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[floridamomma]

Blue- thank you.gearing up for my 20 week scan and appt on Thursday. Just a little over 48hrs to go.

Ready- congrats on your bfp. I know that feeling. I had 6 rmc and even at almost 20 weeks I still find myself nervous that she's still with me every day. I'm feeling her move now too. All I can say is that I prayed and found ways to get through my anxieties. I think after what we have been through we'll only feel safe when our lo are in our arms.

 

[SweetV]

Ready - I completely agree with Florida. The only way to get through is day by day. "today everything is ok". You have to assume that everything is good or you can go crazy assuming the worst. It's ok to be scared, it's ok to feel unattached. Best of luck!

 

[ttc126]

Just saying hi to you ladies❤️

Ready, congrats on your bfp. Love reading the happy updates from the rest of you 😀

Hope to be joining you again soon. I still haven't got a period since my d&c. It's been almost 6 weeks. So I'm awaiting that to do a hysteroscopy with my RE and then we'll ttc from there. I'm supposed to start progesterone from ovulation when we start ttc again. Hope it makes a difference ❤️

 

[floridamomma]

Ttc I hope to see you back soon as well xx

Today I go for my anatomy scan. Have been nervous since Monday. It's in 4 hours. Been up since 2:30am because I can't sleep. Just want to see and hear she's ok. Then I'll be 20 weeks Friday, then we're going on a 3 day baby moon Saturday. Keep mecnn thoughts and prayers ladies.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Thanks ladies for the boost. Unfortunately bfn followed the next day. If I hadn't tested so early I wouldn't have known. Just overall feeling frustrated with the whole process. I do like to see people's updates though with successful pg.
Florida-cant wait to hear about your baby girl!

 

[floridamomma]

Scan went ok. Ob said she looks great, here comes the dreaded but. But she's measuring small. They didn't tell me how much smaller just said lets do a f/u us in 4 weeks. I feel she is ok but you ladies know how it is after all we go through to get here to hear news like this. Dh and I are small people (5'3&5'3) so that's why the ob thinks she's a little smaller. Waiting on s call from the ob nurse to get measurements. They said don't worry(yeah ok)

 

[confuzion]

Just saying hi to you ladies❤️

Ready, congrats on your bfp. Love reading the happy updates from the rest of you 😀

Hope to be joining you again soon. I still haven't got a period since my d&c. It's been almost 6 weeks. So I'm awaiting that to do a hysteroscopy with my RE and then we'll ttc from there. I'm supposed to start progesterone from ovulation when we start ttc again. Hope it makes a difference ❤️

I'm sorry for your recent loss ttc. I really hope you will be here with your rainbow soon. Hope he hysteroscopy gives some insight and the progesterone does the trick for you .

Thanks ladies for the boost. Unfortunately bfn followed the next day. If I hadn't tested so early I wouldn't have known. Just overall feeling frustrated with the whole process. I do like to see people's updates though with successful pg.
Florida-cant wait to hear about your baby girl!

 

[ttc126]

Ready I'm so sorry

Florida, I hope it's truly nothing to worry about. I'm glad it sounds like they'll keep a close eye. Hang in there. You're in my prayers.

 

[floridamomma]

Thanks ladies for the boost. Unfortunately bfn followed the next day. If I hadn't tested so early I wouldn't have known. Just overall feeling frustrated with the whole process. I do like to see people's updates though with successful pg.
Florida-cant wait to hear about your baby girl!

Don't know how I missed this. so sorry love.

 

[dairymomma]

Florida-glad everything looked good for the most part. And DH and I are smaller people too (I'm 5'6", DH is 5'7") and two of our kids have measured small at 20 weeks. Not overly small mind you-about a week behind. But they measured that way the whole way through my pregnancies and they were itty bitty at birth too. DS was 6lb3oz, DD was 5lb14.5oz, and LO was 6lb9oz. We just make small babies I guess. If you are short and your DH is short, then it's very likely baby girl is just on the teeny side. Also remember that even at 20 weeks an ultrasound can be WAY off on weight because it's just an estimate based on the scan. But yeah, the worry never really leaves, does it... and hang in there hon. Hopefully your next scan shows she's caught up and all is well.

 

[Smiler75]

So I posted here a few weeks ago looking a bit of support and a friendly welcome and basically got told this "forum is not for you go to recurrent miscarriage"..hhhmmmmm...made me more than a little sad .

As I could be pregnant at any time -as I am still clinging to hope - and trying- after 8 miscarriages and 6 years of losing my babies-surely here is as appropriate as anywhere else to post? No? I have noticed those who have just miscarried (and not pregnant when posting) posting comments here.

 

[confuzion]

So I posted here a few weeks ago looking a bit of support and a friendly welcome and basically got told this "forum is not for you go to recurrent miscarriage"..hhhmmmmm...made me more than a little sad .

As I could be pregnant at any time -as I am still clinging to hope - and trying- after 8 miscarriages and 6 years of losing my babies-surely here is as appropriate as anywhere else to post? No? I have noticed those who have just miscarried (and not pregnant when posting) posting comments here.

Majority of the ladies answering the posts on the RMC thread are also trying and hoping to be pregnant at any moment. I'm sorry you felt unwelcome but reading back the ladies were just trying to direct you to a place where you may get more answers and find more common ground. This place can be tough on the ladies who are trying after multiple losses as there are constant pregnancy updates not everyone is in the right state of mind to see.

We are all also originally from that thread and almost all of us go back there to answer questions there as well. The other ladies more than me.

You are not being shunned because you are not pregnant. Feel free to post here. Everyone is free to post here. Like I said before, they just wanted you to find more people in a similar situation.

Best of luck hope you get your rainbow soon.

 

[Hope39]

I've deleted my original post because I got you mixed up with someone else

Smiler - some ladies find it hard being on thread that talks a lot about pregnancy when they are suffering recurrent losses, I know I very rarely came onto this thread until I was acrually pregnant.

Please feel free to post here Hun, no one would have wanted to make you sad xx

 

[Hope39]

The recurrent miscarriage thread is so quiet these days which is a real shame for those looking for support, it was so active when i was suffering losses and I've made some lifelong friends through being on that the thread .

Xx

 

[dairymomma]

Smiler-I hope you don't feel unwelcome here. As someone else already said, the original responses you received were given with good intentions as it can be hard for some to see pg news when they are going through infertility and recurrent loss issues and they aren't currently pg. I've been on both threads quite a bit over the last few years and the one thing that's the basis of both is the understanding and compassion that the ladies will give. But if you feel this is the better place for you to be, then by all means post away and ask your questions. We're here to help each other out and support each other no matter what our experiences may be.

 

[floridamomma]

Dairy- thank you. I am feeling much better about every thing.
Smiler- I think it's more meant as far as questions anout testing etc the other thread has much more info. And it is hard as the ladies said if you are still in the wait. It was for me and I wouldn't be able to read updates even though I know many women have been through the same if not more than me(I also suffered 6 mc) and it was still painful to see their updates even though I know they've earned it. So sorry if you've ever felt that way. I need to go back the thread but it is quiet and st crimes hard to talk about while parl. Xx

 

[floridamomma]

Tmi alert!!!
Dh and I bd for the first time since bfp almost 5 months ago. We were very gentle but I'm still nervous. Woosah moment. Just needed to vent.

 

[Squig34]

Sorry to hear that, Ready.

Florida, someone's baby has to be on the smaller side of average! & ultrasounds can be very inaccurate. I hope all is well even if baby is on the petite side & that you get some reassurance at your next scan

 

[floridamomma]

Thanks squig

 

[ReadynWaiting]

The RMC thread is quiet but I know any time I have posted questions people are amazing to respond quickly. For me this thread isn't at all upsetting as I know everyone has had struggles to get where they are. Hopefully one day we can all be so lucky. I'm just grateful to have other people out there that understand how I'm feeling and know what I'm going through.