Anna, I'm so sorry you had such a crap experience on a photo forum. I am involved with two that I think are lovely, so if you would like I can PM you the addys (not sure if I can post them here)
For weddings, I tend to pack most of my kit. I use a Nikon D200, a Nikon SB600 flashgun with a Gary Fong Lightsphere as a diffuser (https://store.garyfonginc.com/kits.html). I have a Tamron 28-300mm lens, a Nikon 50mm f/1.8 lens, and a Tamron 90mm dedicated macro lens (which also doubles up as quite a nice portrait lens!) I don't use anything fancy, to be honest --- and I'm so flattered that you value my opinion!
Hypnorm, glad that you're liking RedBubble
I can heartily recommend the Tamron 90mm macro lens, but if you're wanting to try macro out before shelling out for a dedicated lens, you could always buy some close-up filters to fit one of your current lenses - I have a set of them and they work a treat!