ok so who wants to get pregnant in 2011? (closed group)

[nypage1981]

I am not supposed to be NTNP but we kind of are. Only been a couple times together though, as I thought I would rather wait until I got my first AF now so I can monitor where im at in my cycle. I feel soooooo paranoid without a period knowing we DTD already. Its 98% effective birth control to breast feed thoguh, but im still paranoid.

Preethi- I hope you get pregnant again soon I love pregnant people! so exciting.

Sarah- I think you'll start showing proper around 20 weeks? I believe I was always showing pretty good around then. Some don't pop til 3rd tri though. Dont rush it, you'll wish that tummy away come your bigger days of 3rd tri!!
yea, we used our doppler each day pretty much. OH was bad influence. lol. He always wanted to. But not anymore when I could feel him moving.

 

[sarahincanada]

I am not supposed to be NTNP but we kind of are. Only been a couple times together though, as I thought I would rather wait until I got my first AF now so I can monitor where im at in my cycle. I feel soooooo paranoid without a period knowing we DTD already. Its 98% effective birth control to breast feed thoguh, but im still paranoid.

Preethi- I hope you get pregnant again soon I love pregnant people! so exciting.

Sarah- I think you'll start showing proper around 20 weeks? I believe I was always showing pretty good around then. Some don't pop til 3rd tri though. Dont rush it, you'll wish that tummy away come your bigger days of 3rd tri!!
yea, we used our doppler each day pretty much. OH was bad influence. lol. He always wanted to. But not anymore when I could feel him moving.

hey ny, did you ever talk to a specialist regarding your uterus wall? I know the one dr said not to get pregnant again but didnt you talk to another who said it was possible? I think they said you would have a large vertical scar and we all said we could live with that.

how come breast feeding is like birth control? didnt know that.

 

[nypage1981]

Yep, large, icky vertical scar. The one doc who did the surgery was all against it, then my regular doctor was making it like not as huge of a deal? Idk what to really believe, seems really weird the conflicting advice!

IDK! For some reason when you are nursing you dont ovulate maybe? I can't remember the science to it but its 98% effective so BC is only 99%. I didnt' see the point on being on anything with those stats! Especially when it took me years to get Kian.

 

[babyhopes2323]

basically when youre bfing, your pregnancy hormones are still running, which does not allow you to have your period, i think thats the main reason, and as well all know we need to have our period to know were ovulating...? so i guess thats why they say so, but hey, ive heard of women who do end up getting pregnant so you never know.. xx

Ny, thats why im not really bothered about protection, purely because we actively tried for a whole year to get gemma and then finally had her, so i figured if it took so long, maybe its ok to NTNP, especially when you dont really BD often ! (like me)

 

[nypage1981]

we dont often at all either Preethi! so im no too worried. I would liek to get my period now though so I can know when im ovulating so we can not have sex around that time! would make me feel a lot better.

 

[sherylb]

We have only tried once when Kristin was 2 1/2ish months old. I have a mental block against dtd atm.

 

[sarahincanada]

oh I didnt know you dont have your period when BFing, see you learn a lot on here!

We've only BD'd once or twice since my BFP, poor hubby! but with the sickness then my finger injury he understands. I try and 'help out' to make sure he is not completely without any pleasure, but just have felt like BDing much at all.

 

[nypage1981]

well no duh! i wouldn't have even mustered those 2!

 

[NDH]

Not every bring woman doesn't get her period back. I think its usually around 6 months, but sometimes they come back right away (everyone knows women with babies leaa than 14 most apart, but they really are the vast minority) and sometimes it can take well over a year. But ya, exclusively on-demand breastfeeding is said to be a 98% accurate form of birth control for 6 months post birth.

 

[sarahincanada]

well its good to know! I hope to breastfeed and then I will have to decide when to start trying with my frosties. I was thinking at about 6 months as I will be 40 and a half, but seeing as they are with my 39 year old eggs theres no huge rush.

NY its funny, luckily the pregnancy and the injury brought us even closer together. I think it shocked hubby so much he has just been gushing with love ever since. he has always been very loving and tells me all the time, but after seeing me lie there in the emergency room with the top of my finger cut off I think it made him realize even more. and he looked after me so wonderfully I feel the same. So its ok theres no action as theres lots of love!!

 

[flyingduster]

yup, the deal is; the breast feeding has to be EXCLUSIVE and on demand (of the baby!) - NO formula, NO solids, NOTHING but breast milk straight from your boob. If you do that then the birth control from that is 98% up until 6 months. Beyond 6 months solids are normally introduced, and so the breastfeeding often goes down, and therefore so does your birth control stats.

Note that pumping and bottle feeding your expressed milk may lower your protection too, because it isn't your body feeding on demand in the same way. (that is what catches people out the most! They think they're feeding on demand, but it's often a bottle they expressed off earlier...)


It is basically natures way of spacing babies out so you don't go and get pregnant again right away! MANY women don't get their first PP AF until their baby is a year or so old! Some (2% of mums!) do get their period back before the 6 month mark though too.

And because we all know how our cycles work, we all know that we ovulate approximately 2 weeks before we get AF, so yes it is totally possible to catch that first egg and get pregnant before your period EVER comes back PP!!! So you have to be careful cos you have noooooo idea when you're ovulating and coming back to having AF again until she arrives - could be 6 weeks PP, could be 15 months!

So far I've had no sign of AF at all. So except for the big bleed after birth, I've had no AF for 14 months in total; it's freekin awesome! lol!

 

[NDH]

Lots of love here too though poor hub by hasn't had any action for nearly 3 1/2 months lol.

 

[flyingduster]

yeah, DH has had plenty of love and *cough* helping hands but we haven't dtd since mid pregnancy.... I was uncomfy when more heavily pregnant (though I was way more horny then too!) and then after the birth it was tender, then that abscess that wasn't fully healed till over 3 months after I had Caleb, and now it's been so long I'm scared.... *sigh* we'll get there one day, but like I said he's getting lots of lovin' still, and TBH I ADORE the fact that he's not once pressured me about the lack of sex; it'd freak me out if he did, I just need to come to terms with it contact there again after the stitches trauma!

 

[babyhopes2323]

awww sarah, your hubby is so sweet.. Ny i completely understand your wanting your AF back to know where you stand with ovulation etc xx

with my milk drying up from ,prematurity and being told to formula feed, i got my AF in november after delivering on the 30th of august x

i was afraid of soreness during the first bd session, bt that was all. im glad in a way that i had the c section because apart from the scar, my downstairs is all intact.

IN SAYING THAT, I HAVE TO TAKE MY HATS OFF TO ALL YOU MUMS, I BOW DOWN TO YOU, I HAVE NO IDEA HOW YOU WENT THROUGH NATURAL BIRTH, (CAPS LOCK FOR EMPHASIS) i had about 5 hours of labour, was in SO MUCH PAIN, and couldnt tolerate it, and hadnt dialated even after 5 hours so i CANNOT imagine how you guys did it. xx honestly. i would like ot have the will power to experience that atleast once.

 

[sherylb]

Everybody here had epidurals though right? Once I got my epidural it got so much better. My water broke at 11:30 and she was here at 6:20 so my labor wasn't too too long compared to most first time labors.

 

[Huggles]

I didn't have any pain meds. Lost my mucous plug, waters broke, and contractions started pretty much all at 6:30pm. Logan arrived at 1:53am.

 

[sherylb]

Wow you are a strong strong woman for not having any pain meds. My contractions went from not feeling to oh there's one to OMG GIVE ME MY EPIDURAL so quickly that I couldn't stand it. I also was shaking like a leaf after my water broke and couldn't stop on my own.

 

[nypage1981]

Aww sarah, thats so sweet. Just wait til he sees you give him a baby. The love will be like nothing ever before. Well, thats after you get past the initial "hating each other and arguing about everythign because you are both so tired and stressed out and around each other entirely too much stage!" lol.

I went through labor with Ella, 15 hours, then I pushed for 2.5 and still had a c section. I've been there! lol. It was bad but it didn't scare me out of more babies.

Flying- I would consider myself to be exclusively breast feeding on demand mostly. I may miss a feeding while working ma 4 hour shift, but hve only worked 3 of them, and he would only feed once in that time and I do pump then at work. So im hoping im still covered!

Although, I am peeing on ovulation sticks each day to make sure im not ovulating just in case we did have sex. though we haven't for about a month, and only 2 times since birth! so not much action is going on over here so im good with my birth control plan right now!

 

[sarahincanada]

yes I think huggles and flying didnt have epidurals, I think they both did the hypnosis thing right? I remember huggles you talking about that for Jarod. NY did you have 15 hours without one?

IM not good with medical things so I think I will be asking for one. I remember watching the pain my sister was in with contractions and I think it haunted me for life!!

 

[MummyCat]

I only had gas and air with Elizabeth, but had an epidural with Charlotte. Very different labours. as Lottie was back to back.

Preethi I really enjoyed my labours... specially Lizzie's

Hope you're all okay!