I have a question for you ladies...
I am wondering how to word or go about congratulating my DHs cousin...
She is pregnant with her 3rd child. Over Easter she was excited because she was about to have her 20w U/S and find out the sex. During that test, they discovered baby had no nose bone, which is a soft marker for Down Syndrome. They opted for an amnio and the test was pretty certain that the baby does have DS. This was relayed to me through my MIL...The cousin and I are not super close, but I want to congratulate her. I know she is very upset by this, but I think it's more hurtful if people do not celebrate the blessings of this little girl. If the test was normal, people would be gushing, posting on FB. Instead no one is saying anything, and I think that is insulting.
What I don't know is how to word it. I started out by saying congrats on another girl (She has 2 at home, her sister has 2, and I have 4) and that we girls are taking over tge family
I also stated that I know she had some stressful test results and we are praying for them all. Then I stated that Abby was excited to have a girl cousin her age to play with soon.
Not sure if that is good at that, or if there is something else comforting I can say. I don't want to avoid the test results altogether either, that looks like either I didn't find out about them, or it's an elephant in the room.
Thoughts?