cncem
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I had no idea we might be team blue,it was quite a shock,but very obvious that he is a boy!
I was preparing for another girl.OH wants his second middle name to be the same as his dads,he passed away earlier this year.OH hadnt seen his dad for 5 years,dads choice and i had never met him.OH is the child of a 30 year affair,its very complicated.OH dad has 3 other children with his wife,and when he knew he was dying he spent lots of time with them visiting them abroad etc and didnt even bother telling my OH he was ill.We found out he had died on facebook.OH is devastated and has along with his mother put his father on a pedestal.This is a man that lied,cheated and breezed in and out of their lives,and was never there for his son.Two months before he died he changed his will so that my OH would have no way to make a claim on the property he owned.Its a horrendous situation.I do not want my son named after him.My daughter has MIL and Sil names as middle names and we always agreed that if we had a son he would be named after my dad for his middle name.I gave OH mum the option of just picking any name for his second middle name as a kind gesture,and we agreed no family names and not after anyone.,I now feel pressured and cruel for not wanting to use the name.OH had a massive go at me and claimed i always get my own way,im so upset.
OH cant even talk about his dad without getting upset,yet he wants his name?
MIL is now claiming that this boy is the reincarnation of OH dad,i feel so angry and sick at the thought of that.Im in such a horrible situation
Dogtanian, here is my view, for what it is worth. My dad was a terrible father, womanizer and he beat my stepmother, as well as us kids. He gave us up when I was 11 and my sister and I had to go live in a children's home until 18. He did drugs pretty heavily, drank all that. I don't know why, but I have loved him fiercely all my life and was devastated when he passed away. My siblings couldn't have cared less. I made arrangements for burial, took care of all of that, and my siblings asked me why. I don't know why. He may have been an awful father, but he was my father nonetheless. That may be how your husband feels. If I were you I would let my husband give him his dad's name, not to honor your husband's dad, but to honor your husband, because that is what he wants and it means something to him. As far as your mother in law saying your baby will be grandpa reincarnate that is just rubbish. Never mind that hocus pocus garbage. I hope for the best for you, I know this is a tough situation to be in.