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[Squig34]

How many weeks are you now Kira? I completely understand your anxiety, I'm on my 7th pregnancy following 6 mcs, my last at 21 weeks. But I've been able to get weekly scans. So I agree with Loeylo, surely your history warrants another scan before 12 weeks. Hoping for the best for you. PARL is tough.

 

[blueblue]

Sunny I'm so sorry, good luck x

Kira, agree with the other ladies, can you get another scan? My symptoms also went before 12 weeks but everything was ok, I read the HCG can peak before then. I had a lot of panics throughout my pregnancy - I bled at 6 weeks onwards and thought that was it and as I'd always had mmc's, I always panicked at scans. It's such a worrying time, you'll get great support here to help you through it x

 

[dairymomma]

Sunny- again and good luck with whatever you decide in the future.

Kira-I know all too well that feeling as I've had 10 miscarriages and I'm a first trimester bleeder even with my rainbow pregnancies. It's hard to stay optimistic when the signs all point to the negative but try to remember a few things here. First, your hCG levels are starting to slow down around 8/9 weeks and because of this, you may notice a decrease in pg symptoms. Second, stress and anxiety mask symptoms enormously well. I was having panic attacks and anxiety spells so bad while pg with my LO that my doctor nearly put me on anxiety meds. When I'd forget about being nervous, forget about the fears, and even forget about being pregnant for a few brief moments, my symptoms would come back. My best advice is to try and relax as best you can. Extremely hard, I know but stress isn't good for you or the baby so doing what you can to minimize it will only benefit you. Also, if you are REALLY nervous, request another scan. I can get ultrasounds every 7-10 days from about 6 weeks to 14 weeks if I want them and while they don't completely take away my fears, it does help to have that reassurance.

 

[KiraLeigh]

Thank you for the welcome ladies.

Going by the date of my last period I am currently 9+4 weeks, but going off my scan sizes I guess I would be 8+3 weeks.....that's providing baby is still growing at the same rate.

I doubt I would be able to get another scan via the NHS, despite my history they don't seem overly interested in this pregnancy. I have been told if I start bleeding or cramping then I should ring them but that's it.

I would love another scan before my 12 week scan, especially because I know they are dating me by the baby size, which means I still have another 3 1/2 - 4 weeks to wait

I think asking and being denied would be too much of a kick in the teeth.

 

[FeLynn]

sunny I am thinking of you.


I feel slightly relieved My HCG is 36868 as of Wednesday. I go again tomorrow. I feel with those numbers they should have seen more then a gestational sac yolk sac and maybe a fetal pole wasn't for sure. I'm still early 5th week.

 

[ginny83]

Wonderful advice dairy x i have such a love/hate relationship with scans. They're fantastic for reassurance but i also find it stressful leading up to them and even sometimes the day after the scan im back to worrying.

Flynn - i had a scan at 6 weeks and saw an empty sac. Had another obe 6 days later at 6+6 and there was bub and heartbeat.

 

[Mitchi]

Hey girls. It appears I'm back again after positive hpt last weekend. Already not feeling hopeful though as had some red bleeding on Tuesday and lots of severe cramping on Wednesday. It's eased off now other than back ache except for some pinky spotting so I'm fearing that it's probably yet another ectopic. I have a scan next Friday to see if we can see anything. If it's another ectopic I think I might just get my stupid tube chopped out as can't deal with ectopics on top on rmc (both previous ectopics in exactly same place so something to do with my left tube). This journey for a family is so emotionally draining but so thankful I have 1 little rainbow.

Kira- can you just tell the epau you've been getting some cramping to get another scan?! The only pregnancy I've had pregnancy symptoms with, failed and I felt nothing what so ever when pregnant with DS. So try not to focus on symptoms. Some people get them and some don't.

Sunny I'm so sorry that you think this is the end of your journey. I wish you all the luck and happiness for the future.

 

[dairymomma]

Ginny-I know. I love/hate scans too. I feel so reassured as the scan is going on but as soon as I leave radiology, I'm back to nervous again. It doesn't help that I'm a bleeder in the first tri and I've miscarried after great scans but it does help a bit to know that at that moment, baby is doing good.

FeLynn-it's still early days. Hard to wait when you've got a history of loss but it's all you can do right now. Great hCG numbers though so when you do go in next time, you should certainly see growth.

Kira-can you get a private scan if NHS won't help?

 

[FeLynn]

Friday my levels were 45770. Dr and midwife are making me made not returning my calls since Friday. I have to keep calling them and getting nasty. I finally got through asked why they are checking my progesterone levels bc I needed it last pregnancy. They said they will check it at my next appt and if I need it they will order it. Um isn't it smart to know my levels now and get me on it asap. Its as if they are waiting for me to miscarry. I am calling around to get in with other drs bc I cant do this. I also can not deliver at that hospital I had my last son there but they treated me badly when my mother was dying there and I just cant be there.

 

[dairymomma]

Felynn-I'm sorry your doctor and midwife are giving you the runaround. It's stressful enough being PARL but to have uncooperative/unsympathetic doctors sure doesn't help. I hope you can get in with another doctor sooner and you manage to convince them about the meds.

 

[nessaw]

Hi all. Big hugs felynn it's stressful enough without extra things.xx

We had our baby girl-Eva- on Tuesday-2 weeks late. We were induced on Sun and she was born at 12.36pm 2 days later weighing 6lb 14oz. Bit of a dramatic forceps delivery in the end. We had to stay in for checks but are home now and getting to know each other. I still can't believe we've got her.xxx

 

[Squig34]

Aw congratulations Nessaw! Glad Eva is here safely

 

[ginny83]

congrats Nessaw!!

 

[loeylo]

Congrats nessaw! Lovely name too

 

[Madrid98]

Congrats nessaw!!

 

[ab75]

Congratulations nessaw xx

 

[mowat]

Amazing news!

 

[wookie130]

Congrats, Nessaw!

 

[blueblue]

Congratulations Nessaw, that's wonderful . Hope you are getting settled in to life with your little rainbow x

Felynn, sorry the hospital aren't being helpful, I hope things get better soon x

 

[dairymomma]

Nessaw-congrats!

AFM-I recently found out that my dad's side of the family has so much suspected/undiagnosed/or unknown genetic malfunctioning and autoimmune issues going on that a genetic counselor wants to study us and if he finds something new, my uncle gets to name the condition because he's the one who seems to have gotten hit with every genetic whammy in our family tree. I've got an email in to my dr asking about adding steroids to my treatment plan in case I have one of the unknown autoimmune things and I asked about genetic counseling-who he'd refer me to. If he doesn't know anyone, I'll refer myself to another clinic about an hour away because even if we decide not to try again, I still need to consult someone who knows about genes due to the enormous similarities my uncle and I have right now. But it's looking more and more like I may not be rejoining this thread after all.