PND Support Thread

[Gracie23]

I don't have any friends here yet and of course it's hard for me to meet new people when I can barely stand to leave the house. My two sister in laws are wonderful women but It's very hard for me to open up to them. My aunt lives two hours from me, she is coming up to visit and she has a friend here that she wants me to meet. I guess we have had similar difficulties and such. I'm nervous but am hoping this is a start.

My husband works 45 minutes from home....so imagine 8 hours plus another hour and a half for the drive =/ I get extremely lonely....I do get out most days as I have to walk to get my 6 year old from school. I do okay with these walks....but not even 10 minutes after being back at home my mood plummets.

 

[rainbows_x]

Hey girls

Not really sure what to write here, I am seeing my HV tomorrow as I am thinking I have PND.
I have all the symptoms of PND.
I also underwent CBT before I was pregnant for anxiousness/depression, afterwards I had a miscarriage & quit work, stragiht after I got pregnant, my OH has never really known me "not pregnant".
We are living with his mum atm, I would love us to have our own place, but we just can't afford it.
I don't really know what to write :/
Some days are good, others I just want to stay in bed & cry.

I barely see OH as he has two jobs and is constantly at work I have Ava all day long, do dishes, washing, tidying, food, bottles etc. He feeds her * chages her, but that's about it.

I feel everyone has a feeling on how I should raise her, she sleeps through the night & apparently I should be waking her, surely if she was hungry she would wake?

Ugh, sorry I am rambling.
Anyone have any idea what I should say tomorrow?

 

[akaash.]

Did anybody's ad's take over 3 weeks to kick in

Im starting to worry !!

xx

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

Hey girls

Not really sure what to write here, I am seeing my HV tomorrow as I am thinking I have PND.
I have all the symptoms of PND.
I also underwent CBT before I was pregnant for anxiousness/depression, afterwards I had a miscarriage & quit work, stragiht after I got pregnant, my OH has never really known me "not pregnant".
We are living with his mum atm, I would love us to have our own place, but we just can't afford it.
I don't really know what to write :/
Some days are good, others I just want to stay in bed & cry.

I barely see OH as he has two jobs and is constantly at work I have Ava all day long, do dishes, washing, tidying, food, bottles etc. He feeds her * chages her, but that's about it.

I feel everyone has a feeling on how I should raise her, she sleeps through the night & apparently I should be waking her, surely if she was hungry she would wake?

Ugh, sorry I am rambling.
Anyone have any idea what I should say tomorrow?

Just tell them how you feeel hun, just let it all out...they are there to help and will not judge you in any way. xx

 

[rainbows_x]

Hey girls

Not really sure what to write here, I am seeing my HV tomorrow as I am thinking I have PND.
I have all the symptoms of PND.
I also underwent CBT before I was pregnant for anxiousness/depression, afterwards I had a miscarriage & quit work, stragiht after I got pregnant, my OH has never really known me "not pregnant".
We are living with his mum atm, I would love us to have our own place, but we just can't afford it.
I don't really know what to write :/
Some days are good, others I just want to stay in bed & cry.

I barely see OH as he has two jobs and is constantly at work I have Ava all day long, do dishes, washing, tidying, food, bottles etc. He feeds her * chages her, but that's about it.

I feel everyone has a feeling on how I should raise her, she sleeps through the night & apparently I should be waking her, surely if she was hungry she would wake?

Ugh, sorry I am rambling.
Anyone have any idea what I should say tomorrow?

Just tell them how you feeel hun, just let it all out...they are there to help and will not judge you in any way. xx

Thanks
I;ve heard they may do a test?
Also, if it turns out I do have PND what will be the next step they take?

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

The Edinburugh Scale? I cant think of any other test they'll do though.. Im not entirely sure what they'll do next... maybe assess your score and take it from there... You'll have to ask them when it comes to it hun, Sorry im not much help. x

 

[rainbows_x]

Yeah that's the one I meant!

Okay thanks. x

 

[Gracie23]

When I went to my 6 week check-up I took that test while waiting in the waiting room and apparently failed it horribly. When my doctor came in she asked me how I was feeling and I just burst out into tears. I spent a good while talking with her and she gave me two options...I could just take an anti-depressant (which she said may need to be switched, some may not work, might be a long road to find one that works with me) or I could take anti-depressants and also go see a couselor. I chose to try just the meds for now. I get very nervous when talking with people and I cry a lot and so hard it's difficult for me to even get the words out.

My doctor also said I dont have to be on ad's for forever...so don't be afraid of them. I take two different ad's...but it is only day two of my zoloft so I have awhile before noticing a change.

I feel for you...living with your mother in law. My husband and I lived with his mom for a few months while I was pregnant and the first week after our daughter was born.....all I can say is never again and you're a brave brave woman.

Good Luck tomorrow!

 

[celestek89]

Hey everyone.

Wasnt sure where to turn really..i guess i just need somewhere to let a few things out. MY midwife came for my check up on Monday and has put a referal to see someone as she thinks i have PND. She also wants me to see the GP for meds..I ahve a big history with depression and i'm not sure whether i want the meds.

I dont really know where to start. I have a history of abuse and a bad home life. My OH made all this better and i was able to 'forget' about it all. I was also diagnosed with Pelvic Inflamation Disease and was told i could never concieve (shows what docs know aye?!) I'm only 21 and wasnt really in the position to raise a baby, but i was too afraid that i wouldnt be given this chance again. My hubby was amazing throughout the whole thing. I had a very easy pregnancy, but was down the whole time. I thought having her here would change everything, which to an extent it has. I love my little girl so much, but i cant stop thinking about the life we could have.

OH is in the army, so i'm alone ALOT!! We moved to the other side of the country for his posting, away from family and friends. Our estate is so new that there is no public transport and everything is too far to walk to. I dont drive. So i'm stuck in the house 24/7. OH is currently away for a month and has literally only known his daughter for half her life. Ciara has had terrible colic and i feel so alone having to deal with it all. Its all very over whelming. I have made a couple of good friends here, who are amazing, but i dont want to burden them with all my problems. My head feels like its going to explode.

I'm breast feeding and have lost my appitite, so im terrified my milk is going to dry up. I find it hard to get out of bed and almost wish i would ignore Ciara when she cries (i feel terrible for saying that) I havent wanted to leave the house when i've been given the chance...i just want to crawl into a hole.

I'm sorry for the rambling and possibly over sharing, but i really feel like i need to talk to someone, but someone who understands what i'm going through.

 

[dellnbump]

so just bk from the doctors today he prescribed Citalopram 20mg i really dont feel well with these really shaky feeling sick and awful panicky. i feel so tired cant stop yawning but doubt i will sleep is this normal?

 

[akaash.]

have made so many posts about my PND experience but I just need to know I'm normal...

When I wake up the previous mins/hours/days/months ect (since having pnd) don't seem real so every day I have to talk to someone to get me through the day..

For example I have a pnd volunteer emailing me but I email her every single day to tell her how I feel because the past seems unreal... I know I have emailed her every single day but if I dont I dont feel secure and reassured.

Did anyone else feel this?

Sorry to be so boring my life is just so annoying atm I'm so confused, tired, bored, thinking tooooo much...

Thanks 4 any support!!!

xx

 

[Raggydoll]

akaash, have you felt any better since being on the ads? Can you feel any improvement? Or can people close to you, partner, family etc, see that you are better at all? If not, I suggest you need to chat to your GP about how you are feeling. It could be part of the pnd, or it could be side effects. Your GP would be better able to advise on the next course of action. I hope this helps.

Raggy, Do you have to pass these exams now? Is there a time limit for you to get this qualification? I know work have paid for them, but could you defer for a year?

Write down in list the things that are stressing you out and why. Can they be managed? Think of how they would stop being an issue and try and find a way to realise that. If there is no obvious solution, move onto the next item on the list and concentrate on that.

Is it possibly for you to do your job part time with another company? Do you have an occupational health department that you could speak with?

Thanks Mightyspu. I'll have to take my exam next month but I've decided to take a break before completing the final year (or retaking this year )

I had an appointment with the recovery team last week and my care co-ordinator is going to come and help me work on my anxiety.

I could do my job part time elsewhere, I'm an accountant, but I love the company I work for and I have great job prospects within the company.

I have decided to learn to drive in the new year, I've never been fussed about driving before but if I could drive I would have more time in the morning and evening with Kate.

Hope things are well with you.

 

[Raggydoll]

have made so many posts about my PND experience but I just need to know I'm normal...

When I wake up the previous mins/hours/days/months ect (since having pnd) don't seem real so every day I have to talk to someone to get me through the day..

For example I have a pnd volunteer emailing me but I email her every single day to tell her how I feel because the past seems unreal... I know I have emailed her every single day but if I dont I dont feel secure and reassured.

Did anyone else feel this?

Sorry to be so boring my life is just so annoying atm I'm so confused, tired, bored, thinking tooooo much...

Thanks 4 any support!!!

xx

Hi Akaash,


Don't worry about writing things down and asking for help, it's good your doing this.

It is kind of surreal living with PND you've gone from looking forward to having your baby and being able to deal with every day normally, to complete confusion and despair, in such a short space of time.

Now things are feeling better for me I find that the period of time at the beginning almost doesn't feel real.

Try not to think to far ahead, take each day a bit at a time, it makes things more manageable.

I promise it does get better, 7 months ago I was hysterically sobbing begging the doctors to make the pain and depression stop and they kept telling me it would get better, at the time I didn't believe it but it all did start clicking back into place.

I'm not 100% but I've gone from someone who can barely function and felt like a terrible mum, I really did think Kate would be better off without me, to having a wonderful relationshiop with my daughter, I'm gaining a lot more confidence in what I do and I can get through the day.

I really hope things start getting better for you. You're doing all the right things.

 

[Raggydoll]

so just bk from the doctors today he prescribed Citalopram 20mg i really dont feel well with these really shaky feeling sick and awful panicky. i feel so tired cant stop yawning but doubt i will sleep is this normal?

Hey hun, this is normal. Unfortunately sometimes whilst the ad's start to the effect it can make you feel worse. Take each day slowly and try and get as much support as possible.

 

[Raggydoll]

I don't have any friends here yet and of course it's hard for me to meet new people when I can barely stand to leave the house. My two sister in laws are wonderful women but It's very hard for me to open up to them. My aunt lives two hours from me, she is coming up to visit and she has a friend here that she wants me to meet. I guess we have had similar difficulties and such. I'm nervous but am hoping this is a start.

My husband works 45 minutes from home....so imagine 8 hours plus another hour and a half for the drive =/ I get extremely lonely....I do get out most days as I have to walk to get my 6 year old from school. I do okay with these walks....but not even 10 minutes after being back at home my mood plummets.

Hi Gracie,

I hope things go well with your aunts friend. It can really help taking to somebody who understands what you're going through.

Have you any baby groups in your area, I know you said you found it hard to get out, I also found this but sometimes I would push myself to go to a group completely dreading it and find I enjoyed it once I got there.

 

[Raggydoll]

Hi Rainbows, hope your apointment with your HV was ok. It's hard when everyone is trying to offer "advice" I used to feel so pressure but I'm slowly coming to realise me and my husband know our daughter best.

As for the sleeping through the night, Kate slept 10 - 8 from 5 weeks and 8-8 from 8 weeks.

CelesteK89, do you have and family or friends close by. Also I found Netmums meet a mum really good for meeting local mums.

Try eating something light and make sure you're drinking lots, it can sometimes help you feel better. Keeping your fluid intake up will help your milk supply.

Don't feel bad about the way you are feeling, I've had days where I could not get out of bed or I just wanted to get away from everything. It will get better. I'm glad your MW has made a referral hopefully you can get some good support.

to everyone.

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

Sorry to butt in... but does anyone with PND go out and fear everyones looking at them??

 

[sarah0108]

Another question and i have asked before but im so scared!

How did you all go about talking to someone?

Please talk me into it, i know i need to go, im having about 5/7 days being bad and i get thoughts of just wanting to walk out and run away from everyone/everything. But i cannot get the courage to go to talk to someone, i have no idea what to say. And what if they just tell me i am fine

 

[08marchbean]

Another question and i have asked before but im so scared!

How did you all go about talking to someone?

Please talk me into it, i know i need to go, im having about 5/7 days being bad and i get thoughts of just wanting to walk out and run away from everyone/everything. But i cannot get the courage to go to talk to someone, i have no idea what to say. And what if they just tell me i am fine

my HV rang and made my appointment for me so they knew what it was about. but jus go in and say 'i think i might be suffering with PND' or something along those lines. and they will just ask you a few questions. they know how awkward it can be so will fill the silence for you! seriously dont be scared, just say it how it is. i hope your having a good day.

 

[celestek89]

Thank you Raggydoll xox