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[filipenko32]

I agree tracie!

 

[filipenko32]

Thanks puppy that's interesting

 

[bumpyplease]

good luck today fili! x

 

[puppycat]

Lol Tracie. I'd have kicked it into next week!

 

[heart tree]

Good luck Fili!

Jen, I agree with you. After all you've been through, you deserve some rewards. I'm sorry it wasn't a good shopping experience. You also deserve to find out the gender if you want. His mother should not dictate this pregnancy. It's not hers, it's yours. And so is the birth. She's out of line with how controlling she is being right now. I'm frustrated for you.

Puppy, good job on 8 days of no sickness! You must feel so much better. Now go drink some water!

 

[jenny25]

Thanks Amanda you know I've been I tears I've just spoken to Paul I've told him that I just want him and mum there he said oh my mum will be upset and she has for a lot for us blah blah I was ready to say what did he do for our wedding ? We didn't even get a wedding gift a card no contribution but what do I know I hate feeling like this I just can't drop crying I've got the school run in 30 min and I'm red eyed ball of snot xx

 

[heart tree]

I'm so sorry you are getting this pressure. She should be doing things for you out of the goodness of her heart, not because she expects anything in return. You don't owe it to her to have her in the room when you give birth. It's not a debt you owe. Maybe when you cool down and feel a little better you could write her a card. In it you could tell her how much you appreciate all she's done for you. She let you live with her which was very kind of her. You might tell her how much you care about her and look forward to her being a part of this baby's life. Then you might say something like you want your birth experience to be a small affair. You want your mum and Paul there as your supports but any other people in the room will make you feel anxious. You can tell her it has nothing to do with her, instead it is about you. You need to feel as calm as possible. You can tell her she will be welcome to come in right after the baby is born to enjoy the moment with you and you look forward to sharing that with her.

Would something like that work? I think you need to let it go today. Don't keep talking about it with Paul. You are both sensitive right now. Give it a few days or a few weeks and then talk about it again and maybe write the card.

 

[jenny25]

Thank you for the advise that's great I don know what it is more hormonal than normal but hey I think I need a right weepy movie to help get it all out I've not got my therapist until 29th I have my midwife in the 21st so I will let it go for now and just get in with it xx

 

[hopeful23456]

anyone watching americas next top model brits vs americans? its pretty dumb...had it recorded and watched last night

puppy - so glad you are feeling better! who is jeff? eating safety pins?

fili - can't wait to hear about the saline u/s, mine didn't hurt but before my septum was removed, they couldn't get much if any saline up in there, after it was removed, it was like normal and the saline flowed fine (very strange)

fili and puppy - so funny about the swans!

jenny - i would buy the stuff anyway! at least a couple of things. maybe just go by yourself and hide them?

tracie- i read in a book that babies snore like pigs (like snorting) and i had no clue about it

croy - i've been hungry for stuffed peppers, not spicy ones, just green peppers with meat inside. good luck with the test! i only had 1 quarter of french in college for a
gen ed class, the teacher would only speak french, i was clueless but did ok. i had 3 years of latin in high school

davies - i feel them mostly really early in the morning, little taps, and then later in the morning. i think when they are in a growth spurt i don't feel them as much, like today i'm super tired (which also happens I think when they are growing) and i think they are sleeping

heart - so sweet about that song, can't wait to hear it one day!

here are the boy/girl pics from the ultrasound on feb 27, i will get much clearer pics tomorrow at the anatomy scan. this was just my regular ultrasound...

 

[hopeful23456]

and i'm having boob issues today, very sore, esp on left side and itchy. more growing

 

[heart tree]

Hopeful, those scans are really helpful to me. You were 17+6. I was 17+5 with my scan and have been googling boy and girl potty shots to compare mine too. I'm anxious that they are going to tell me it's a boy afterall. But after seeing your boy potty shot, there is no question that mine doesn't look like that. You definitely have a boy in there! The girl is a little harder to tell but it certainly doesn't look like a boy. I can't wait for your anatomy scan tomorrow! You better post pics!!!

 

[heart tree]

When do we get some new bump shots girls? It's getting time we see some more. Sorry for the itchy boobs Hopeful! Mine seemed to have stopped growing, thank god. I'm sure they'll start again though.

 

[heart tree]

I'll start. This was 18+2

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[Embo78]

Gorgeous bump heart. Looks just like my first bump with Ella 16 years ago!!! Scary when I think bout that!!

 

[hopeful23456]

so cute heart! I will try and do one in the bathroom at work, lol.
isn't it funny how unmistakable a boy is? you definitely have a girl. my boobs had stopped growing and now have started again with a vengeance. and my uterus is 1-1.5 inches above my belly button as of last thursday too. it can't really go too much farther i don't think. i'm basically measuring 3-4 weeks ahead compared to if i had 1 in there.

 

[3xscharmer]

Daviess - no sickness today....arrrggg!! Oh well, hoping it comes back soon lol!!

Jen - so sorry you are having issues hun, DH made the decision not to have anyone there and at first I didn't agree, but when it came time I was very much on board and from the first contraction until the first 2 hours of her life I saw no-one but DH and the hospital staff. We didn't want anyone even just talking with us while I was in labor and DH made all phone calls outside the room...it was about me and him and it will be that way this time too! I wasn't mean about it though, I just told everyone that it was our baby and we are the ones who went through the pain of those losses and NO-ONE else shared that kind of pain with us so we just wanted it to be something between our little family! Of course I can get mean so everyone backed off and it helps when DH is a big guy and isn't afraid to tell someone off! Good luck, but remember: THis is YOUR baby and YOUR pregnancy and YOUR birthing experience and even if it requires some hurt feelings, DO NOT let anyone talk you into something YOU don't want to do, even DH! B/c trust me, after LO is born he'll be too happy to hold a grudge and probably be happy that yall did things YOUR way...it is his baby, but YOU'RE the one who has to be pregnant and give birth!!

Hopefull - beautifull scan pics!!

HEart - definatley think yours is still a girl lol!! Your pics are just so cute, looks like you're going to be one of those skinny pregnant ladies...I was and it was so much easier to loose the weight afterwards!!

Hello to everyone else!!

 

[heart tree]

Hopeful, I can't wait to see a bump at the same gestation as me but with two babies in there! You must look really pregnant. You're right, boys are unmistakable. Of course I made the mistake of googling and some women said they were told a girl at their 20 week scan and it ended up being a boy. But after looking at a lot of potty shots, I realize a lot of them aren't as clear as mine was. My pictures are crystal clear. I wonder if some of those women had scans on older machines. I need to stop worrying! LOL!

Charmer, that's lovely advice for Jenny. I wholeheartedly agree. No one else suffered the pain of the losses. It really is about you and your husband. I'm going to also have my mother with me for the birth, but that's it. Everyone else can wait in the waiting room.

Don't worry about the sickness. It will return!

Em, your bump is BUMPTASTIC!

 

[filipenko32]

Aww you look gorgeous with your bump Heart!

Back from my 3d saline scan and everything is perfect!! No scarring no tissue no cysts no nothing all clear and the best bit... A good egg reserve!!!! . The thing that's stopping me getting my af is my corpus luteum which is now haemorrhaging which means it's going to go soon. He said I will ovulate next and then get my period. So relieved! It was painful but worth it to know that.

 

[heart tree]

Fili that is great news! Though I'm not surprised. I knew it was going to be ok babe. But I'm glad you got the reassurance you needed. Did he have any sense of a timeframe?

 

[bumpyplease]

Aww you look gorgeous with your bump Heart!

Back from my 3d saline scan and everything is perfect!! No scarring no tissue no cysts no nothing all clear and the best bit... A good egg reserve!!!! . The thing that's stopping me getting my af is my corpus luteum which is now haemorrhaging which means it's going to go soon. He said I will ovulate next and then get my period. So relieved! It was painful but worth it to know that.

yay! so happy for you! and now please STOP worrying lol!!!!!! the fact that everything looks great and you have a good egg reserve, does that make you think that maybe if you tried naturally just once more you might get lucky or are you still sure about waiting and going the IVF route?
so pleased for you!

Heart, you have the perfect bump!!!! im very jealous! im so bloated right now!