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[Mrs Reineke]

Ummi2boyz, I'm so sorry you can't have your home birth. But you are still going to have your little rainbow!!

dairymomma, your scan on the 4th will be awesome!! You'll see baby and heartbeat by that time!!

Ok, I'm dying over here with the FUPA talk!!! I remember way back when my sister and I were in high school (we're really close) and I told her that if I ever started to get a FUPA she had to tell me. Well what the hell!!! LOL!! I've given her crap about it because now I have one and she's like "Megan I had moved 5 hours away, so I didn't know you were getting one!" LOL!!! I seriously cannot stand mine. It's imbarrassing to me. But once I have my beautiful rainbow baby I can then focus on exercising and eating better to shrink it down a bit. I'll never be a size 4 either, I'm just not built that way. I'm 5'8" and have always been built muscular, but if I don't exercise...it doesn't look so hot. Hahaha!! But, now's not the time to worry about it. I need to take care of myself and baby.

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Thx mrsR. You're right. In the big scheme of things, it doesn't really matter. I did check the hospital that cares for my area, they've got mw that can come to me and I could have a home birth with them, but in the case of transfer, that hospital is way too far for me to be comfortable to go through with home birth. So I'll stick to the one closer, even though I'm not in their catchment.

You made me lol with the story of your sister!

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Yeah, it's a bummer your plan fell through Ummi2boyz. But as long as you and baby are healthy, that's all that matters.

 

[petitpas]

Ummi, could you not plan a homebirth but in case of an emergency still go to your closest hospital? How would the ambulance know who you are booked with?
Unless they are being very strict on the matter it might be worth discussing...?
Otherwise, does your closer hospital have a birthing pool or other facilities that would make you more confortable?
If you are really keen on a homebirth it would be a shame for an admin technicality to ruin it for you

 

[DSemcho]

That makes sense Pip. Can't believe you're so close now. It's exciting.

D, I mean when you go in for appointments do you need to do a urine sample and then they use a little white stick to test it? That should be done at all pregnancy appointments (aside from scans) and it tests for infection, protein, ketones, and also sugar in your urine (plus other stuff), if you've GD then sugar will generally show in your urine. Talk to your dr regardless x

Thank you Ab, how are you and Frazer?

I'm not sure what the lab does honestly. But I do have an appointment on the 4th so I will mention it then. I do know that today I'm going in and doing my quad screening testing for chromosome things and I'm also being tested by the doctor I saw this week for lupus, thryoid issues, vitamin d deficiency and something else.

DSemcho, yeah I'm super self concious of my FUPA, I don't like my husband to see me naked at all. I had lost about 50lbs before our wedding and it was just tiny, but I've gained about 35 of it back. He's never said anything to me about my body, but I know both him and myself would love me to be in a bit better shape. He's so blessed, he can eat whatever he wants and is tall and thin. Hate that!!!!

I'll be honest. Me and my DH got married in Aug 2010, and he did not see me naked in daylight until May of this year. That's when he grabbed my FUPA and told me that he wished it was a little smaller, but that he loved it (he grabbed my fat roll too lol). Honestly, it was the most amazing thing because no guy has ever done that and DH knows how self conscious I am.

Mine looks more like bread dough that's been left to rise too long. It's w.a.y. past muffin top.

Bahahaha. Mine looks like the bread dough thing now that I'm 10w pregnant. I'm definitely showing!!

Ok, I'm dying over here with the FUPA talk!!! I remember way back when my sister and I were in high school (we're really close) and I told her that if I ever started to get a FUPA she had to tell me. Well what the hell!!! LOL!! I've given her crap about it because now I have one and she's like "Megan I had moved 5 hours away, so I didn't know you were getting one!" LOL!!! I seriously cannot stand mine. It's imbarrassing to me. But once I have my beautiful rainbow baby I can then focus on exercising and eating better to shrink it down a bit. I'll never be a size 4 either, I'm just not built that way. I'm 5'8" and have always been built muscular, but if I don't exercise...it doesn't look so hot. Hahaha!! But, now's not the time to worry about it. I need to take care of myself and baby.

Hah. We've never had that deal because I always have had a FUPA. However before my sister had her first child she actually said once, "I wonder what it would be like to be fat like Nicole (hi, I'm Dekota Nicole lol)" Well... Needless to say she gained 80lbs - yes EIGHTY POUNDS, in her first pregnancy. She was a size 1-2 when she got pregnant, and three months after baby was a size 13/14. I'm sorry. But I laughed so hard at her because she finally knew how it felt. She's become a lot nicer since then too lol.


Also - I had another crazy dream last night! So me and DH lived in a busy neighborhood and we had a school bus (like the big yellow ones in the states) in front of our house (don't know why...) and my tiniest dog (will post a pic later so you can understand how tiny) ran out into the street with a rawhide. So... This part made sense because she hates walking on grass, and when you yell at her to stop something she gives you this dumbfounded deer in headlights look. Well she did that in my dream and got ran over; I yelled for DH to grab her and I had to get dressed. Came back down and DH was sitting in his recliner watching

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porn

with his

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weenie in his hand

. And I flipped shit on him... Went outside and all I saw was someone at my porch and there was a tiny liver and intestine and they told me she had got ran over a few more times because my DH hadn't moved her and that that was all that was left.... Needless to say I woke up pissed at DH, but I talked to him about it... He seems to be really good at deciphering dreams, and he said the bus is probably me feeling like I have to carry a bunch of people (some people at work I have to hold their damn hands the whole way). The him

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whacking it

thing was probably me feeling upset that I can't control the fact that we haven't DTD in three weeks and that I feel like he doesn't want me. And the Lilly (my dog) getting ran over is me feeling like I have no control in my life. He has seriously deciphered ALL of my crazy ass dreams.

 

[petitpas]

Tasha, I mostly just get the cheap dipstick with two squares on it when I have appointments. Protein and... sugar?
I know the one you mean with about ten different tests but they don't do it routinely.

D, I'm so glad I'm out of the crazy dreams period your dh is great for helping you decipher them!

As for your sister, I have one I've secretly laughed at when things happened to her. I remember her visiting me in hospital when I was a student. She stayed at my shared house and complained to me that my house mate had eaten her yoghurt and he wasn't washing up the dishes. I'm like yes, he does that. If you don't like it talk to him. I've got bigger fish to fry. She was incensed that we didn't have proper rules in our house and I didn't 'control' him better... Obviously, my sister was lucky enough to have her own studio flat at uni. Then she went abroad for a year. Oh, I laughed so much when I visited her. The first thing I did was mop her floor. She was in a stand off with her house mate about cleaning. They later had cockroaches!!!
I do love her but she is so quick to judge. She only ever understands when it happens to her, too.

 

[DSemcho]

omigosh that's hilarious.

 

[kelly1973]

Just wanted to say thankyou to you ladies for letting me join your group you have been lovely to me thankyou so much I'm so sorry to he leaving my 2nd scan today showed heartbeat had stopped this was my last chance I sm devastated u guess it wasn't to be

 

[wookie130]

Awww, Kelly1973, I'm so sorry to read this. You're in my thoughts and prayers. May I ask why this was your last chance? Please take care.

 

[petitpas]

Oh Kelly, I am so so sorry!
Big big hugs to you. I don't know your full history and why this was your last attempt. However, if you are having a D&C try asking for the remains to be tested. It may give you some answers.

All the best!

 

[kelly1973]

They did say they would test this time as do didn't really want it this time around and made this quite clear he won't make the same thing again I'm gutted I desperat wanted another but he just won't budge and said he don't do this again I really thought this was it this is my 4th mc so something has to be wrong me for sure I'm devastated

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Good morning ladies,

Kelly, I can't even put into words how sorry I am for you. Like wookie asked, if you don't mind sharing. How come this is your last time trying?

DSemcho, your husband sounds like a wonderful man. I'm lucky mine is as well. I can't believe your sister gained 80lbs while pregnant!!! I've been having weird dreams too. Had one about last night about my husband being dressed in a Santa outfit and he sent me a video text on his phone of him showing...ya know...his goods and so I rushed to the room he was in which was like in a hotel, but didn't look like a hotel and he was drinking whiskey which he NEVER drinks and he was absolutely wasted. He wanted to BD, but I told him we had decided to wait until after I see my doctor on the 26th to make sure it's ok with my mc history and he got reallly upset. There was a lot more weird stuff in the dream, but that was the main part. I think it's because we haven't had sex since I found out 3 weeks ago just out of fear of causing something to happen. So I think I want that time with him and I'm sure he does too, so it makes me dream about it because I feel bad. But yeah, talk about REALLY weird dreams!!!

 

[Tasha]

Kelly I'm so sorry. It's so unfair. I would still push for tests in case one day he changes his mind or you have an 'oops pregnancy' however unlikely that seems right now. Aside from that be gentle on yourself, I'm so sorry x

 

[Tasha]

Aaaaah Pip, ours do the ten one every time.

My obstetric medicine appointment today. It was who took me off clexane with RR and I hold him responsible for her death. All I can say is he is an absolute cock!!!

 

[hopeful23456]

so sorry Kelly

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Kelly, I've said it your journal, but I am devastated for you.
I know your dh doesn't want to be ttc again, but you never know what will happen.
Just in case, ask your doctor what they'll do to help you keep a baby in case you fall pregnant again. Remember, it took me 4 mc's too before I got this (hopefully) sticky one. You may need to be on clexane as soon as possible after bfp (I took it after we saw 1st hb) even if nothing shows in the tests.
I know you may not be thinking of that right now, but I just wanted to tell you before you leave b&b and in the hope you'll be back soon. Lots of love hun.

 

[Squig34]

Kelly, I'm so sorry have you ever had an endometrial scratch?

 

[kelly1973]

No squig what is this and who does it

 

[jkb11]

Hi ladies may I join your group? I'm seeking some advice.

I'm 31 have pcos and have had 4 miscarriages since 2011. I just completed my first frozen embryo transfer and have gotten very faint positives for the past 3 mornings. Of course my concern is they are not getting darker. I go Monday for my 1st bata but as of tomorrow I will be considered 14 dpo. We did PGS testing on all the embryos and they all came back perfect so it's not a genetic factor like my RE was sure it was. I would really like to prevent going thru another loss. Any suggestions of things I should inquire about??? I'm wondering if it could be an antibody issue. Any experience with lovenox and prednisolone???

Sorry for just jumping in. I appreciate any and all help.

 

[ginny83]

So sorry Kelly keep up with the investigations even if TTC again seems uncertain. I had told myself so many times that I was never goingto try again. Time is a big healer.

There's something extra cruel about missed miscarriages