Beauty- When you say raped & molested a child, but is getting out in 2 months, do you know for a FACT that is what he was charged with or just the grandmother talking smack? As far as I know crimes against children have fairly long sentences (in the US, at least) and since he will now be on the sex offender list that would mean he would be unable to live with/be roommates with a woman with a child...
You are from the US right? I forget.
But here is my opinion. EVERY SINGLE PERSON says they have a crazy ex. They (as well as family members) typically exaggerate and blow situations out of proportion because they do not like that ex. Disgruntled family members may also talk smack because they are disappointed (or whatever the reason). So what may really be a single mother, down on her luck, recieving government assistance, trying to save money by having a roommate (and dreaming big by wanting a house) and trying to date again (because she deserves to)...could mean something totally negative to someone like the Grandma, who is probably pissed that she's raising an child again instead of living it up in retirement and definitely doesn't want to do it with 2 kids (resentful)!
I don't know, I obviously don't know the situation but it seems whenever a man remarries, that suddenly the ex wife/girlfriend is suddenly unfit and the new wife feels the need to take away custody. Seriously, if the child was in that much harm, why didn't your husband step in before? Why hasn't the grandmother stepped in if your husband was unavailable to? Why hasn't the county stepped in? She wasn't that bad while he was sleeping with her...and she hasn't been that bad during the amount of time he's been paying child support.
Sorry situations like this tend to bother me as I've been through something similar first hand. Except *I* was suddenly the unfit mother, harassed, put down, threatened...the courts decided otherwise and I won
full custody. My situation was a bit different though, instead of a new wife/gf it was his MOM.
So I guess all I'm saying is don't be so quick to judge and don't be so willing to take a woman's child without knowing the FULL TRUTH, not he said she said stuff...imagine if that were you ___ years from now.
Just my 2 cents!
I still to the nightly trips though to go pee(its soooo irratating!) Last night though i was so exhausted since I didnt get hardly any sleep the night before. I had to run up to my parents house because they decided to get drunk and drank WAY too much. My mom ended up having alcohol poisoning and my dad was past out when we got there(we live an hour away and made it there in 30 mins :S) 
