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[HCas]

My step dad will either be home tonight or tomorrow morning! She'll be out by tomorrow afternoon no matter what! I'm so excited because I started having ewcm and lots of it so I might actually hit a fertile time! It's also been a good day since Roger's dad and step mom came down to visit Ave-Marie.

And sooooo..... How's everything going? When do you get to test?

 

[KatO79]

My step dad will either be home tonight or tomorrow morning! She'll be out by tomorrow afternoon no matter what! I'm so excited because I started having ewcm and lots of it so I might actually hit a fertile time! It's also been a good day since Roger's dad and step mom came down to visit Ave-Marie.

And sooooo..... How's everything going? When do you get to test?

Yay, sounds great And great timing too by the sound of things I hope that the visit was a very positive experience for all 5 of you

I'm 11 dpiui and not sure, I'm not feeling so positive about things but we'll see. At least I'm having a few "symptoms" so at least I know I'm not totally out (I'd be feeling even more negative about things in that case). The RE that did my IUI said I could test on the 14th but I think I'll wait until I'm late by a couple of days so I don't waste a test

 

[HCas]

It was great. And they're staying til Friday so we'll be hanging out today (though Roger's at work) and tomorrow we all might go to a spring, minus Ave who will go with her Papaw for a few. Either the spring or local zoo since they have a butterfly garden right now. I also get to go do a maternity shoot for my little cousin today. She's finally got her rainbow baby and she wants to do progressions photos starting this month so it'll be fun ^^

Well I'm praying for you. I have full faith that soon you will be giving us that good news.

 

[KatO79]

It was great. And they're staying til Friday so we'll be hanging out today (though Roger's at work) and tomorrow we all might go to a spring, minus Ave who will go with her Papaw for a few. Either the spring or local zoo since they have a butterfly garden right now. I also get to go do a maternity shoot for my little cousin today. She's finally got her rainbow baby and she wants to do progressions photos starting this month so it'll be fun ^^

Well I'm praying for you. I have full faith that soon you will be giving us that good news.

Oh that sounds lovely with a butterfly garden, love butterflies! I often wear a butterfly necklace and I have a lots of t-shirts and tank tops with butterflies on them (plus a few butterfly earrings). Hope you have fun whatever you end up choosing to do

How great for your cousin! I hope the photo shoot goes well

Thank you, I've been praying for you as well Here's hoping we soon get to be bump buddies and the horrors of being a LTTTCer will be behind us

 

[KatO79]

So it's bad news, I'm cramping and starting to bleed red so it's AF So will be doing IUI #6 but thinking IUI is most likely not going to work and we'll need IVF. So frustrating we can't start until October

 

[HCas]

I'm sorry to here that. I hope things start looking up soon for you. It stinks you have to wait so long though. Are you going to try anything well waiting? Wouldn't it be a kicker if you got pregnant during the wait?

I'm with you though on being out. We only got to BD once this cycle so far and it doesn't look like it'll happen again til its way too late. My sister wound up having to stay longer and we have no idea where or when she can go. It also doesn't help that stress is extremely high right now. So I doubt this month will be anything more than a horrible waiting period.

 

[KatO79]

I'm sorry to here that. I hope things start looking up soon for you. It stinks you have to wait so long though. Are you going to try anything well waiting? Wouldn't it be a kicker if you got pregnant during the wait?

I'm with you though on being out. We only got to BD once this cycle so far and it doesn't look like it'll happen again til its way too late. My sister wound up having to stay longer and we have no idea where or when she can go. It also doesn't help that stress is extremely high right now. So I doubt this month will be anything more than a horrible waiting period.

Thanks HCas Yeah, I was really pissed for a few hours but am getting over it. Going to have some White wine tonight as my booby prize I wrote an email to the clinic but didn't get an answer - guess they don't answer emails outside their telephone hours so will call them early tomorrow morning. I'm thinking they'd first count tomorrow as CD1 anyway since it's first now (it's about 6 PM here) AF is becoming full flow. Nope, I think we'll be almost forgetting we're TTCing and see what happens those months so I guess we'll be NTNP. I'm usually extra BD interested around my fertile time so I can just attack DH whenever I'm feeling extra horny Actually trying for BD around my fertile time hasn't helped so can just as well try another strategy those 2-3 months, right It'll probably be good for our relationship to not think about it too much anymore so we're more positive for IVF. I highly doubt it'd happen but I guess it isn't impossible. My chances are probably about 3-4% at this stage according to length of trying and my age, but yeah, not impossible We'll see though if IUI #6 will be another disaster. I'm guessing DH will want to try not BDing those 4 days before Again since it increased his count by 10 million. Good thing I've stocked up on some "toys" since I was going out of my mind last time


Oh that stinks, I though she was moving out a few days ago What happened

 

[HCas]

My stepdad was going to take her in once hos roommate moved out but he isvstaying for at least another week. Which means he has no room. I tried convincing my mom to take her in but yhat ended with me finally telling her my feelings on growing up being second best and her crying soooooo yea. And my dad can't take her because he's already got a house full with my step mum and brother and a bunch of animals. She may have a place soon but it will still be a few days.

Also kinda worked out because that pain I've been in got 10x worse today and my back hurt so bad I was in tears and not even my strong meds could help. So she's going to help me with Ave-Marie as much as possible til I can see my dr again

 

[KatO79]

My stepdad was going to take her in once hos roommate moved out but he isvstaying for at least another week. Which means he has no room. I tried convincing my mom to take her in but yhat ended with me finally telling her my feelings on growing up being second best and her crying soooooo yea. And my dad can't take her because he's already got a house full with my step mum and brother and a bunch of animals. She may have a place soon but it will still be a few days.

Also kinda worked out because that pain I've been in got 10x worse today and my back hurt so bad I was in tears and not even my strong meds could help. So she's going to help me with Ave-Marie as much as possible til I can see my dr again

Wow, that really stinks that the roommate is staying another week. And sorry that you got into that conversation with your mom, I can imagine how that went Doesn't she have any friends she can bunk with for a few days?

Have you tried calling your GP, that doesn't sound good that it's gotten that much worse Maybe worst case you could go to the closest ER if it's that bad? That's what I'd do.

 

[HCas]

Her only friend doesn't have room in her home since it's only a two bedroom and 6 people already live there. Adding 3 more would just be elbow to elbow. She may have another place to go soon but she has to show potential to the person offering it. They are only wanting to help someone who is willing to help themselves. My dad is also going to try talking her into leaving the kids with me or another family member and just focus on herself right now, but that just kinda puts more responsibility on others.

As for my pain I have a doctor's app on Monday so I'm trying to make it til then. Luckily Ave-Marie is more active at night when Roger is home. Sadly though this means he gets barely any sleep before having to work a double since he takes care of her and me at the same time. And right now we live in an area where no one takes my insurance so each trip to the hospital is a two hour drive which when you're in pain car rides are not the best thing.

 

[KatO79]

Her only friend doesn't have room in her home since it's only a two bedroom and 6 people already live there. Adding 3 more would just be elbow to elbow. She may have another place to go soon but she has to show potential to the person offering it. They are only wanting to help someone who is willing to help themselves. My dad is also going to try talking her into leaving the kids with me or another family member and just focus on herself right now, but that just kinda puts more responsibility on others.

As for my pain I have a doctor's app on Monday so I'm trying to make it til then. Luckily Ave-Marie is more active at night when Roger is home. Sadly though this means he gets barely any sleep before having to work a double since he takes care of her and me at the same time. And right now we live in an area where no one takes my insurance so each trip to the hospital is a two hour drive which when you're in pain car rides are not the best thing.

Hi HCas, sorry I'm first getting back to you now. We had an appointment with the clinic yesterday for cyst check (no cysts) and then had to swing by my narcissist mother. When we got home, I made the mistake of checking Reddit RBN for a certain member's answer and it ended up her taking huge offense to the fact that very small children aren't invited to weddings in this country and she got into victim blaming, flaming and not assuming a context of abuse in what I wrote (BIG no no's on Reddit RBN) so I had a bad anxiety attack over her answer and couldn't function for the rest of the night I reported her to Reddit so hopefully she's been reprimanded, maybe even banned as she really went to far and was insulting and character assasinating me and totally not seeing how abusive my narcissist brother was being even though everyone else could see it.

Now back to you: I hope something can soon be figured out for your sister so she's not living with you. You don't need the extra stress with Ave-Marie and TTCing. I think it might be a good idea for her to leave the kids with someone as well until she's pulled herself together but she might not do it.

I hope your appointment went well and that your GP was able to to give you something to get rid of the pain. How did it go?

 

[HCas]

She should be leaving by Thursday.

Sorry about all the stress. Some people need a muzzle.

They don't know what's going on so he's sending me to a specialist. It should be interesting to see what happens.

 

[KatO79]

She should be leaving by Thursday.

Sorry about all the stress. Some people need a muzzle.

They don't know what's going on so he's sending me to a specialist. It should be interesting to see what happens.

OK, I hope that she does leave this time

Yeah, it was totally crazy how she was the only one I've encountered on that site that said my brother doesn't have NPD and went nuts over the fact DH and I didn't invite small children to our wedding (although it was both for the sake of the kids and parents). Her comments have been deleted but that's it. Don't get why the mod didn't ban her but nothing to be done

I hope you soon find out what's wrong Did he give you anything for the pain at least and when can you get in to see the specialist?

 

[HCas]

He wants me to be pain pill free for 10 days while I take a medicine for my stomach then I start and arthritis medicine to see if that helps. And hopefully soon. They should be calling me within 5 days otherwise I call them.

My doctor's really worried since he says I shouldn't be having these issues at 22. So he's going to be testing me like crazy until we know everything that's going on and how to fix it. During this time he says we should hold off on ttc. He's scared of me getting pregnant and not being able to do the treatment.

 

[KatO79]

He wants me to be pain pill free for 10 days while I take a medicine for my stomach then I start and arthritis medicine to see if that helps. And hopefully soon. They should be calling me within 5 days otherwise I call them.

My doctor's really worried since he says I shouldn't be having these issues at 22. So he's going to be testing me like crazy until we know everything that's going on and how to fix it. During this time he says we should hold off on ttc. He's scared of me getting pregnant and not being able to do the treatment.

Yeah that sounds very strange, I hope that it itsn't anything really bad and that they can help you. I can understand him thinking you should hold off on TTCing in the meantime, that's probably the wisest course of action. Hopefully you'll be able to soon start again

Sorry it took me so long to reply I'm attending all 3 days of the "Copenhell" festival (heavy metal/hard rock music) so haven't been much on the computer (it started yesterday and last day is tomorrow)

 

[HCas]

No problem. I hope you're having fun lol.

Welp she's still here. Her bio dad never came to pick her up and he didn't answer his phone at all the past 2 days. Roger is going to talk to our step dad in hopes he can take her for a little, but he's moving to another state soon so the chances are slim.If that doesn't work I think he's just going to kick her out. On top of all the medical things I'll be going through soon, my MIL is also going to be going through a lot for something to do with her bone marrow and because she's anemic. Neither one of us will be able to deal with my sister and her kids while going through all this and so Roger's putting his foot down.


Oh! So Ave-Marie's a month today and we're hopefully going to be getting a new camera to take her one month pictures! I'm so excited! (Would use my awesome one I already have but it mysteriously broke and there's no where close to get it fixed)

 

[KatO79]

No problem. I hope you're having fun lol.

Welp she's still here. Her bio dad never came to pick her up and he didn't answer his phone at all the past 2 days. Roger is going to talk to our step dad in hopes he can take her for a little, but he's moving to another state soon so the chances are slim.If that doesn't work I think he's just going to kick her out. On top of all the medical things I'll be going through soon, my MIL is also going to be going through a lot for something to do with her bone marrow and because she's anemic. Neither one of us will be able to deal with my sister and her kids while going through all this and so Roger's putting his foot down.


Oh! So Ave-Marie's a month today and we're hopefully going to be getting a new camera to take her one month pictures! I'm so excited! (Would use my awesome one I already have but it mysteriously broke and there's no where close to get it fixed)

Yep, it was the last day yesterday and the day was really good but ended bad: my front bike tire was flat so DH and I walked 2 hours to get home We tried waving down taxis but like 90% were taken and the 10% that weren't drove by because we had bikes and most taxis can't transport bikes home. Buses here don't take bikes either. So didn't get home until it was 3 AM

Sounds like her bio dad doesn't want the hassle and is leaving the problem in your hands which is crappy of him: he's the father and has more obligation to her. But it might be good for your sister to get the wake up call that she needs to take some responsibility for her life. It's just a pity all this is going over her kids, she really should give them up for a while until she's more stable. I hope you manage to get her out as you don't need her drama right now! What a mess

I'm looking forward to seeing those pics

 

[HCas]

https://yinanyangphotography.deviantart.com/art/Are-You-Dreaming-Daddy-540924431

That's my favorite of them all so I posted it on deviantart. I tried to upload the others but it says they are too large so I'm going to try and make them smaller somehow.

And she's gone! She left on Friday which was great.

And today we are some what celebrating Father's Day in between Roger working, though we will really celebrate tomorrow when he has off. I made him his favorite cupcakes, my niece and nephew painted him a picture and I made him a shirt with a triforce from his favorite game as well as a matching onsie for Ave-Marie.

 

[KatO79]

Awww so very cute That's a really great pic Hope you manage to make the others smaller. I'm almost hopeless with stuff like that myself, I always get DH to do things like that because he's so tech savvy, especially with computers. The only thing I can think of is if you can use the program "Paint" to make it smaller?

So great that you got her out of there I hope she's gone for good

I'm sure he'll love the cupcakes and all the gifts I hope you all have a great day Father's Day isn't really a thing in this country so it's not really celebrated. Although I've told DH we should've put a pic up of him and our cat since he's a furbaby daddy but he thinks I'm a bit silly Here's hoping we can really celebrate next year.

AFM I have my 2nd appointment to see how many follies and how big they are today. We BDed last night which may be our last session since DH wants to try the 3-4 day celibacy thing (if possible) to get his numbers up to the 50 million he had last time. We probably should've BDed Saturday night to be more sure but we got home so late that we were too exhausted, especially after the 2 hour walk home and we'd argued a bit on the way so weren't exactly in the BDing mood anyway

UPDATE: So went to my 2nd U/S and have 2 follies, one at 13 and one at 14 mm (one follie in each overy) So need to take Puregon a couple more days to get them up to the 17 mm they want. Will trigger Wednesday night and have my IUI #6 on Friday morning.

They didn't have any more Ovitrelle so got Pregnyl instead and have to mix up the fluid and powder myself but it seemed pretty simple. She said there's a video on their homepage if we need to see it again before doing it. But I'm a Lab Tech so shouldn't be too problematic

 

[KatO79]

Hope you're doing ok HCas, haven't heard from you

AFM I had my IUI done this morning. DH's count hit a personal record: 60 million (10 million more than last time) I have 2 follies (one in each ovary) and the nurse is almost 100% sure both follies will be released so here's hoping. If it's a bust, we're on forced break until October when we will first be able to start IVF at the hospital (we'll be NTNP in the meantime to load up mentally for IVF). DH will try calling them next week to schedule his SA (they want to do their own) and ask them if they can move us up if they get a cancellation (our nurse recommended us to do this). Here's hoping it won't be necessary but with my track record.......

So now starts the wait