Hi everyone,
I don't know where to post this so I hope this is ok because I am in desperate need for advise about this.
We have a beautiful baby who is 12months old and wasn't planning on baby number 2 for another year or so. However I've just found out I'm around 6 weeks pregnant and were as this was a shock to us both my OH hasn't taken it well at all.
It honestly breaks my heart, I have tears in my eyes writing this He said that we can't have a baby so soon and giving any and every excuse under the sun. He said we won't financially cope and its not fair todo this to our current baby, he said we would all struggle and not reasonable at all.
We both work fulltime and I work from home however we have nanny who comes over as I cant always give my full attention to my child. This is obviously costly however I we would cope. When I was pregnant with our baby I was out of work and wasnt entitled to any maternity pay! It was only when our babyw as 6months old I started working - so this time we are in a better position?! I would work till the day I dropped basically and I would get martnity pay. He said we can't afford me not working as unfortunately I earn a lot more then he does. I told him if we was to have a child in a year or so time like we wanted we would still be in this position. Yes we wont splurge loads but that doesnt bother me?!
Another one of his arguments is how we are moving into a property owned by my family in order to save money to get a mortgage. He said that my family would be furious and looks like we are taking advantage of their help. Yes i can see them being annoyed maybe like we planned this but we didnt and this seems like a small hurdle to me - I know we could still pay them rent even if i wasnt working so I dont see this as a major issue?
He said that we have just got ourselves on our feet and want to enjoy the 3 of us for a year without any hassle or strain or stress that another child would bring. I am nervous to have another child so soon but it doesnt phase me that much - he said thats me being clueless and not understanding what it would be like?! Errrr yes I do know I do look after our child I am not an idiot! Its not easy but not impossible and worth all of it in my own eyes.
I think I've become easily adaptable to the idea because I am a mum already and I just assocaite this time with our beloved first child. I loved being pregnant and I love being a mum - theres nothing more I enjoy then looking after our child - undesirable. So why is he like this?!
Is this my hormones and am I being unreasonable? I dont know what todo and I really dont want our relationship ruined - we've just started getting back on track and now feels like were back to square one when we should be both happy.
Please give me advise on how to go about this! Thank you in advance for your kindness - sorry for my spelling mistakes my silly computer wont let me change it!!
I don't know where to post this so I hope this is ok because I am in desperate need for advise about this.
We have a beautiful baby who is 12months old and wasn't planning on baby number 2 for another year or so. However I've just found out I'm around 6 weeks pregnant and were as this was a shock to us both my OH hasn't taken it well at all.
It honestly breaks my heart, I have tears in my eyes writing this He said that we can't have a baby so soon and giving any and every excuse under the sun. He said we won't financially cope and its not fair todo this to our current baby, he said we would all struggle and not reasonable at all.
We both work fulltime and I work from home however we have nanny who comes over as I cant always give my full attention to my child. This is obviously costly however I we would cope. When I was pregnant with our baby I was out of work and wasnt entitled to any maternity pay! It was only when our babyw as 6months old I started working - so this time we are in a better position?! I would work till the day I dropped basically and I would get martnity pay. He said we can't afford me not working as unfortunately I earn a lot more then he does. I told him if we was to have a child in a year or so time like we wanted we would still be in this position. Yes we wont splurge loads but that doesnt bother me?!
Another one of his arguments is how we are moving into a property owned by my family in order to save money to get a mortgage. He said that my family would be furious and looks like we are taking advantage of their help. Yes i can see them being annoyed maybe like we planned this but we didnt and this seems like a small hurdle to me - I know we could still pay them rent even if i wasnt working so I dont see this as a major issue?
He said that we have just got ourselves on our feet and want to enjoy the 3 of us for a year without any hassle or strain or stress that another child would bring. I am nervous to have another child so soon but it doesnt phase me that much - he said thats me being clueless and not understanding what it would be like?! Errrr yes I do know I do look after our child I am not an idiot! Its not easy but not impossible and worth all of it in my own eyes.
I think I've become easily adaptable to the idea because I am a mum already and I just assocaite this time with our beloved first child. I loved being pregnant and I love being a mum - theres nothing more I enjoy then looking after our child - undesirable. So why is he like this?!
Is this my hormones and am I being unreasonable? I dont know what todo and I really dont want our relationship ruined - we've just started getting back on track and now feels like were back to square one when we should be both happy.
Please give me advise on how to go about this! Thank you in advance for your kindness - sorry for my spelling mistakes my silly computer wont let me change it!!