One Blighted Ovum - One Missed Miscarriage

[oliveoyl]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[Mrs T]

Am so sorry
XXX

 

[CurlySue]

Well I woke up at 5am this morning as has been customary. I turned around and I looked at OH. Recently, he's been waking up with me and smiling. Yesterday, sitting in that waiting room, he asked me "Will we get a picture today?" and was planning on scanning it and sending it to everyone he knows.

He was looking at cots in Ikea the other night.

He was smiling like a little boy and telling me how nervous he was.

That's breaking my heart more than anything. That he actually thought there was something there. That he had actually bonded with it, whilst I always knew.

He cried last night.

I can't cope with this.

 

[MrsJD]

Mother nature is one cruel fucken bitch!

Heartbreaking news

XXXXX

 

[CurlySue]

Someone thought to make everything perfect. We found out on Sunday two of our best friends were due on March 3rd, 5 days before our due date would've been. They got pregnant their first month of trying. That was hard. Not as hard as it'll be seeing their kid and knowing it was supposed to be our kid's friend.

OH's auntie had her baby girl two nights ago. The night before we found out our babies had died at least two weeks ago. They were too small to be seen.

When will I stop crying?

 

[toby2]

oh my lovely this is such a crap, hard time and other peoples babynews just rubs salt into the wound, i dont know why but life does seem to be a bit like that.
You will stop crying but not for a little while and although its hard its better to be feeling this that keeping it inside of you. Your little toffee crisps were here they just didnt make it and that is the saddest thing. I know its hard to look at hubby and think that somehow you should have been able to make things different for them but what happened wasnt down to you, its just one of those horribly sad and cruel things.
people will say the wrong and the right things to you about your babies and some of it will make you cry and some of it will piss you off beyond belief, give yourself as much time as you need,its important and please try and be kind to yourself, you deserve all the love in the world(((((((((((())))))))))))

 

[rachelle1975]

I'm so sorry chick. I know nothing anybody says will make it better and i understand how heartbreaking it must be to watch DH be so upset. I hope that the pain lessens at some point for both of you

 

[princess_bump]

am so deeply sorry for you losses, thinking of you xxxx

 

[CurlySue]

I'd honestly rather the IVF had not worked at all than to have to go through this. It's cruel. It's false hope. If I had any reservations about my lack of belief in God they've gone, now.

 

[Sambatiki]

Oh CS Im so so so sorry

 

[toby2]

It is very cruel and very, very hard. Some people say everything happens for a reason but I could never, ever get that straight with the loss of babies-all seems so very pointless, am so very sorry you have had to go through this and i know nothing i say will make it better for you but I do care and I wish I could change things for you as do lots of other people, for what its worth
xxxxx

 

[Coffee]

So very, very sorry to hear this.
Sometimes i just wonder wtf is wrong with this world, i really do.

 

[NickyT75]

Oh hunni i have tears rolling down my cheeks for you now

I wish there was something i could do to ease your pain but I know from experience that nothing anyone could ever say will even come close to doing that

it breaks my heart to hear you feeling like you let your DH down in some way coz you really didnt it was out of your hands completely... but I can totally relate as I remember feeling this way too

Please be gentle on yourself and allow yourself time to grieve for your babies xx

 

[MrsJD]

When will I stop crying?

OH CS I feel your pain, you will stop crying, it will take time! You will be grieving and it's so painful. As Toby says people will say the right/wrong things to you and that's crushing at times.

They say time is a healer, time helped me.


xxxxxxx

 

[Nicnac]

I'm so sorry hon

 

[missmarls]

I don't even know what to say...I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[Pippin]

Hon, just out of curiosity did they scan you internally? I'm heartbroken for you, do you get another go on the NHS or is it private next? Just ignore me if your not in the mood for questions I understand.

 

[CurlySue]

It's okay Pippin. It's fine. Another free go but I don't think I can go through this again. I don't feel, right now, that I could cope with it. J's words just keep ringing in my head. "Will we get a picture?" "I am so confident that everything is okay that I have booked an appointment this afternoon because I know you will not need me." It breaks my heart over and over again. I can't even look at him without wanting to curl up and sob myself unconscious.

It was an internal scan. I told her I didn't feel good about it; that I completely expected there to be nothing inside. "You weren't wrong," she said. "I can see two sacs but no embryos. We call it a missed miscarriage."

I just call it the end, really. Out of 12 eggs only 2 were any good and those 2 were genetically abnormal. Doesn't bode well, does it?

I only wish I could stop crying. I can't. That little voice just comes back. "I dreamed of our baby last night. He was the cutest thing I ever saw."

I truly believe that it...they...would have been. They would've been the most beautiful babies I ever saw.

 

[krissi]

Oh hun I am so very sorry, life is so bloody cruel xx

 

[MrsR32]

Oh CS, I'm crying for you, I can't believe this has happened to you after all you've already been through. No-one should have to suffer like this.

Just remember that you and DH need to comfort each other - he will not want you to feel worse because of him, you will get through this by doing it together.

Thinking of you.