Im in the same boat as some of you and have had a terrible time with midwives and then a consultant who reduced me to tears with some very hurtful comments!
To start with the midwife could not care for me so now I have to have hospital based care because she didnt have a large cuff to take blood pressure and because they are a mobile unit and move around so the bed they use is not suitable for a larger lady. They have put me at high risk so had to see a consultant and I had to inform him that they request I have hospital care for my antenatal apts! The first time I went to see him he was very rude and a disgrace to the human race, I won't go into everything he said cos if the tears start to flow i'll be at it all day with these hormones lol I was 16 weeks pregnant and he asked if i'd had a scan and when I replied yes he asked if they found anything!! I was totally in shock and couldnt even respond, I was on my own and left in tears after more hurtful comments. My partner is fuming and wants me to report him but so far ive not had to see him again and i'd refuse too aswell. I can't enjoy this pregnancy as it is so really didnt need such hurtful and negative comments from someone who is paid to look after us as such! I'm 22 weeks now 23 on monday ive had no problems what so ever to this point. But still the things he said make me think something will go wrong and its a horrible feeling! I'm still taking things one day at a time, cant pick a name, havent bought anything at all as of yet. I'm disgusted that he has made me feel this way. I don't even wanna go back for my apts which I kno is silly and i'll have too but what a pig!
I hope nobody else ever feels this way at a time thats meant to be full of happiness, my lil girl moves around and I can feel her but she doesnt move everyday I cant wait for that as my mind will be reassured everyday then! Midwife reckons regular movements from about 24 weeks so not long now The midwives at the hospital ive seen since are much better I will say that.
It feels good to get it out cos apart from my partner ive not really told many people at least here I kno that some of u will understand exactly where im coming from.
Good luck ladies and lotsa love
Kas xxx
To start with the midwife could not care for me so now I have to have hospital based care because she didnt have a large cuff to take blood pressure and because they are a mobile unit and move around so the bed they use is not suitable for a larger lady. They have put me at high risk so had to see a consultant and I had to inform him that they request I have hospital care for my antenatal apts! The first time I went to see him he was very rude and a disgrace to the human race, I won't go into everything he said cos if the tears start to flow i'll be at it all day with these hormones lol I was 16 weeks pregnant and he asked if i'd had a scan and when I replied yes he asked if they found anything!! I was totally in shock and couldnt even respond, I was on my own and left in tears after more hurtful comments. My partner is fuming and wants me to report him but so far ive not had to see him again and i'd refuse too aswell. I can't enjoy this pregnancy as it is so really didnt need such hurtful and negative comments from someone who is paid to look after us as such! I'm 22 weeks now 23 on monday ive had no problems what so ever to this point. But still the things he said make me think something will go wrong and its a horrible feeling! I'm still taking things one day at a time, cant pick a name, havent bought anything at all as of yet. I'm disgusted that he has made me feel this way. I don't even wanna go back for my apts which I kno is silly and i'll have too but what a pig!
I hope nobody else ever feels this way at a time thats meant to be full of happiness, my lil girl moves around and I can feel her but she doesnt move everyday I cant wait for that as my mind will be reassured everyday then! Midwife reckons regular movements from about 24 weeks so not long now The midwives at the hospital ive seen since are much better I will say that.
It feels good to get it out cos apart from my partner ive not really told many people at least here I kno that some of u will understand exactly where im coming from.
Good luck ladies and lotsa love
Kas xxx