its my mums birthday and I dont even have her mobile number in my phone. This is as we dont get a long and I gave up a while ago on her after so many rows and so much stress. But I have her a card I just have her no gift for the first time ever! my brother never gets her a thing and lives in her house, tells her to f off even if she is offering him dinner and she is more worried about him not appreciating her instead of me who gets her really nice stuff! signed copies of books she likes as I know the authors and other things. That was last years and she wasnt even impressed by it. Even got her a personal bday card from the author send to her. Kinda gutted me as I was excited more than she was for her reaction and she grunted. I cant please her at all she is never grateful and every year i try and try to impress her, not just with presents for bday, mothers day and xmas just in general even with my son I try and impress her and then I caught on that you cant, if my son cant impress her, her own grandson and only grandson she could ever have (my bro and sis wont be at much anyway) and she can only insult him and put him down. So much so she upsets him the very sight of her. I have had to ban her for her behaviour as all I asked was for her to act civil in my house and not like some spoilt teen who picks on everything from what toys my son plays with saying he shouldnt have them in MY livingroom! and every other dam thing she can see., And snapping at me when I call my dad answering his phone. So sick of her. She was here for the firts tinme in months the other day and sat with her back to me trying to interact with william who was weary and he isnt a shy child, she was upset he wasnt kissing and cuddling her but she smothers him and freaks him out he has to get away, she is rough . He cuddles everyone else she thinks theres something wrong with him. Like a learning disability because he disnt recite the times tables yet. Yet he is extremly smart! she just hasnt seen i as she hasnt been around him.
so anyway today I deciuded to be a bit like my brother who gets everything for free and lazes about in bed all day and is 32 years old and tells his mum sto f off all the time. I wont go as far as hijm but I got a card and thats all she is getting off me and i am sure she will be fuming and mark me down as even more of a useless child and worship my brother and clean all his underware for him, he hasnt ever used a washing machine i had to do it when my parents where on hols one year because he is so dependant!
If you want respect you have to give it and i give up giving it. I feel like a battered old something taking crap one thing after the other., So much more stronger that I have more important things to worry about and dont care about her any more. The excuse "I am your mum i can speak to you however I like" is just not on any more. I dont talk to my son like that and wouldnt! I would expect no respect if i had spoken to anyone like that.
good luck for tomorrow hayley! stealer of my DD lol