NOT getting Maternity Grant PANIC

[MummyMEE]

Thanks - adoption an option too

 

[hulahoop09]

My son was unplanned, but my Oh worked hard and put in loads of overtime and we where allowed these grants so we used them at the time

This little lady was planned and although we are not in the best place, we have got everything we need with no help..

I think it would proberly be best if they did scrap these grants all together or if they where for certain places i.e Mothercare/kiddicare vouchers.. Or you had to order with a username and password though a Govt website to make sure people are using the money on baby things.. Or you know a bit like when you get a grant for furniture I believe you go to a special council shop witch has cheap second hand stuff for the people getting the grant vouchers?

thats a fab idea re the vouchers instead of cash! My half sisters bf used their babys maternity grant to buy himself a weights bench and weights etc!

Re the crisis loan i dont think you have to pay those back i.think budgeting loan they take a tiny amount per wk out of your benefit.

Xx

 

[hulahoop09]

either way why should someone who hasnt intentionally got pregnant have to give there baby up for adoption,surely we have got passed this is society!

i was 16 i was on injection pill and using condoms i got pregnant!

i miscarried at 9 weeks,this is why i wouldnt judge! it could have been me and my situation you are reffering too.

im 23 and dh 27 marrried full time job we earn alot of money have our own house and are very well off.i count myself lucky to be where i am today.anyone of us it could have been different.


p.s some of u women are a lil sick!

I can understand you are miffed by comments made by previous poster but calling people sick is just gonna send things spiralling even more out of control hun.

Prob best if mods close this thread as is gonna get nasty.

 

[babyhopes2010]

iv already asked for it to be closed.saying people should not proceed with pregnancy or give up there child because there on benefits! thats sick!

if my mum and dad never worked and got pregnant is my life worht any less.i wont apoligise for my comment!

 

[Leopard]

either way why should someone who hasnt intentionally got pregnant have to give there baby up for adoption,surely we have got passed this is society!

i was 16 i was on injection pill and using condoms i got pregnant!

i miscarried at 9 weeks,this is why i wouldnt judge! it could have been me and my situation you are reffering too.

im 23 and dh 27 marrried full time job we earn alot of money have our own house and are very well off.i count myself lucky to be where i am today.anyone of us it could have been different.


p.s some of u women are a lil sick!

She isn't saying that unintentional pregnancy,, she is saying unable to take care of a baby. I was 16 and 11wks when I lost my angel, so that part I understand, now as much as it hurt me to have lost her and I would have given her the best I could, in a way she is better off, I was homeless, very very sick and had no money. As much as I miss her and love her, I think sometimes it may have been for the best.

Now I'm with OH, we have our own house, stable income, I'm going to be a SAHM because someone has to do the house work and now I am stale enough to support my child, but I think some people (and I have met a few in my area) should take time to organise things for LO, that's why I believe more in foster caring than adoption, through foster you still get to see LO and eventually, if you sort your situation out, get LO back.

 

[hulahoop09]

Good. Im not asking for you to apologise just think this is gonna get nasty. Ill report also. Xx

 

[MummyMEE]

I am sorry I was under the impression this was a forum - a place to give your opinions?
I just think its selfish to bring a child into the world if you can't provide for it.

 

[babyhopes2010]

well i know people kids that parents are on benefits and they have happier children then some of these fulltime working parents.money has lil to do with it.

love is free!

in this country no one is without money which im very proud of even tho its hurts my pocket with all the tax we pay.

i have a brother who has 3 kids never worked and wants more yes i get people being fustrated.he intentionally has more kids.

uv bundled everyone up on that are on benefits and tar'd them with the samebrush.
i think u need to read back on some threads uv posted,prehaps ull realise how it come across.plus abortion isnt to be mentioned on bnb full stop!

In my opinion if you can't afford a baby you shouldn't have one, planned or unplanned.
If your circumstances change whilst pregnant then this cannot be helped - I think it is these people that should get government help, not people that have an "unplanned accident" - you wouldn't consider planning a baby if you couldn't afford one so why have an unplanned one?? Irresponsible....
Sorry if this offends but I think everyone is tiptoeing round this!

so ur saying if u have unplanned pregnancy and get pregnant! u shouldnt have the child.what are u implying?

If you can't afford it you shouldn't have a baby full stop.
I am pro life and pro choice - if you fall pregnant and the time is not right due to circumstances / finances etc then you should not proceed with the pregnancy but as in most cases there are mitigating circumstances.

Thanks - adoption an option too

 

[Leopard]

plus abortion isnt to be mentioned on bnb full stop!

Erm... Bit contradictory there

 

[babyhopes2010]

ok theres a private forum for that kinda topic.i was not the person that suggested it,hey ho im off to wash baby clothes as i cant be bothered wasting my time with this

 

[OmarsMum]

While BabyandBump tries to remain pro-choice on most subjects, out of respect for majority of our members that are either trying to conceive, or pregnant, we ask that you do not discuss topics on abortion and terminations outside of the 'Ethical Prenatal Losses' forum.

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