Playing on my mind

Discussion in 'Pregnancy - Third Trimester' started by Mommy2Kian, Aug 30, 2009.

  1. Mommy2Kian

    Mommy2Kian Kaden and Sian :)

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    when i went for my detail scan, we had to see the consultant, i asked the consultant about having a private room, just because with having a 4 year old, i dont want him running up and down screaming, etc, also having a c-section i wanted comfort, we were wiling to pay.

    She looked at me and said, u dont need to ask this, you will more than likely get a "private" room anyway...last thing u want is to be on a ward with women who have given birth to "normal babies" when yours might not be...

    :cry: that hurt, and it's played on my mind since :(

    it was the way she said it, no compassion or anything like im gonna get slung to one side with a none normal baby :cry:

    If my baby isnt "normal" i dont care he will have all the love any "normal" baby would have. I just want my baby to get better, i want this fluid to go away, i dont want him to have an operation as soon as i have him :( i want to hold him and take him home.

    I feel so angry sometimes!

    Sorry, i have good days and bad, today seems to be a bad day :(

    xXx
     
  2. AtomicPink

    AtomicPink Well-Known Member
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    Oh my god what a idiot!!!!!

    And to be honest she is so wrong on many many levels.

    You must have the patience of a saint - i would have belted her.

    What the hell is 'normal'anyway!!!
     
  3. Mommy2Kian

    Mommy2Kian Kaden and Sian :)

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    :growlmad:I dont no what normal is these days but i was quite happy untill she came out with that, when she left the room i said to OH "she thinks our baby wont be normal":cry:

    I understand the more the fluid increases the worse the prognosis, but give me some hope at least! :growlmad:
     
  4. louise1302

    louise1302 mum to FIVE boys :)

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    what a nasty insensitive idiot she is

    :hugs: you are calmer than me id have socked her one......there is no 'normal' just individual

    silly silly woman
     
  5. Mumof42009

    Mumof42009 Mum Of 4 Preemie's

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    :hugs: dont listen to insensitive people hun, your little mans going to be perfect in everyway. Youve been through so much recently and look how strong youve been your amazing hun :flower:.
    As for the room i wouldnt worry your more than likely to be given one anyway, when i went in last week they wouldnt put me onto a ward i would talk to the ward clerk at the hospital as they are the people who deal with the rooms etc. xx:hugs:
     
  6. lou1979

    lou1979 Mummy to 3 beautiful boys

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    Thats really insensitive of her you poor thing! :hugs2:

    But im glad they are making the effort so that you do get your privacy huni xxx
     
  7. bloodbinds

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    She surely can't be allowed to say that?!?! I would put in a complaint. You poor thing, much hugs xxx
     
  8. Anna1982

    Anna1982 mummy of 4

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    what a b***h, I would report her firstly

    my god who denotes normal or none normal,

    some people need a good kick.

    i would call the ward to see if rooms can be paid for!
     
  9. Mommy2Kian

    Mommy2Kian Kaden and Sian :)

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    She even used her 2 fingers like a " " when she said normal, hope i dont get to see her again... (_Y_) asshole !
     
  10. Vicks

    Vicks Well-Known Member

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    She sounds like a complete idiot hun - I would put in a complaint against her, because that's just not on.
    Sending you big hugs sweetie x
     
  11. amazed

    amazed Mummy of 4 <3

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    i cant believe she said that... how rude....
     
  12. Bam

    Bam 3rd Trimester - #1

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    I'm with some of the other ladies... file a complaint. She shouldn't be allowed to have such crappy manner with people. Especially on such a sensitive subject!

    *hugs* Kaden will be just fine. :) No need to worry about "normality".
     
  13. Bunnipowder

    Bunnipowder Well-Known Member

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    :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: What a bloody thing to say!!! I would think about putting in a complaint too because that is really unsensitive and unthoughtful to say when you and your OH are trying hard to be optimistic you dont need a reminder of the uncertainty. I was in a private room after I had Callum and I would of been heartbroken if one of the midwifes had made that comment to me too :hugs:
     
  14. xkirstyx

    xkirstyx mummy to Jack and Emily

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    omg hunny thats shocking!!! big hugs :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: xxx
     
  15. gracegrace

    gracegrace happily pregnant with 2nd

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    *jaw hits keyboard* How dare she assume anything about your feelings or attitude towards your child. And how how can she possibly think that such an attitude of her own is acceptable.

    I agree with the others... if you're got the time/energy, complain!
     

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