in ANY context at all

 

[sao]

But you are assuming you know this girl thats what i think is unfair you dont know her shes not asking about weather she should TTC or not so why not keep your opinions to yourself shes asking about testing!! hello making un needed comment i think

 

[ella170]

lol ella if you knew about how painful abusive families where you wouldnt of even used it to comment on weather dark was being harsh or not. if you were making an informed comment on it you'd of not even mentioned it cuz hello its not the done thing in any situation in ANY context at all

i had nothing else to make an assumption from. i really dont think u understand and do i need to say this again that it was JUST AN EXAMPLE.

 

[vickilouise]

she came on here to ask advice regarding whether she should be testing or not. as she's been ttc for 4 months, as her post says.
so obviously she has made her mind up regarding wether she should ttc or not.
i noticed at the end of her post it didn't say
FEEL FREE TO JUDGE OR MAKE ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT ME MY LIFE AND MY SITUATION.
she asked for advice and got abuse.
how can anyone pass comment on what somebody else thinks... if a couple of no matter what age feel emotionally and financialy ready to bring a child into the world who are we to judge especially when no further details are known, we dont know what situation she's in bloody hell she could be in a better financial position than others on here.

so in answer to ashieb92's question
I think you should wait until you're late for your period and test then, I tested early and got a negative then a week later a positive so save your money till your late hun.

 

[sao]

look ffs ella I KNOW IT WAS AN EXAMPLE!!! ok? we get this yes as im not going to post it again.....BUT it was an extremely bad one that should not have been said its like comparing stealing a puppy to murder and thinking its ok so b4 u tell me im in the wrong again READ WHAT I'M SAYING
thank you

 

[ella170]

*yawn* i didnt compare the two.
like darkheaven said, it wasn't hurtful to her. however, the comment she made to amy WAS hurtful to amy.