Thank you for this post Alisou
You helped me to see the other positive side of this "tragic" situation that made me so angry and rage all day! lol (ugh now I can laugh a little).
I hear you about your DH -- I read the blog post -- I would feel the same too. I think most women want to be in charge of things especially when it comes to their own bodies and what they want to be able to do, or think they should be able to do (i.e. make a baby!!) and if it's not working, they want to try everything out there to fix it on their own BEFORE consulting anyone. That is basically a last resort and we don't even want to think about it before it's time (when we're ready). It doesn't mean we've given up by any means, just that we've realized we need some help. It's too bad we can't get our men to visualize and understand this point of view, but I think they just see a problem and look for the simplest solution with the least amount of effort/obstacles. It's like they're taking the cop-out way and this is something that requires more contemplation and planning before making any decisions....I dunno if I'm making sense, but I think that's what's going on with our men haha! And it's not like we can really ask 'cause we won't get a straight answer, or one that makes sense to us!
Hmm I never thought about the pelvic scan that way -- that they can't see much unless it's really obvious. OK now I don't feel as bad about forgetting the requisition today
This new doctor I had seems to want to put more effort into finding an answer to my infertility because my previous doctor just wanted to do the bare minimum, probably 'cause she was stretching herself thin taking on many endeavours and LOTS of patients...but you're right -- most of the time I come to the doctor with all the research on my condition and then they have to make copies and such (my old doc took copies of my charts because she hadn't seen anything like that since med school!)
You're right about spending time on myself. Whenever we are successful at making a baby, and he/she is born, we won't have nearly this much time to do our own thing. We'll be looking back and wishing we hadn't taken it for granted
I don't know if I mentioned, but I also gave my two weeks' notice at my job (that was stressing me out, very unprofessional, disorganized,etc.) and now I'm officially free and clear of that place. So that will be a nice reduction in stress -- besides, it wasn't the job I should be having while TTC (trans fat donuts, caffeine, long periods of standing, chemicals, etc.) so it's a good thing.
Another reason why I was so upset about missing this pelvic scan and taking longer to get results was because my DH is being stationed out of the country in a few months (I'm going too) where we will have to pay for all our health care that isn't covered by the military plan (i.e. fertility treatments/specialists) so I wanted to get all that done and out of the way before we left. We'll see I guess. I'm trying not to take this as a sign...
Thanks again alisou
I'm really glad you're on this site!