no sex drive

[winegums]

this may sound really strange and me and oh have a longgg story with this wtt/ttc business! but anyway
we ttc for nearly 2 years and had our baby boy last year. he is a year old now and we decided to ttc april. last month i wanted to start a month early.
he freaked out and said he wanted to wait a few YEARS.
i think then he felt sorry for me because he saw i was sad and we tried to BD but he ended up pulling out at the last minute or saying he felt sick and couldn't do it. so i guessed he didn't really want to and put and end to the ttc!
ever since (i know its only been a couple of weeks but we used to do it 3 maybe 4 times a week) i can't bear the thought of sex!
thinking of all that wasted sperm that isn't inside me making babies just makes me want to cry
i have to go now i don't want to sound crazy but yeh! there it is!
xxx

 

[lindseypie]

oh hun i'm sorry. back before my OH and i decided to start ttc, we had a really healthy sex life, but as we started discussing children in the future, i got more and more baby crazy and i didnt feel like having sex knowing that he didnt want to start trying yet.. the thought of using condoms made me sick. when we would have sex i would cry sometimes.. it was so depressing, but he just wasn't ready yet, so i did my best to hide it from him because i knew it would just make him feel rushed.. eventually he decided we should start ttc, which was after the baby craziness started to fade from my system.

you're not alone, try not to worry about it too much, just let him have some time to come around. i'm sure he'll change his mind sooner than you think.

 

[Amygdala]

Sorry, no advice as I haven't been in your situation. Just wanted to say though that what you say sounds perfectly understandable and I'd probably feel the same.

 

[mossip]

I no exactly how u feel. Oh put a stop to ttc in jan and i can't bare sex. I just keep thinkin wots the point wen im oot gonna get wot i want. I no its bad that i feel like that but i have a lot of problems and cant conceive naturaly. He thinks its gonna happen straight away but really its gonna b at least 2 years =( hope your ok xxx