OH's secret twitter account!!!

[Loz0912]

Omg, don't really know where to start.

So, in lanzarote ATM with oh and DD on a supposedly lovely winter break... First day here, DD was playing with oh phone and said "look mum, daddy and Tegan" and there it was.... His twitter account with a pic of him and one of his other daughters!

I feel so friggin hurt!!!! Neither of us have ever embraced the whole social networking thing - he claims he doesnt want me to have Facebook cuz I'd be "on it all the time" when in reality, I think he wants to vet who I'm friends with!

Whilst there is nothing immediately suspicious on there, he is friends with loads if beautiful girls (none of which he actually knows from what I can gather, was on a time limit) but there are some very questionble tweets on there! Telling girls they look great and "what a great picy to wake up to"

I'm piling on the weight (happens when your 16 weeks pregnant) and my confidence has taken a nosedive!

I've not confronted him yet as I'm determined to have a good hol, argument free for the sake of my DD, and the day after we return home is her 4th birthday! I've also quite smokin completely (yay me!) but I've never wanted a cig so much in my life! Though I won't let that prick give me reason to start smoking again... But it's killing me, I literally have no one to talk to!!!!

And I only have about 30 wifi connection left! Great!

Any help would be GREATLY appreciated!

What should i do???? X x x

 

[baby_hopes23]

Gosh hun, I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how you must be feeling, I would be totally gutted if I found out DH had some secret account of any type and was telling other women they look great...it's SO tough being pregnant and getting huge, not feeling our most attractive some days, I feel awful you're going through these emotions

If I was in your shoes, I would confront my DH and ask him to please delete the account or delete these random beautiful women he's friends with, to some women it's probably entirely harmless, but in my marriage, I feel there's no need for either one of us to be flirtatiously complimenting the opposite sex on how they look, I would never tell another guy "wow you look handsome!" unless it was my family or something, I would feel like I'm disrespecting my DH and our relationship you know?

Hope you're able to get it resolved and feel better about everything

 

[Gemini85]

id confront, i wouldnt be able to fake it and have a nice time.
I must say, those comments dont sound good.
other option is to set up a fake one of your own, use a fake piccy, tweet him and see where you can get it to go....Im a suspicious person! lol x

 

[v2007]

How snide he is.

Telling you you can't have FB cos you would be on it all the time when in reality he is on Twitter not only secretly but on holiday!!!

I would confront and tell him that either he fesses up or he is on the couch :/

He sounds a bit controlling as well.

V xxx

 

[Loz0912]

I even gave him the opportunity to come clean i said, oh didn't realise your phone had twitter app, to which he replied "yea, that app comes pre-loaded!"

Well it wasn't pre loaded on my iPad???

I'm going out of my mind here!!!!

 

[Gemini85]

it wasnt pre loaded on my iphone! i think it is on Blackberrys tho.
Still reckon you should do the fake account!
x

 

[Coxie]

you could always set up a twitter account yourself (I don't know how twitter even works) you could send him a friend request or however it works and then he will know that you know.

 

[Loz0912]

I even gave him the chance to come clean I said, oh didn't know your phone had twitter app, he said "yea, it comes preloaded!"

Goin out of my mind here x

 

[Gemini85]

he doesnt even have to accept anything on twitter for you to see, you just have to "follow" him.
So he wouldnt know even if you just used it to monitor him. Remeber to follow some other people first or he might wonder why you are only following him! x

 

[Charlie_x]

it isint pre loaded even on blackberry or andriod you have to download it from the market/store x

 

[xloulabellex]

MAYBE, to avoid you going insane AND avoiding any arguments on your holiday, say to him later on "I will not get into this , but please can you delete your twitter account. I don't appreciate a secret account, where you tell woman they look good and what great pics to wake up to. I won't make a big deal out of this so please just delete the account, and nothing more will be said"

Then walk away into the other room or something? xx


p.s. OR yeah, create a twitter account, "follow" a bunch of people and then him..

It doesn't come preloaded on the iPhone babe

 

[SummerLily]

if my other half had the cheek to hide something like that from me and talk to other women like that - id be just as sneeky and delete it without him knowing about it !!

 

[Mommy2be20]

I even gave him the opportunity to come clean i said, oh didn't realise your phone had twitter app, to which he replied "yea, that app comes pre-loaded!"

Well it wasn't pre loaded on my iPad???

I'm going out of my mind here!!!!

I'm gonna assume he has an iPhone then... in which case the Twitter app does NOT come preloaded, I have one and it doesn't have that crappy app
With that said, I can fully understand why you're upset and I think it's reasonable! Now, being on vacay... that's tricky. Like you said, you don't wanna ruin your DD's time, so my advice is if you can put it aside in your mind until you're home again, I think it'd be best Hope it works out for you hun, that really is a tough situation to be put in! xx

 

[lili_angel]

I'm sorry honey but what utter shite.....saying it comes pre-loaded....that may be that the app did but it wouldn't have magicked up a twitter account from nowhere!! He has had to do that himself the knob.

Tell him straight, it aint on & it wont be accepted. If he thinks it's ok to flirt & send suggestive tweets to other girls then tell him to do one 'cos he isn't including you in on ego trip....the twat.

 

[xloulabellex]

"saying it comes pre-loaded....that may be that the app did but it wouldn't have magicked up a twitter account from nowhere!! He has had to do that himself the knob."



True!

*hugs* to OP xxx

 

[April2012]

While it is one thing to have a social network account, it is another thing entirely to be flirting with women on it. that isn't acceptable. if he is really saying things like "what a great picy to wake up to..." NO. unacceptable.

I have seen this before with a man in my life...no good. I have also been guilty of it in a past relationship...no good.

confront him calmly and seriously.

 

[painted_pony]

Twitter comes pre-loaded to the android phones. The only kind of phone I will use is android and my BIL works at a cell phone store.

 

[xloulabellex]

if my other half had the cheek to hide something like that from me and talk to other women like that - id be just as sneeky and delete it without him knowing about it !!

BRILLIANT.

Delete the app from his phone.. and/or account.

He can't mention anything cos he's not meant to have it

 

[Wantapink1]

I even gave him the chance to come clean I said, oh didn't know your phone had twitter app, he said "yea, it comes preloaded!"

Goin out of my mind here x

iPhone's do not come preloaded with Twitter nor Facebook x

 

[wavescrash]

MAYBE, to avoid you going insane AND avoiding any arguments on your holiday, say to him later on "I will not get into this , but please can you delete your twitter account. I don't appreciate a secret account, where you tell woman they look good and what great pics to wake up to. I won't make a big deal out of this so please just delete the account, and nothing more will be said"

Then walk away into the other room or something? xx


p.s. OR yeah, create a twitter account, "follow" a bunch of people and then him..

It doesn't come preloaded on the iPhone babe

I would do this... OR say something like "If you can have a secret Twitter account, I'd like to be able to have a Facebook account" (if you want one, seeing as he said you can't have it and all.)

I couldn't keep quiet and let it go, especially with the comments he's made toward other girls. I've tried to keep quiet about things I've found out like this but it only lasts a few days AND makes my anger build up more so I'm unable to handle it rationally.