MemmaJ
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I'm 10 weeks today and my last baby only turned 1 a couple of weeks ago.
I also have older twins, so this is my third pregnancy/4th child.
This pregnancy wasn't planned and it took me a long time to even get my head around the fact I was pregnant. We had planned to try again in spring/summer next year when LO was a bit older and we were in a better position for it. So when I got a surprise BFP, it wasn't the happy/excited feelings that I had felt last time (or wanted to feel this time). OH was very happy as he always wanted 2 close together, so didn't really get it...
I've been consumed with worry about how I'll cope with two so young, how we will afford it, do we have the space, etc.
On top of that I'm really suffering this time. I had fairly good pregnancies before but this time have been so nauseous and exhausted since 5 weeks and am now so sick of feeling ill. And with a 1 year old that doesn't sleep, I'm struggling to cope all round (at home and at work). I can't rest at home so it's just overwhelming.
OH is now fed up with me being ill all the time, thinks I'm not 'helping myself' because I'm still going to work when he doesn't think I should be, and so doesn't even ask anything about the pregnancy etc.
It just feels like it's not happening.
We had a private early scan at 7+5 which I thought would help me feel something, but because it didn't look like a baby (just a blob!), it hasn't helped me 'bond' or feel more attached.
I'm also consumed with obsession about finding out the gender because I'd really like a girl after 3 boys, and feel so out of control because it wasn't planned so just feel it's going to be another boy. All I can think about right now is finding out and no other feelings exist.
I have my Nuchal scan in 3 weeks which might help, but it seems so far away.
I feel so guilty because I was the complete opposite last time with my planned pregnancy - everything was so exciting and amazing, so these feelings are really unsettling me
I also have older twins, so this is my third pregnancy/4th child.
This pregnancy wasn't planned and it took me a long time to even get my head around the fact I was pregnant. We had planned to try again in spring/summer next year when LO was a bit older and we were in a better position for it. So when I got a surprise BFP, it wasn't the happy/excited feelings that I had felt last time (or wanted to feel this time). OH was very happy as he always wanted 2 close together, so didn't really get it...
I've been consumed with worry about how I'll cope with two so young, how we will afford it, do we have the space, etc.
On top of that I'm really suffering this time. I had fairly good pregnancies before but this time have been so nauseous and exhausted since 5 weeks and am now so sick of feeling ill. And with a 1 year old that doesn't sleep, I'm struggling to cope all round (at home and at work). I can't rest at home so it's just overwhelming.
OH is now fed up with me being ill all the time, thinks I'm not 'helping myself' because I'm still going to work when he doesn't think I should be, and so doesn't even ask anything about the pregnancy etc.
It just feels like it's not happening.
We had a private early scan at 7+5 which I thought would help me feel something, but because it didn't look like a baby (just a blob!), it hasn't helped me 'bond' or feel more attached.
I'm also consumed with obsession about finding out the gender because I'd really like a girl after 3 boys, and feel so out of control because it wasn't planned so just feel it's going to be another boy. All I can think about right now is finding out and no other feelings exist.
I have my Nuchal scan in 3 weeks which might help, but it seems so far away.
I feel so guilty because I was the complete opposite last time with my planned pregnancy - everything was so exciting and amazing, so these feelings are really unsettling me