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[heart tree]

Charmer that's wonderful news! I had a scan at 6 weeks exactly with this little one and the hb was 113 which was normal. Yours is an excellent rate for where you are! Congrats!!

Fili, I wouldn't have answered the door either. I rarely, if ever, answer the door if I'm not expecting someone. We don't have a way to see who it is and we don't have a chain on the door to prevent someone from coming in if I did open it a crack. I've watched too many shows where women open the door and something bad happens. I think your instincts were correct.

Bumps, Fili is so funny! I don't get stressed when I see your name. You better not stop posting! LOL! March is right around the corner. Your scan will be here before you know it.

I've had 2 good sleeps in a a row after a string of sleepless nights. It feels so good to be rested. I'm going to a 3 year old's birthday party today. It's one of Tim's cousin's kids. It's the first time in years I've been able to go to one of their children's parties. I always make an excuse not to go. Today I feel more confident going. Especially because my bump is showing now and I'm really starting to look pregnant (even though I don't really feel pregnant.)

I hope everyone is having a great day. xoxo

 

[puppycat]

Here's the photos from my baptism if anyone's interested

 

[heart tree]

Puppy those are awesome pictures! I love the progression of them! How was it? (aside from wet!) Do you feel different now? Congrats! What a special thing to do while pregnant.

 

[puppycat]

It was so emotional Heart - I was so overwhelmed when I came back out of the water.

I read my testimony before I was baptised and mentioned our losses and that I was 16 weeks now. Everyone erupted in the church, they knew I was pregnant but they didn't know about the losses before. It was just an amazing experience all round

 

[filipenko32]

Aww that's lovely puppy!

 

[heart tree]

Oh Puppy, that sounds magical. What a lovely experience!

 

[filipenko32]

Heart, maybe my sister saved me by calling me at just the right time!! I'm so happy for you going to the children's party that's would be quite a milestone for me, so happy for you heart I hope you enjoy every minute, you might be the only one there who is not frustrated by the noise!! Glad you're feeling rested x x x

 

[hopeful23456]

3x- that's a great heartbeat!

Fili - I wouldn't have answered the door either at your house, my dogs would have gone crazy here

Heart- had a dream about you last night and one other girl I can't remember who, short dream, you were here in mn and we were at some event, like a convention maybe? And I asked if you brought your doppler and if you would check me but you didn't bring it

Puppy- nice pics! I was baptized at just a month old I think? and I maybe have 1 pic of it? If that.

I'm making homemade vegetable beef soup with dumplings, feel like eating veggies.

 

[filipenko32]

Thanks hopeful, that's a funny dream too! I wonder if any of us will ever meet up, I hope we do with our babies one day that would be amazing!!

 

[filipenko32]

I love that prams are called 'strollers' in the us it's much nicer than pram! Think pram comes from perambulator meaning to walk in a leisurely way.

 

[heart tree]

Hopeful that's such a funny dream! There's no way I would travel without my doppler! I wonder what convention we were at?

Enjoy the cooking. I love cooking, especially soups. I just bought "What to Expect - Eating Well when You're Expecting." They have a lot of great recipes in there. If I make any winners, I'll be sure to post the recipes here.

Fili, I like the word stroller too. I always wondered where pram came from! Thanks for the language lesson. Words fascinate me.

I just had a major meltdown with my husband. We started off by talking about cleaning out our house to make room for baby. We live in a very small house and we have a lot of stuff we need to get rid of. It turned into a conversation about how I need to get a higher paying job to sustain the lifestyle we want so we can afford to buy a house some day. I work in a field that doesn't pay much and we live in one of the most expensive places in the world. I felt like I was being attacked, even though that wasn't his intent. I worked really hard to develop this career - I went to grad school in my 30's and am finally feeling like an expert in my career. Therapist jobs are few and far between and don't pay well. My husband makes a good amount of money and we're not poor by any means. But to buy a house here is almost impossible, they are just so expensive. I started crying because he suggested my career might be a dead end and I might have to think about a new career. I was really hurt by that given how hard I've worked to get here. I couldn't stop crying. I was a ball of tears and snot. He likes living very comfortably, as do I. I think he's scared about having a baby and what that will mean for us financially. In our current situation, we can basically do whatever we want and not worry about money (except buy a house). We can travel and go out to nice dinners. I think he's terrified of losing that lifestyle. To me, that lifestyle feels empty if it means we can't have a baby. I'd rather live more frugally with a baby. He wants the baby and the money. It scares me to think about trying to find a higher paying job after the baby is born. I want to work less, not more. Not to mention, I'm not sure I would even find anything that paid more.

It felt good to cry though. I haven't done that in a while. It's a good release. We aren't fighting. He sees my point of view and I see his. We decided not to look too far out into the future and just focus on making room in this house for our baby. Trying to plan too far out makes me crazy.

 

[filipenko32]

You know what heart once your baby gets here your hubby will want to make sure youre around all the time to look after 'her', I don't think it will be an issue once he sees all the work that is involved and he will be so protective. However I'm feeling anger that he is putting you under pressure & that you don't need but perhaps he ks feeling a little pressure himself and doesn't want to let you down in some way lifestyle wise?. I assume he knows how important your job is to you too. I am totally with you about less money and a baby, god money means nothing in comparison does it? I think he will adjust pretty quickly once baby is here? Maybe bide your time and he will see! X x x

 

[jenny25]

Amanda we are currently going through the same thing we don't have a high paid job both Paul and I want to go back to uni he wants to do event management and I was to be a midwife but as you know we stay with mil so we don't even have a house we are liking for the moment and we know things will sort itself out I wouldn't worry for the time being xx

 

[puppycat]

Puppy- nice pics! I was baptized at just a month old I think? and I maybe have 1 pic of it? If that.

Thanks hun. I was christened when I was a baby. The way the Christian baptists believe it (or how I understand it at least) is that the baptising or dedicating of babies is to thank the Lord for the blessing of a child and for the new life and to dedicate your life, as their parent, to teach them the ways of the world and how to be a good person etc.

When you are baptised as an adult it is you being 're-born' free of sin and renewed as a Christian and as a follower of Christ. It's sort of an affirmation of your faith, the act of 'burying' the old you and 'raising' the new you iyswim. e.g. Jesus was baptised by John at the ripe old age of 30 (in those days 30 was ancient!) - my Nan was baptised today at the age of 72!

Heart I think it's normal, especially for the first child, for men to have a wobble when it comes to money. Don't read too much into it honestly. DH had it too but now we're in a worse financial state than before and we are so chilled about it. Honestly, a baby needs love and attention and everything else will fall into place. Just let him come round in his own time

 

[daviess3]

Hi ladies, sorry not been about! Hope everyone's ok??
Ha so sorry my heart goes out to you xx

I'm good ladies realised my problems with toilet was after eating red meat for first time in 4 months!! So defo no red meat for me again! Lil belly is popping an can feel a definate bump can u believe heart Croy hopeful our bubs are 5 an half inches? Wow just rem the apple seed! Our babies are amazing already!

I actually brought myself to look at cots,!!!!! Only online but I found one I'm going to have the tutti bambini Louis sleigh cotbed, in white I love it!! They sell it in tesco google it sn tell me what u think? X
How's tracie an diva?

Lou any twinges yet?

Embo how's u? 3x puppy Jenny fili?? Everyone else? Xx

 

[puppycat]

They sell it cheaper here

 

[puppycat]

Oh I love it btw

 

[Embo78]

I'm great thanks Davies. My mother in law came for Sunday dinner. I made broccoli and Stilton soup with crusty bread rolls. Then roast chicken, roast potatoes, mashed potatoes, carrots, peas and proper gravy!!
After they all had sticky toffee pudding with cream and I had fresh pineapple mmm mm mmmm!!

Shattered now though as I've been in the kitchen most of the day!

 

[hopeful23456]

Heart- guys get so crazy about money, that's why dh had us find daycare early to make sure we had enough money or he would have to stay at home (I'm lucky to have a great job). its the only thing they feel they can control as we are doing everything else with the baby so far.
You have to be a therapist, it's your calling.
I couldn't imagine buying a house where you live, they are pricey here but nothing compared to San Fran. I don't understand how, on house hunters the people can afford the expensive houses they show on there, I'm guessing alot of it is inheritance money...

Davies- cute cot! Funny you call it a cot as here a cot is like a pop up bed, not for babies.

Thanks puppy! My family is Lutheran...But I've heard about the 2 baptisms before

 

[puppycat]

Hopeful what's Lutheran? Not heard of that and i'd love to know more