*October Bumpkins*2014* 43 Babies Born!

[Kittycat155]

Will pass it along.

Wow 2 tubals after tubes tied. My Mom had no issues at all and I am Dads only. He is one of 4 but all 4 only had 1 kid each. My siblings have yet to try far as I know-sister did have a chemical though. I have always had periods all over the place-will cramp like it is about to start and then nothing. I just though it would take a year or 2 extra. NEVER thought it would go this long. I do believe there is some plan and things happen at time they are supposed. I hate hearing it at times but how many times have you been in the "right place right time" to help someone out or be helped? Or a chain of events kept you where you needed to be then and there. I just can not wait for this little one to be here in few months. SO wanted and long waited for.

 

[MamaMac123]

We had infertility struggles as well though thankfully it wasn't terrible compared to a lot of women and compared to your stories. Took us almost 2 years. I have PCOS which was our issue. Also took forever to get the green light to see a fertility specialist. Regular OB put me on clomid which didn't work at all. Once we got to the fertility doctor though it was like everything fell into place. He tweaked all my meds and put me on Femara and we were pregnant by the third cycle. It was such an emotional and tough couple of years. I can't even imagine having to go through it for years and years and going through all the major procedures over and over. My heart just breaks for anyone going through infertility.

I had a lady talk to me a few weeks ago and say her doctor told her that with PCOS she should expect to never have children. I was livid! I told this poor lady who was close to tears about what we went through and now here we are with twins. So many of us struggle with infertility but so many of us overcome it now too! How any doc can say there's no hope after not trying anything is beyond me!

 

[Loopy Laura]

I'm having a hospital birth.

I also had infertility issues - I only had two periods in a year (took nearly 2 years to conceive) but it wasn't PCOS and it was just diagnosed as unexplained fertility. In fact the fertility doctor told me I was going through the menopause which was devastating (I'm 32), particularly because my egg count came back as very low. Luckily the clomid worked for me but I would have tried IVF if it hadn't. I totally understand the heartbreak of thinking it will never happen and even now I get so scared something will go wrong!

I had a midwife appointment today and heard the heartbeat for the first time! It was only 129 though which I think is quite low? I wonder if this means it is a boy. I also had no morning sickness which is also making me think this. I still have 4 weeks before I can find out.

The midwife told me not to worry about the unwashed fruit so I'm feeling calmer today!

 

[CharlieKeys]

I realllllly want a home birth but as it's my first baby apparently here I'm not allowed one

I hate hospitals they really stress me out as I've had bad experiences there but apparently I have no option but a hospital birth.

That's rubbish. Your in the uk so as it stands your bossy, your baby your choice no matter what number baby if your wanting to push for it you can contact AIMS of your hospital supervisor of midwifery and I can point you in the right direction for an amazing hb group on fb which is predominantly uk people so they can give you some fab advise. Xx

I agree with this! Definitely push for it. What are they going to do if baby starts coming at home - deny you any midwifery care? I heard that they tend to put a lot of first time mum's off home births because a) they don't want to have to spare two midwives for a home birth and b) because they feel if you have a hospital birth the first time - you will subsequent times.

 

[rbourre]

I thought for sure we were going to have problems getting pregnant. We were ntnp for a long time and it never happened. I had always had irregular cycles and figured that was the reason I never got pregnant. When I decided to go back to college, I went on the pill and got pregnant. My periods have been regular since I had my daughter, every 28-30 days (and that's never happened before) and when we decided to start TTC, I was already pregnant. It was a huge shock, I was hoping to be pregnant by the end of the year but instead I will have a baby.

I am starting to get the "is she pregnant" looks when I go out. My husband says I look exactly the same as before, but my mom says I look almost as big as at 29 weeks with Aimee. My MIL says it's obvious too, but for some reason my husband doesn't see it.

 

[ljo1984]

Lol one hospital birth put me off going back for more! They can't refuse to come out and there should be someone on call for hb's or in some areas like here we have a home birth team designated at out hospital and they come out. With my last she got a taxi here with a suitcase full of everything she needed. I hate to see women told they can't do this that and the other, they can't deny you nothing....... It's a real pet peeve ha ha. Anyway hoping to have a intentional birth before arrival (of mw) this time. That would be my perfect outcome

 

[La Mere]

It's nice to see so many are having home births! I'm not alone, lol! There weren't any other home birthers in my previous group, so I was kind of the odd one out!! This will be my second home birth. I had an unnecessary transfer to the hospital with my daughter after about 15 or so hours of labor and hopefully some words or encouragement for you, zephyr. I didn't have any type of pain relief with either of my two other kiddos. With my first, I labored at home, in and out of the birthing pool and was in labor for a total of 17.5 hours. With my second, I was at home, literally felt and heard my waters break and contractions started soon after for a labor of 5.5 hours. It is hard and painful to labor with no pain relief, but it can be done successfully. It's funny (or I think it is) the first thing I said to the doctor who ended up delivering my daughter was "I don't want any pain meds and I don't want a c-section unless ABSOLUTELY necessary!" I've had wonderful experiences with both of my births so far (even though my first didn't go as planned). If you want to know more about my home birth just ask anything you want to know or PM me with any questions (that goes for all of you, not just zephyr!)

I also just want to say, (not sure if I need to, but going to anyway) I do not judge or look down upon any mother who chooses to give birth in a hospital or take pain relief during labor. It is what is most comfortable for you to have a more relaxing, calm and wonderful birth experience! Home birth is definitely not for everyone and neither is giving birth without pain relief. This is just what is most comfortable for me and works best for my family. In the end it is all about what will make you happy, what will work best for you and your family and what will make it the most relaxing and memorable for you.. It's a beautiful thing, no matter where it happens!!

 

[busytulip]

Definitely having a hospital birth. I give kudos to you ladies having a home birth. I think I would be more stressed at home not having trained doctors around me. Then again it didn't take majority of you over 2 years to get pregnant and have to go through injectable fertility meds and IUI, LOL. I find comfort in the fact that if anything goes wrong I'm in the right place.

Took us over 4 years to get pregnant that was off from the start and ended in MC and MC that baby in July and got BFP again in January. Few weeks before my due date.

If csestion rates were not so high I would not mind hospital to much it is just now pushing 1/2 are having them in my area. I just can not imagine our bodies are failing to make a baby we can vaginally birth to THAT rate.

I firmly believe csections have their benefits(Like Aimee being SO premature!) Just hate when I hear women being told failure to progress when they are not allowed to walk or move around(my local hospital is that way-check in and your bed bound till after delivery). It is amazing how policies can vary from hospital to hospital-let alone different states and countries!

Busytulip-that is a strange position to be in. But keep in mind they see women all day and unless your pubic hair is hot pink your just another one in the line

I was wearing my joe boxer lounge pants and husband commented that they are getting tight in belly. He is used to me in my bigger pants/shorts so that normally well fitted pair was OBVIOUS!

Kittycat I have actually cared for a laboring mum who had a hot pink downstairs that included a heart-shaped cutout so I don't think even that would throw any of them. LOL It's not about being shy about showing off my bits that I was referring to.

 

[Mushymilkfor2]

I had a lady talk to me a few weeks ago and say her doctor told her that with PCOS she should expect to never have children. I was livid! I told this poor lady who was close to tears about what we went through and now here we are with twins. So many of us struggle with infertility but so many of us overcome it now too! How any doc can say there's no hope after not trying anything is beyond me!

My best friend was told this, but her doctor was absolutely awful. Always would ask her things like, "is there anything else wrong with you besides obesity?" I've known her practically my whole life and know the struggle she goes through to lose weight. Her doctor should know the affect PCOS has on a woman and her weight!

It surprises me how many women have fertility issues. I've always been I guess so naive when it comes to things like that. I always thought it wasn't that common. But at the same time, this forum opens the table up to the whole world and not just the bubble of people around me.

My husband was really worried that we would have a tough time getting pregnant, I'm not too sure why he felt this way. We were both quite shocked to have it happen the first try though! It made him feel better about being so cautious all these years though!

 

[Jcliff]

Hospital birth, already booked c section for September 29th! And I can't be happier! My natural 2 day planned birth with my daughter was terrible, I almost bled to death and her heart rate dropped numerous times. It was the scariest thing in the world and will not be chancing it again.. Happy with my c section decision!

 

[Elsa50501]

Well, today I found out that the passion tea lemonades I've been getting this week from Starbucks are a huge no-no during pregnancy. Apparently they have hibiscus flowers in them for the color and that's a "DO NOT CONSUME" during pregnancy. I hope I didn't do any damage.

Ugh, now I'm going to worry until the 13th when we have our next scan.

 

[Laelani]

I am so relived that I am not alone with feeling baby move! I seem to be getting more and more worried getting closer to my gender scan since I haven't been able to feel baby move and it's been almost 3 weeks since we heard the heartbeat.

In terms of the birth we will be a hospital birth. I need to have a c-section because of my back problems. We also wanted to have it scheduled as well so that our families can both be here for the birth and my doctor agrees.

Here's a little mini poll for you ladies which do you think sounds better/cuter:
* Emily Sophia
* Sophia Emily

OH and I cannot decide which we like better.

 

[Mushymilkfor2]

Well, today I found out that the passion tea lemonades I've been getting this week from Starbucks are a huge no-no during pregnancy. Apparently they have hibiscus flowers in them for the color and that's a "DO NOT CONSUME" during pregnancy. I hope I didn't do any damage.

Ugh, now I'm going to worry until the 13th when we have our next scan.

Oh no...I drink the very berry hibiscus refresher drink all the time!

What's wrong with hibiscus?!

 

[Elsa50501]

Well, today I found out that the passion tea lemonades I've been getting this week from Starbucks are a huge no-no during pregnancy. Apparently they have hibiscus flowers in them for the color and that's a "DO NOT CONSUME" during pregnancy. I hope I didn't do any damage.

Ugh, now I'm going to worry until the 13th when we have our next scan.

Oh no...I drink the very berry hibiscus refresher drink all the time!

What's wrong with hibiscus?!

Apparently hibiscus is one of the herbs that can cause miscarriage. I guess it says on the packages of the passion tea not to drink if you are pregnant (according to what I read, not seeing with my own eyes).

Some of the things I read said that it was more relevant in the first trimester, but it's on the do not consume list of herbal things. I never knew! I thought I was being good by getting rid of all the caffeine. (I had been having about 120 mg of caffeine every couple days by having a chai tea latte since that was well within the safety limits, but then I started feeling bad and switched to the passion tea lemonades!)

 

[Mushymilkfor2]

Well, today I found out that the passion tea lemonades I've been getting this week from Starbucks are a huge no-no during pregnancy. Apparently they have hibiscus flowers in them for the color and that's a "DO NOT CONSUME" during pregnancy. I hope I didn't do any damage.

Ugh, now I'm going to worry until the 13th when we have our next scan.

Oh no...I drink the very berry hibiscus refresher drink all the time!

What's wrong with hibiscus?!

Apparently hibiscus is one of the herbs that can cause miscarriage. I guess it says on the packages of the passion tea not to drink if you are pregnant (according to what I read, not seeing with my own eyes).

Some of the things I read said that it was more relevant in the first trimester, but it's on the do not consume list of herbal things. I never knew! I thought I was being good by getting rid of all the caffeine. (I had been having about 120 mg of caffeine every couple days by having a chai tea latte since that was well within the safety limits, but then I started feeling bad and switched to the passion tea lemonades!)

Thankfully it didn't cause me to miscarry! And I did just see him the other day. Strong healthy heartbeat, so I'm not too worried. Just now I know, no more hibiscus!

The doctor really should give you a real list of things to avoid consuming, because really there are so many, and if it weren't for this website I would have had no idea besides the basics.

 

[zephyr]

LaMere thank you! Im sure I will have lots of questions closer to the time. Im trying not to think about the birth tbh lol

I have had 2 drug free births at hospital.
I had a drug free birth by choice and it was okay however it did hurt a lot more than I expected so when it came to my next baby I stressed to the midwife numerous times that I wanted pain relief but I would try water first and see if I could do it with just that.

well....my waters broke and labour never started I was overdue by a week or round there so they gave me syntocin (I think thats what it is called) and I couldnt do a water birth

I begged the entire time for pain relief and she kept telling me to wait until it was bad and then during an internal she said I wasnt fully dialated so i had to wait and I screamed at her that she better get me some pain relief (mid internal) so she pushed my cervix over his head and said "too late start pushing"
I just cried and cried, she was just awful!
Having an induced labor with no drugs was terrifying for me it was 10x worse than my drug free birth beforehand.

so then I had twins after that and that obviously had to be at hospital with an epidural I chose what I felt was safest for babies, also being under ob care as opposed to midwifery care made me feel better about being at the hospital, however the aftercare treatment was awful!! Im not even going to go into that part.....I was out of there after 2 nights with the twins, I couldnt handle another night there.

so....for me being at hospital has always been stressful, I end up leaving as soon as im allowed to, the longest stay was 2 nights with the twins, the others I left the next morning.
Going drug free again does scare me tho as I really only have that induced labour in my mind!
tho I know with the one before that I was more relaxed as I mostly laboured at home, I literally walked into the hospital and started pushing.

does water really help with pain?? And have you tried the tens machine thing?

 

[zephyr]

I am so relived that I am not alone with feeling baby move! I seem to be getting more and more worried getting closer to my gender scan since I haven't been able to feel baby move and it's been almost 3 weeks since we heard the heartbeat.

In terms of the birth we will be a hospital birth. I need to have a c-section because of my back problems. We also wanted to have it scheduled as well so that our families can both be here for the birth and my doctor agrees.

Here's a little mini poll for you ladies which do you think sounds better/cuter:
* Emily Sophia
* Sophia Emily

OH and I cannot decide which we like better.

emily sophia!

But then emily has always been a favourite for me
Do both first names on their own go with the last name you will be using?

 

[cntrygrl]

Yes make sure her initials don't spell anything. We were going to do Parker Michael, but then realized his initials would spell PMS.

 

[AshleyLK]

LaMere thank you! Im sure I will have lots of questions closer to the time. Im trying not to think about the birth tbh lol

I have had 2 drug free births at hospital.
I had a drug free birth by choice and it was okay however it did hurt a lot more than I expected so when it came to my next baby I stressed to the midwife numerous times that I wanted pain relief but I would try water first and see if I could do it with just that.

well....my waters broke and labour never started I was overdue by a week or round there so they gave me syntocin (I think thats what it is called) and I couldnt do a water birth

I begged the entire time for pain relief and she kept telling me to wait until it was bad and then during an internal she said I wasnt fully dialated so i had to wait and I screamed at her that she better get me some pain relief (mid internal) so she pushed my cervix over his head and said "too late start pushing"
I just cried and cried, she was just awful!
Having an induced labor with no drugs was terrifying for me it was 10x worse than my drug free birth beforehand.

so then I had twins after that and that obviously had to be at hospital with an epidural I chose what I felt was safest for babies, also being under ob care as opposed to midwifery care made me feel better about being at the hospital, however the aftercare treatment was awful!! Im not even going to go into that part.....I was out of there after 2 nights with the twins, I couldnt handle another night there.

so....for me being at hospital has always been stressful, I end up leaving as soon as im allowed to, the longest stay was 2 nights with the twins, the others I left the next morning.
Going drug free again does scare me tho as I really only have that induced labour in my mind!
tho I know with the one before that I was more relaxed as I mostly laboured at home, I literally walked into the hospital and started pushing.

does water really help with pain?? And have you tried the tens machine thing?

Wow I'm so sorry you had that experience, that woman sounds wretched. I am not a fan of pain myself either. With my first, my water broke at home and as soon as I got to the hospital I made it clear i wanted an epidural ASAP.

I am so relived that I am not alone with feeling baby move! I seem to be getting more and more worried getting closer to my gender scan since I haven't been able to feel baby move and it's been almost 3 weeks since we heard the heartbeat.

In terms of the birth we will be a hospital birth. I need to have a c-section because of my back problems. We also wanted to have it scheduled as well so that our families can both be here for the birth and my doctor agrees.

Here's a little mini poll for you ladies which do you think sounds better/cuter:
* Emily Sophia
* Sophia Emily

OH and I cannot decide which we like better.

emily sophia!

But then emily has always been a favourite for me
Do both first names on their own go with the last name you will be using?

I second Emily Sophia

 

[hopettc3]

I'm with Emily Sophia as well!! It sounds beautiful!