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[Tasha]

Thanks girls. I felt that FINALLY too Pip, feels like I've not stopped fighting for years you know. I think that's the experience of lots of recurrent loss girls though isn't it?

It is, he said to get them on a Wednesday as he can be in clinic that day to see me after

My cervix scans are fortnightly too so I'm going to make sure the weeks im not having growth scans are the weeks im having cervix scan I think

 

[kelly1973]

Tasha fantastic news sounds like you had a fantastic meeting its so good he sounds brilliant and exactly what you need
Petipas really hope you feel better soon it doesn't sound nice at all and quite scary
Thanks for the advise on the progesterone from tonight it's the back door for me lol
Tasha I forgot to ask and hope you don't mind what is proms?

 

[Tasha]

I forgot to say Pip, I hope the antibiotics work. It's a long time maybe you need swabs to see what is going on.

Kelly it is premature rupture of membranes. I had it at 28 weeks with Honey who died at 36+6 x

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Tasha: it changes everything when your doctor understands and really cares! It does make us keep hope that some doctor do have that as a vocation, not just a way to make money. I'm really pleased for you.

Ginny:

Dairy: lol! Pregnancy hormones jab!
I too have holes in my brain!!! I can't keep up with a conversation. I even start sentences and can't finish them. As for losing money, well, if that can make you feel better, we had to pay £300 extra on our flight back to the uk because I forgot to do the online check and we were 15 min late to do the check in at the airport. Argh!

 

[dairymomma]

Tasha-SO glad you found the doctor you need. Having a supportive dr only helps, doesn't it? And that's a good plan to have your cervical check done opposite your scans. Get to see bubs all the more, right?

Petitpas-meant to post earlier that I'm sorry you aren't feeling the best. Hopefully it passes soon.

Ummi-they have those sympathy bellies so guys can feel what it's like to carry around a bowling ball attached to your middle so why not the hormone part too?

AFM-the whole bill thing worked itself out and now I feel pretty silly letting myself get all worked up about it last night. I was just SO worried because the bigger bill is for our house/land/equipment insurance and I was under the assumption that our policy would be cancelled if they didn't receive payment tomorrow. (It's not due by tomorrow but it's straightened out regardless) I let the stress go to my head and took it out on DH. It doesn't excuse his reaction though. And I still wish he'd put himself in my shoes. It's so frustrating and aggravating to be looking at a list and literally be forgetting what's on it while you are staring at the thing. Some days it's enough for me to remember to keep my head attached to my shoulders and tend the house/kids/meals much less bills that I haven't seen. But the whole mess is taken care of and I'm relieved. Still peeved at DH though. So I'm making him take the kids tonight after work. I'm meeting my in-laws (ladies only) for a powwow tonight and since I'm not sure when the meeting will be over, DH gets to snag the kids, feed them, and put them to bed. I'm not coming home until I KNOW it's all taken care of, even if I have to make a solo run to town for coffee or something.

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Enjoy your night out hun.

Dh had some sort of couvade syndrome for 2-3 weeks when I was 7 weeks along. That was horrible because he felt as sick as me, but I would have had to take care of him. I couldn't even take care of myself or the kiddos. I'm glad it did not last long! Haha!

 

[petitpas]

I'll be ok. To be honest, both the doctor and I agreed it's probably viral but we're giving it a go with theantibiotics so who knows. Not the best practice and unusual for my doctor but he likened it to me being a sports person and if I had a big match ahead of me I'd fight being ill in any way possible.

Ds came with me to my appointment. He put on his most charming smile for the doctor, even though he is usually very shy, and asked for a sticker PLEASE!

Urgh, preggo memory. I have that. I often forget to write things on my list. I'm useless. Im also finding it hard to control my hormonal moods. Especially when in essence I know I'm right but I'm overreacting and making things worse. I think dh has cottoned on, though. He is being very understanding, clears up after me and often just sends me to bed (in the nicest way, meaning he'll tidy up and look after ds). He is also trying to prepare himself for the post birth meltdowns due to lack of sleep

 

[DSemcho]

Tasha I am happy everything is going good! And what do you mean dipping my urine? I k ow they aren't doing a glucose test til way later, but I think when I see my doctor in 3 weeks I'll mention the thirst to him.

MrsR - I hated my FUPA too until one day DH grabbed it and told me he wished it was a little smaller but he loved it. Honestly the best feeling I've ever had and that was the single moment where I had the most confidence ever.


AFM - went ahead and ordered the Doppler. And it should be here in a week to 10 days. And I've still got 2 1/2 weeks until I hit 13 weeks.


Edit: My iPad autocorrected Tasha to Trash... I'm sorry.

 

[ab75]

Tasha I am so glad that you are finally getting the care you deserve xx

 

[Tasha]

That makes sense Pip. Can't believe you're so close now. It's exciting.

D, I mean when you go in for appointments do you need to do a urine sample and then they use a little white stick to test it? That should be done at all pregnancy appointments (aside from scans) and it tests for infection, protein, ketones, and also sugar in your urine (plus other stuff), if you've GD then sugar will generally show in your urine. Talk to your dr regardless x

Thank you Ab, how are you and Frazer?

 

[Squig34]

So glad to hear of such a positive appointment for you & being listened to at last, Tasha!

Dairy, just right

Hope you're recovered before your section, Pip. How cute of DS!

 

[floridamomma]

Hi all. I love seeing your good progress. I keep you all in my prayers. I went to see the rms and he ran lots of labs. All normal. So his plan is for me to call when my period comes on. I start a prenatal, folate, baby aspirin and steroids. I'll take Clovis day 5-9. Day 11-13 get a soon to check for eggs. Inject with hug 36 hours later do an iui check progesterone one week later for a few weeks and then on soon gram. I'll start love box the day of iui. It was a lot to take on at once. Thankfully I know about all of this thanks to you all. Problem isy period is coming on as I type I think. And we would need to get a move on as we are moving in a few months and may lose our good insurance

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Hello ladies,

Tasha, it warms my heart to know you are being well taken care of and their doing what's right for you and what you want.

petitpas, your son asking for a sticker is so darn cute!!

DSemcho, yeah I'm super self concious of my FUPA, I don't like my husband to see me naked at all. I had lost about 50lbs before our wedding and it was just tiny, but I've gained about 35 of it back. He's never said anything to me about my body, but I know both him and myself would love me to be in a bit better shape. He's so blessed, he can eat whatever he wants and is tall and thin. Hate that!!!!

Question: What causes premature rupture of the membranes?

 

[Ummi2boyz]

MrsR: dh is also the skinny type. He's used tub my FUPA! Lol! The good news is once you have your rainbow you can call a mummy tummy even if like me you've had it way before you've had children! Haha!

Girls, I'm gutted. It seems I won't be having my home birth after all, just because my address is not in the hospital catchment! I know it's not a big deal as long as I can give birth safely, but I'm so disappointed.

 

[dairymomma]

Florida-Good to hear you have a plan even if it sounds pretty detailed. Good luck with it though and hopefully it leads to your rainbow baby!

On the FUPA topic, I have one too and it's irritated me to no end. But I've learned to accept my body for what it is. I'll never be a size 4 and even if I lose all the weight I should, I'll have a Jessica Rabbit hourglass figure because of my broad hips, booty, and boobs. I've considered skin removal surgery if/when I lose all the weight because it'll be extreme weight loss (100lb from current weight) but even if I don't have the surgery, my DH has never made an issue of my kangaroo pouch. He keeps saying he's got a hot wife and he loves me for who I am, not what I think I look like.

MrsR-lots of things can cause PROM. I believe infection and incompetent cervix are the two biggest causes but it just sometimes happens. (Correct me if I'm wrong someone. I don't know much about PROM myself other than what my dr has mentioned in passing when I asked about incompetent cervix issues.)

AFM-ugh. I'm getting the pregnancy insomnia so I can't fall asleep at night leading to later and later bedtimes followed by a restless night's sleep and instant wake-up between 5:30 and 6:30am when DH gets up. So tired and dragging all day because of it...But at least I remembered to call the dr yesterday and schedule my appt when I was sorting out the whole bill payment mess. I see him Feb 4th and hopefully we'll see baby too. I'll be 8+4 so should easily see bubs.

 

[floridamomma]

What's a fupa?

 

[dairymomma]

FUPA stands for Fat Upper P***y Area hahaha. Basically where skinny girls have a small pooch or flat tummy in between their belly button and the begining of their pubic hair I have a kangaroo pouch going on hahaha

Florida-^^ FUPA. She put it perfectly.

 

[floridamomma]

Oh lol well I have that. I just call it my muffin top

 

[dairymomma]

Mine looks more like bread dough that's been left to rise too long. It's w.a.y. past muffin top.

 

[Tasha]

They don't know what causes PROM, sometimes it is infection, sometimes incompetent cervix but mostly there's no known reason. I'm involved in research this time too to help try and figure out what causes it (and preterm labour), every cervical scan a have a hey do various swabs, take a urine sample and do this coloured test of thing, it goes to the research department, they carry on collecting it looks to see if they can see anything linking prom or preterm labour ladies.

Ummi I'm sorry x