~~~~November Sparkler 2010~~~~

[rowleypolie]

I hate to rant....but!!!

My sister in law (DH's brother's new wife) just made a webpage dedicated to the miscarriage she had in 2008 around DD's birthday. She decided recently that she should give the baby a name although she lost the baby really early on and didnt know the sex. Her page is dedicated to a baby girl named Cayla Marie (same last name). My daughter's name is Kayla Marie.... Can you believe it? I told her I didnt think that was appropriate as its the same name as my Kayla just spelled with a C and she said she doesnt care if shes hurt my feelings thats the baby's name. OMG some people! I am still in shock she would do that!

 

[Tadpoley]

Eek - that is very strange. Don't blame you for being upset at all. Hang in there!

Xx

 

[TySonNMe]

I agree...sounds kind of rude to me rowley.

 

[barasti]

wow, that is rude, disrespectful and creepy. What on earth possessed her to name her dead baby after your (very much alive) daughter?

Bizarre and really inappropriate. I hope you cane her for this.

 

[anna matronic]

Eurgh.. She sounds like a bit of a weirdo!

 

[Belle1610]

Hey,
im due on the 5th November xxx

 

[Eskimobabys]

very wired i'm sorry for her M/c but she should NOT have done that esp not knowing the sex!

 

[lolpants]

That is just soooo wrong!! You should try talking to her again - maybe she is a bit dim and just doesn't 'get' the link?? Have you spoken to the brother?
Lol xx

PS congrats and welcome Belle - I'm due the same day

 

[rowleypolie]

I havent spoke to her except through email. They live in Alaska and I am in Hawaii so its not like I can just stop by there to talk to her. Dh's brother isnt any help as he will agree with me to my face and then do the exact opposite. MIL intervened and asked her to at least respect my feelings and she said alright I understand and then sent me a nasty gram about how she is sorry to upset me but she wont change it and she wont take the webpage down....anyways I understand how hard it is to lose a baby as I had a miscarriage in Sept but I feel like this is verging on creepy because its like she is using my daughter as what hers would have been and so she gave her the same name. But she just found out she has PCOS and my brother-inlaw has severe diabetes which reduces the number of swimmers so she is beginning to think that may have been her only chance. (As they dont have the money to try IVF or even afford a specialist)

Rant over- nothing I can do....which brings to the question

If you had a friend or family member name their baby something you planned on naming yours...would you pick a different name or does it not matter???

 

[mommy2baby2]

What an odd woman Rowley. Sounds like she's very much jealous of the fact you have a beautiful baby and she feels she can't have one. Seriously, emotionally, she sounds like a sociopath and if her new husband (or anyone else in the fam) thinks doing that is "normal" then it's messed up. Sounds like most think she's in the wrong but as long as they offer support her toward the loss, they are supporting her naming her dead fetus after a very much alive cousin. You've handled it much better than I would have, I would have been pretty cruel if someone did that and named it after one of my daughters.

If someone used the name I had picked, I think I would still use it. Especially if that person was just a friend. Friendships are great but over time some can fade or go in different directions. Plus, what kind of friend flat out uses the name they knew you were planning on using? Undoubtedly, if her baby was born first she'd accuse YOU of stealing the name...

Within the family is a little harder. A couple of the names I'd like to use for a middle name have already been used by my cousin...They are amongst the more common middle names (Alexander) but I still feel like it's off limits, as much as I really want to use it. Hard decision.

What do you think? What would you do?

 

[rowleypolie]

I wanted to name a baby Addison when I was pregnant with DD but a cousin had her baby a few months before me and named hers Addison so it was off limits but I have been thinking of Taylor for a name and it happens to be my maid-of-honors (haha- we have been married almost 6 years now) last name- do you think that would be weird

 

[anna matronic]

I'm getting a bit panicky! I have had 2 missed calls one yesterday and one today one on my mobile and one on my home phone. Both time numbers were witheld. Noe I am worried it is the doctors or hospital re my bloods.

But surely they would leave a message????

 

[hinkybinky]

I'm getting a bit panicky! I have had 2 missed calls one yesterday and one today one on my mobile and one on my home phone. Both time numbers were witheld. Noe I am worried it is the doctors or hospital re my bloods.

But surely they would leave a message????

Try not to jump to conclusions. I was told that anything they needed to discuss about bloods would be done in the 16 week midwife appt. I would have thought they would leave a message if it was the hospital. My midwife left a message when she called me about my booking appt.

Hope it all turns out ok x

 

[anna matronic]

I'm getting a bit panicky! I have had 2 missed calls one yesterday and one today one on my mobile and one on my home phone. Both time numbers were witheld. Noe I am worried it is the doctors or hospital re my bloods.

But surely they would leave a message????

Try not to jump to conclusions. I was told that anything they needed to discuss about bloods would be done in the 16 week midwife appt. I would have thought they would leave a message if it was the hospital. My midwife left a message when she called me about my booking appt.

Hope it all turns out ok x

Yeah mine did too, which is why I think it is nothing to do with the doctors

who is your midwife btw? As you are near me

 

[blkhairbeauty]

Hey everyone, sorry I have been MIA! I needed to take a couple of days away from everything. Its been nice to get out of the city and now we are leaving to go back tomorrow! I dont want to leave!

Just as an update, my tummy is starting to pop I love it! My energy though has been non-existant. It sucks, but im just happy my belly is getting bigger.

 

[Dragonfly]

yoohooo I am here now!

 

[jogami]

I wanted to name a baby Addison when I was pregnant with DD but a cousin had her baby a few months before me and named hers Addison so it was off limits but I have been thinking of Taylor for a name and it happens to be my maid-of-honors (haha- we have been married almost 6 years now) last name- do you think that would be weird

Hey Rowley
How about Tayla or Tyla ???

Then it would still sound the same but be different!!!

Just a suggestion Xxx

 

[twingletons]

Saying hello over here in the second trimester!

I can't believe I am here!

Still being sick and the tiredness is a killer...eagerly awaiting the 'bloom'!

I have been following this thread in the 1st trimester but have been so ill have not felt positive enough to post.

Wanting to wish all you ladies a happy Second Trimester

 

[rowleypolie]

Tyla is cute. I am thinking Maddison or Madeline too either way she would be Maddie- DD's name is Kayla so Tayla is just a little too close Thanks for the suggestions

 

[Happyhayley]

I was doing madeline for awhile but then my husband and I argued about pronunciation. I feel happy that we finally have something solid for names (i hope i dont need to change them again) Cassidy Laura or John Michael.

(p.s. Im not really supposed to post here I'm only 2nd tri but 1st tri is so quiet)