ok so this is going to be a huge post!!! sorry!!!
I have been researching after yesterday and i found this, hope it is useful for some of us.....
First and foremost you both should be taking a good multivitamin to be sure you get sufficient amounts of nutrients for reproductive health.
Vitamins such as zinc, vitamin E and the amino acids arginine and taurine are good for males.
For a woman, you should be taking a prenatal vitamin (the kind you get in the grocery/drug store are fine), these contain the folic acid and vitamins B, C, and E that you need.
Vitamins for men and women
Folic Acid: for women,this vitamin can promote healthy cell growth and help prevent abnormalities in the fetus.
Vitamin C: for both men and women, this vitamin
Zinc: Semen contains high concentrations of zinc. If you can add 30-60 mg zinc a day, you may be able to improve sperm count. A good source of zinc is pumpkin seeds, rich in two other nutrients beneficial to male sexual functioning: the plant steroid beta-sitosterol (which binds to the testosterone receptor) and vitamin E.
Vitamin E: The "anti-sterility" vitamin, it is crucial to proper reproductive function in both men and women. Recommended dosages range from 400-800IU a day.
Amino acids: Arginine has been shown to raise sperm counts and sperm motility. The recommended dosage is 2-4 g a day. Taurine, another amino acid that may enhance sperm production and motility, is supplemented at 2-4 g a day. (from herbal remedies)
After a man adopts a healthy diet supplemented with the above nutrients, he should have his sperm count rechecked in three to six months. For a woman these vitamins simply help maintain a healthy lifestyle and increase the likelihood of carrying a healthy baby to term (as well as conceiving). Many vitamins and herbal remedies take at least 3 months to notice a change.
Fertility
The first place to start is at the beginning. Below are some things that will help to improve your fertility when the decision is made to go from a couple to a family.
First, you need to check with a physician to determine where and if the infertility problem exists. Many things can affect fertility for both the man and the woman. It is never anyone person's "fault". You are a team and need to support each other. There are so many easy solutions to the most common problems, for example if sperm count is low, a quick solution is to wear boxers instead of briefs or simply limit very hot showers. Sperm needs to be cooler than the body temperature to form properly. Uterine fibroids, endometriosis, ovarian cysts, stress, age - all have a factor in fertility for women, and these situations need to be addressed before embarking on any treatment for fertility. Once you know what the problem is, you can start finding your solution.
Your life is a direct reflection of what is going on in your body, both male and female. Take stock and change what you should to aid in overcoming the infertility.
Herbs That Can Restore Fertility
Here is a list of herbs (some are often recommended by herbalists) to help restore fertility and to promote healthy reproductive systems.
BLACK COHOSH (Cimicifuga racemosa) Antispasmodic, used for menstrual cramping, relieves hot flashes in menopausal women;mild sedative.
BLACK HAW (Viburnum prunifolium) For menstrual cramping, prevents miscarriage and excessive flow at menopause.
BLESSED THISTLE (Cuicus bcncdictus) Increases lactation.
BLUE COHOSH (Caulophyllum thalictroides) Uterine tonic, for use in last trimester only.
CAYENNE (Capsicum frutescens) Equalizes circulation; for cold hands and feet; strengthens heart; stimulant.
CHASTE TREE BERRY (Vitex agnus-castus)- Stimulates and normalizes pituitary function of the release of luteinizing hormone (LH) from the pituitary gland in the brain and promotes ovulation. For PMS, menstrual cramps, menopause, post birth control pill rebalancing. May restore normal periods in women with amenorrhea (lack of menstrual periods).
CHAMOMILE (Matricaria chamomilla) Sedative, calms nerves and muscles. Great for relaxing before bed.
CRAMP BARK (Vlburnum opulus) Relaxes muscle tension and spasms, ovarian pain and uterine cramps. Used to prevent threatened miscarriage.
DONG QUAI (Angelica sinensis) Female hormone regulator, alleviates cramping and pre-menstrual distress. Dong quai can tone a weak uterus by promoting metabolism within the organ, regulating hormonal
control and improving the rhythm of the menstrual cycle.
ECHINACEA (Echinacea angustifolia) Powerful immune stimulant; antiseptic; anti microbial; anti-viral; used for sore throats, flu, colds, infections, allergies.
FALSE UNICORN (Chamaclirium luteum) Reproductive tonic, used for delayed menses, leukorrhea, ovarian pain, female infertility, male impotence. Contains estrogen precursors. Helps prevent threatened miscarriage.
GINGER (Asarum canadense) Used for nausea.
GINSENG (Panax quinquefolium) Adaptogenic, decreases the effect of stress. Increases capillary circulation in
brain; reproductive tonic
LICORICE (Glycyrrhiza glabra) Specific for adrenal gland insufficiency. This plant contains hormonally active compounds categorized as saponins. A Japanese study found licorice-based medicines improved menstruation in women with infrequent periods. The study also found that licorice helped women with elevated testosterone and low estrogen levels, as commonly occurs in polycystic ovary disease.
MOTHERWORT (Leonurus cardiaca) Sedative, useful in transition labor. Eases false labor pains. Emmenagogue; antispasmodic; cardiac tonic; reduces tension and anxiety.
NETTLES (Urtica diocia) Nutritive herb, specific for childhood and nervous eczema. Rich in iron, silica
and potassium.
PASSIONFLOWER (Passiflora incarnata) Sedative, hypnotic, antispasmodic, anodyne. Relieves nerve pain, promotes restful sleep. Has been used for seizures and hysteria.
RED CLOVER (Trifolium pratense) Blood cleanser; nutritive; analysis shows that the herb is rich in coumestans and isoflavones, estrogenlike compounds that may promote fertility, particularly in women who are deficient in estrogen.
RED RASPBERRY (Rhubus idaeus) Pregnancy herb; nutritive; relieves nausea. Uterine tonic, eases painful menses.
SAW PALMETTO (Serenos repens) Tones and strengthens male reproductive system, used for prostate enlargement and infection; enhances endurance. Female fertility aid; galactagogue.
SIBERIAN GINSENG (Eleutherococcus senticosus): This and other tonic botanicals can improve fertility by enhancing overall health and vitality. Siberian ginseng also acts on the brain to promote regulation of reproductive hormones.
SQUAW VINE (Mitchella repens) Uterine tonic; promotes easy labor, eases menstrual cramping, mild nervine,
improves digestion.
UVA URSI (Arcostaphylos uva-ursi) Urinary antiseptic; anti-microbial; for cystitas, urethritis, prostatis, nephritas. Antilithic, used for kidney and bladder stones.
VALERIAN (Valeriana officinalis) Powerful nervine, used for tension, anxiety, insomnia, emotional stress, intestinal colic, menstrual cramps, migraine headache and rheumatic pain.
WILD YAM (Dioscorea spp.) Antispasmodic; For painful menses, ovarian and uterine pain.
I wanted to share this as most of them i have not heard of before and we have the lovely Betheney to help us with the ones she posted yesterday 
to all!!
but will other people have access to it to make changes? I hope not
got me today 
(having loads of PMA!)
. . If anyone is willing to give me step by step advice great if not then no worries. Glad you liked my get it up comment - I was innocent in posting - there was no pun intended! he he
keep smiling and welcome
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