PND Support Thread

[lisaf]

He's usually ok. He doesn't STTN but we go to bed late (say 1am) so he will sleep 1-7am or whatever but lately he's just screaming all the time. Must be to do with his teething.

I am an insomniac so I'm used to it x

I'm a hypersomniac so I'm definitely NOT used to it
It would sure help me if I slept when he sleeps, but I just can't go to bed at 7pm!

 

[Arisa]

This thread is brilliant.
I have major depression and its gotten severe during pregnancy, to the extent I needed increased medication as well as an anti psychotic.
I have a question for mums/moms who were depressed during their pregnancies. Did you develop PND pretty much straight away? I worry about getting it as I suffer it badly now ans have done since I was 11 years old. My shrink tells me I am at 90% risk, so that terrifies me.

Is anyone on medication too?
I know I will feel distant from my baby and I fear I may want to harm him/her as I harbour those feelings now (wanting to kill myself or bring on a miscarriage which is not normal)

If you are on meds, what have you found helpful? Do you also find a female therapist or G.P better for PND???

Thank you ladies, big hugs and god bless oxoxoxxoxo

 

[HappiestMom]

Hi Ladies..would love some stalkers and supporters..here is my official PPD journal...

https://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/796731-ppd-kicking-my-ass-my-ppd-journal.html

 

[sequeena]

I'm on venlafaxine 75mg but I don't feel it's making a difference x

 

[lisaf]

This thread is brilliant.
I have major depression and its gotten severe during pregnancy, to the extent I needed increased medication as well as an anti psychotic.
I have a question for mums/moms who were depressed during their pregnancies. Did you develop PND pretty much straight away? I worry about getting it as I suffer it badly now ans have done since I was 11 years old. My shrink tells me I am at 90% risk, so that terrifies me.

Is anyone on medication too?
I know I will feel distant from my baby and I fear I may want to harm him/her as I harbour those feelings now (wanting to kill myself or bring on a miscarriage which is not normal)

If you are on meds, what have you found helpful? Do you also find a female therapist or G.P better for PND???

Thank you ladies, big hugs and god bless oxoxoxxoxo

Sorry, I don't know much about the depression during pregnancy thing. I don't know if you will develop it if you stay on medications through your whole pregnancy though.
Keep in mind, the first 2-3 weeks are a huge storm of emotions anyway. The best way to cope is to have a supportive partner. I know I would have been a lot better if I had been sheltered from some of the inlaw drama over us wanting some space/privacy etc.
I don't know if you are planning to BF or not, but if you are, prepare yourself for any struggles you may have (the more prepared you are, the better you will be able to cope) and if your heart isn't in it to push through difficulties, it may be much better for your mental health to FF. Since you can sleep through a feeding if someone is there to FF for you, it might really help your depression. Though some women find the hormones involved in BFing help their PND... and many women have no trouble BFing at all so if that is what you want, maybe give it a shot. There are some normal issues that women have like extremely sore, cracked nipples for the first few weeks... the exhaustion of clusterfeeding etc. Then there are bigger problems that not everyone has like issues latching, low supply etc.

I'm on Zoloft now but that wasn't started until 6 weeks post-partum. I'm not doing therapy at the moment and have only ever seen female therapists (just by coiincidence.. not intentionally on my part). I think the therapists' personality and 'fit' with you matters more than their gender. Sometimes men are more sympathetic than women if its something they haven't experienced, lol.. not that therapists are ever unsympathetic.

 

[lauralou25]

I'm so glad I found this thread I had my baby boy 9 days ago and I just didn't feel write I didn't feel that surge of love that everyone experiences! I waited so long for him 2 years ttc and 3 miscarriages later and finally I have my boy I also have another son who's 6! I don't know what's wrong with me I felt rubbish the day after I got home felt teary etc and it passed but tonight I feel shit! I've been crying for the past half hour and I don't even know why I'm crying partly because I feel guilty for not feeling the way I should towards my baby while everyone else around me is cooing ova him I just sit there and smile my partner adores him and so does my little boy its not that I don't feel any affection towards him I do I just thought I would feel so much more it doesn't help that I had a c section and my recovery this time has been much slower but I don't know wether that's anything to do with the way I've been feeling! I felt fine earlier and all of a sudden I feel like crap my partners gone out for half an hour and I've come upstairs so my son doesn't see me crying I don't know what to do? Will this pass or what should I do??????? I don't even know if what I'm writing makes sense!

 

[sequeena]

Laura our stories are similar. 2 years ttc 3 miscarriages. You only had your baby 9 days ago so I really hope you're only experiencing the baby blues xxx don't feel guilty. Have you spoken to your midwife or health visitor?

Well I managed to get through Thomas' operation without crying

 

[lauralou25]

I hope its the baby blues I just feel useless and I know I should be resting after having my c section but I don't feel like I can I want to be back to normal and do my normal things maybe I'm pushing myself to far and to quick but I really didn't think I'd be moping about still I'm fed up of my partner having to do the shopping and taking my son to school picking him up etc I feel useless!!!!! I have the midwife coming for her last visit tomorrow but I don't know wether to say anything or not or wether it will pass? What do I say I don't want them thinking I can't cope and I'm a crap mum

 

[sequeena]

No you're not! You've had a c-section and have just become a mum of two. I don't think you're useless but I do think you're overdoing it and need to just enjoy these quiet moments with your family

 

[Ginger84]

Hi ladies,

im not sure where i should be posting this or if i should be posting at all but i just need to get it off my chest.

I have had just about the shittiest year of my life, my husband left me when i was 6 months pregnant (completely out of the blue for another woman) it really affected me and i've not been the same since. I was so looking forward to being a mum it was everything i had ever wanted, but after that happened i just started resenting my baby and blaming him for everything that happend with my ex, kept thinking that i just wanted to turn back time and be happy again. Now my baby is here i still sometimes think like that, i resent him because i cant go out with friends etc and i am sat at home alone every night.

Since he left it has just been one stress after another, having baby, selling house and moving, having an operation, getting divorced and now sorting out finances and childcare for when i go back to work. Through all this i felt like i was keeping my head above water. I had good days and i had really bad days where i would just get upset over every little thing.

Now finally i have put all those stresses behind me and am actually in a good place, love my new house, financially ok etc but my head is an absoulte mess, i feel like its going to explode some days. The last couple of weeks have just been awful, i sit and home and cry every day over the stupidist things. i just cant seem to get over the hurt that my ex has caused me. friends and family think that im over it and ok and so stop asking me if im alright and when i try and talk about it they just change the subject. Everyone thinks i am coping great they have no idea how i feel inside

I love my son more than anything in the world but some days i just want to run away from him, from it all. i still have good and bad days, but lately the bad outweigh the good.

What can i do to get myself back on track? sorry for the long post.

 

[sequeena]

you have had a bad time haven't you have you discussed this with your GP or HV? Maybe some counselling would do wonders xxx

 

[sazza]

I too think you should see your GP - you've been through a hell of a lot, and no wonder you feel like you do. Also, talking with a close friend or family member about things should help to take the pressure off a bit. x x

 

[Ginger84]

Well i bit the bullet yesterday and went to see my GP. Coninsidentally about 3 weeks ago i started back on the contraceptive pill and i really think that this sent my hormones crazy and turned me into a wreck. GP suggested i stop taking it immediately to see if i calm down and i have booked another appointment in 2 weeks to see if there is any improvement. She has also put me on the waiting list for counselling. Will see how things are in a couple of weeks and if any further treatment might be needed. I was panicking about going to the docs as i haven't spoke to anyone about it but it felt like a bit of a relief to get it out in the open.

 

[mummy2anangel]

hi everyone, i had my baby 9days ago and i dont know whats going on with me, i seem to have some sort of anxiety issue, i keep diagnosing myself with random illnesses and when i lay in bed on a night im convinced im going to die and end up having a panic attack i seen the GP 2days ago and hes prescribed 20mg fluoxetine and i have to go back and see him in a fortnight, anybody else get these scary thoughts? Also i cannot stand to be left alone not good when OH goes back to work in 9days xx

 

[Linzi]

Hi everyone

I hope its ok to post this here.

I have written a whole blog from when Molly was born 15 weeks ago and my experience with PND so far, I just would like to share it with you all.

On my worst day, I searched everywhere for someone to have felt the same way that I did and I couldn't find anything. I thought that someone would take my children away from me, when in fact what I was feeling was very 'normal' for PND.

I dont want anyone to ever feel alone or like they aren't normal, which I why I wrote it all out. I hope it helps just one person xxxxx

https://lynseyhumphrey.blogspot.com/

 

[sequeena]

Linzi I didn't realise you had PND too

I actually had a social worker for support with my PND.. I spent the entire time terrified she'd take Thomas. She doesn't want to see us anymore though which is amazing news.

 

[Linzi]

Thats what Ive been diagnosed with but Ive had depression & anxiety on and off for over 10 years now, Im being observed for bipolar disorder at the moment. I think they've slapped the label PND on me because this bout has happened post natally but I think theres a slightly deeper issue iykwim?

Thats great news about your social worker hun its so scary thinking they're going to take your baby. I remember sitting and writing pages and pages of instructions for Matt what to do, how to make up bottles, how to use the washing machine, a few recipes that Seth liked, Mollys routine.... everything. Scariest day of my whole entire life

xxx

 

[sequeena]

Thats what Ive been diagnosed with but Ive had depression & anxiety on and off for over 10 years now, Im being observed for bipolar disorder at the moment. I think they've slapped the label PND on me because this bout has happened post natally but I think theres a slightly deeper issue iykwim?

Thats great news about your social worker hun its so scary thinking they're going to take your baby. I remember sitting and writing pages and pages of instructions for Matt what to do, how to make up bottles, how to use the washing machine, a few recipes that Seth liked, Mollys routine.... everything. Scariest day of my whole entire life

xxx

I agree. I was a depressive pre pregnancy (I was abused as a child) so I think that I do have PND but it runs much deeper than the usual PND. If you know what I mean.

I'm awful with my OH... I really should lighten up but I'm scared. I do most of the work with Thomas. I need to have him in my sights at all times.

 

[Janny Wanny]

heres a good one for u! so finally i got a letter in through the door which i thought o yey im finally getting someone to try to help me! then i looked at the bottom of page and it was signed by a mental health social worker..... so basacially i cant tell they anything about my pnd they will find a way to take my child away! so its not help for me seems like they are snooping to see if im hurting my child!!
is there really help out there???

 

[sequeena]

I had a social worker and she didn't take Thomas away but I had the same fear. Ask your hv about a pnd support group or if there's anything else she could do for you. Have you seen your doctor?