No heartbeat...d&e tomorrow.

[scentsygirl]

Hi ladies.

Well, I had a tubal surgery last July after my 2nd daughter was born. I wasn't supposed to be able to get pregnant in the first place. I just found out last Thursday that all of those symptoms WERE pregnancy symptoms after all. Today I had an ultrasound and they couldn't find a heartbeat. They estimated the baby was three months old, but stopped growing at two months.

So now the question is... do we try for a third child after we (I) made a conscious decision NOT to be able to have any more children when I got my tubal? Or is the fact that my tube(s) re-attached even after a section was cut out a "sign" that I am meant to have another baby?

My husband was SO excited about the idea of having a third child (our daughters are 23 months and 10 months old).

I should also mention I am 40 years ago... and seem to get pregnant just from DH breathing on me.

I'd love to hear your thoughts and I'm feeling really "fuzzy" right now.

 

[kosh]

really sorry you're going through this

it's a very personal decision, but since you asked, i think if i were you i'd be perfectly happy with my 2 children and would not try again.

can i ask you - why did you get a tubal? was it a 100% shared decision?

good luck with whatever you decide!

 

[scentsygirl]

I had a rough 2nd pregnancy (passed large kidney stone at 7 months), so that was a big factor in my tubal decision. That, and my age, I'm 40...and the risks that come along with it.

 

[kosh]

i understand. i'm 40 too and pregnant with #1, but convinced i am going through my 2nd MMC. that's why i said if i were in your position i would not try again.

hope all goes well tomorrow

 

[scentsygirl]

Thanks. Sitting in the waiting room about to go into surgery. This sucks.

 

[kosh]

aww, i'm really sorry. i've been there myself. hope it all goes well and quickly and you can start recovering/healing soon.
send you a big

 

[hollyw79]

I'm really sorry that you're going through that.. been there myself... and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I hope you start feeling better soon my dear!