PND Support Thread

[Janny Wanny]

ive seen doc and hv lots of times about it but they have never said i have pnd just depression i think its both! but they wont listen to me really said i was gonna get a conceller but now its a social worker i really dont wanna say anything wrong!

 

[sequeena]

I understand could you see a different doctor at your surgery? A female one is possible. You can also refer yourself for counselling but I don't know what counsellors are in your area, it's usualy charities that do this. Mind is a good organisation x

I understand how you feel with the social worker. I just kept saying I was fine and made sure my house was mega clean when she visited.

 

[lisaf]

ive seen doc and hv lots of times about it but they have never said i have pnd just depression i think its both! but they wont listen to me really said i was gonna get a conceller but now its a social worker i really dont wanna say anything wrong!

I think sometimes social workers ARE counselors?

 

[sequeena]

ive seen doc and hv lots of times about it but they have never said i have pnd just depression i think its both! but they wont listen to me really said i was gonna get a conceller but now its a social worker i really dont wanna say anything wrong!

I think sometimes social workers ARE counselors?

I'm not sure... but they're not seen like that in the UK

 

[rachelle1975]

Hey ladies,

Just after some advice.

I started suffering from depression towards the end of my pregnancy & I can tell I'm depressed now rather than baby blues. Just wondered if anyone had tried any homeopathic/herbal remedies rather than going straight for anti d's?

Xx

 

[sequeena]

I haven't rachelle as my depression is quite severe but I hope someone here can help x I've heard that rescue rememdy is good

I think my higher dose of anti d's are already kicking in. I've become more withdrawn these past few days and I feel lonely/paranoid. I'm fine with Thomas, no change there. I just feel different. I remember this from when I first started taking anti d's. It has to get worse to get better....

The only thing is my body is still getting used to the new dose and I always end up being sick after taking them and I dread taking them. I know I need to persevere to get the benefits but I don't want to feel dizzy/sick

 

[fairygirl]

Can I come in? I think I have pnd, I suffered from depression and fibromyalgia in my late teens, early twenties and I thought this was just the baby blues, but verging on depression/anxiety. Apparently baby blues are earlier on, my baby boy is 6 weeks today and I'm getting worse. I know diet, exercise and fresh air will help and I know I should ring the counsellor but I hate the feeling that I'm bothering someone. I spoke to her in my early pregnancy and decided to just keep soldiering on (dealing with worry due to my first baby being very poorly and stillborn at 33weeks). I know I'm struggling, I can even tell you why, but I want to feel better! Worst thing is my husband was shocked when I told him I had the blues, I'm so good at hiding my feelings, I hate appearing weak, yet when asked I wear my heart on my sleeve.
I'm gonna post this in the loss forum and my journal (which I'd be lost without) but was hoping someone could relate to this?

 

[sequeena]

fairygirl I can't relate to your circumstances but I do understand PND and that stubborn streak in us that wants us to do it alone and not to bother anyone To be honest, I am not surprised that you are feeling this way and I think you do need to speak to your counsellor about this. It doesn't make you weak. You've been through probably the worst tragedy that can happen to anyone and you've come out on the other side. In no way are you weak.

I'm always here to talk if you need to.

 

[Linzi]

fairygirl I cant directly relate either but I do understand PND and the feeling of wanting to manage on your own. Always here if you want a chat

Not having a great week, I thought I started doing a little better, but someone made a nasty comment and Molly last week when we were out and its stopped me leaving the house on my own again. My boss has invited me out for lunch with my team next week and the thought is making me sick. I dont know what to do.

Im seeing my psych on Wednesday and he's going to refer me for CBT I think but he said there is a minimum 3 month waiting list. xxx

 

[sequeena]

Go Linzi, get out and try to enjoy yourself. 3 months is a pain to wait but it's not that long really and ignore those who try to bring you down... easier said than done I know

Well me... still feeling lonely. Friends who used to invite me to baby groups etc don't anymore. Not sure why as I've not avoided them but Thomas has been ill and I've not been well in myself... I keep seeing them tag themselves in different places on facebook and it makes me feel sad at least I still have my PND group to go to or I'd be a hermit...

 

[Linzi]

hun not thats its any use but if I lived closer Id invite you out I have a few friends in south wales so if Im ever in the area Ill give you s hout xxx

 

[sequeena]

Thanks chick

This is why I tend to keep to myself. OH keeps telling me to go out more but what's the point??

Ran into my abuser's daughter in law today. She works in a shop I go to frequently (wish I could avoid her). She's given me so many evils lately but today she said 'Hello' in a voice that if it could kill I'd be dead... how can I move on when I'm confronted by my past day in day out?

 

[babyhopes2010]

glad i saw this thread.
i spoke to hv about pnd yesterday i was fobbed off and told i didnt have it.
how does she know how i feel! it took my ages to make that call

 

[sequeena]

I think you were told that because your lo is still so little. I hope she's right and you only have baby blues but you're welcome in this thread. You're right you may have it x

 

[thelioncub]

First off.. I hope this is allowed! (have copied this from another thread as it is relevant here too)

I've literally just published a book on overcoming depression, called 101 Distractions from Depression, Self-harm (and other Soul-destroyers) It's an eBook available on all Amazon Kindle stores (that's the link to the UK store, but you should be able to find it on the others too).

I suffered from depression for over 10 years, and I know how horribly crippling it can be. The idea behind each of the 101 distractions is exactly what others have already stated - its about taking your mind off things to allow you a bit of 'breathing space', which helps you appreciate that depression IS NOT permanent. I know PND could be classed as different from 'normal' depression, but really the symptoms are all the same - and hence why I think you may find this helpful. Given my history with mental illness, I'm terrified I'm going to suffer badly from PND, but then I guess I'm lucky in the sense that I already know how to help myself (this is what my midwife keeps telling me anyway

Anyway.. I could talk for hours on this so I won't bore you all. I just thought it was worth me mentioning the book because hopefully it can really help some of you.

If you'd like a bit more info, have a look at www.distractionsfromdepression.com

*big hugs*

 

[kandbumpx]

Can someone please PM me who has been through this so I've got someone to talk to? xx

 

[sequeena]

You're welcome to talk to me kandbump I'll pm you now x

I'm not going to take my antidepressants again, I can't take it. I've gone from 75mg venlafaxine per day to venlafaxine 150mg per day. When I was on the 75mg I was fine but now I take 75mg at morning and night. I follow the instructions and take them after food but within an hour I'm dizzy, clammy and being sick. I'm not doing this 'it has to get worse before it gets better' bullshit either. I'm alone 3 days a week with Thomas (today being one of those days). I can't spend most of the time with my head in the toilet.

 

[Sarah24]

I'm not going to take my antidepressants again, I can't take it. I've gone from 75mg venlafaxine per day to venlafaxine 150mg per day. When I was on the 75mg I was fine but now I take 75mg at morning and night. I follow the instructions and take them after food but within an hour I'm dizzy, clammy and being sick. I'm not doing this 'it has to get worse before it gets better' bullshit either. I'm alone 3 days a week with Thomas (today being one of those days). I can't spend most of the time with my head in the toilet.

Hi hun,

Just wondered how you're being treated for your PND without meds? I suffered from depression pre preggo and came off my meds because of the side effects too. I was assessed today and they insisted on meds this time ASAP because of prev self harming. I'm not keen on it but have hit a big low : ( how are you coping? xx

 

[sequeena]

I'm not going to take my antidepressants again, I can't take it. I've gone from 75mg venlafaxine per day to venlafaxine 150mg per day. When I was on the 75mg I was fine but now I take 75mg at morning and night. I follow the instructions and take them after food but within an hour I'm dizzy, clammy and being sick. I'm not doing this 'it has to get worse before it gets better' bullshit either. I'm alone 3 days a week with Thomas (today being one of those days). I can't spend most of the time with my head in the toilet.

Hi hun,

Just wondered how you're being treated for your PND without meds? I suffered from depression pre preggo and came off my meds because of the side effects too. I was assessed today and they insisted on meds this time ASAP because of prev self harming. I'm not keen on it but have hit a big low : ( how are you coping? xx

I wanted to quit them completely but was advised not to because of the withdrawal symptoms and because I too have a history of self harm and overdose. I've cut down to 75mg for now but I've been told there is a capsule form of my antid's that I can take that won't be so harsh on my stomach.

Sadly the low feeling when you start antid's last for several weeks but it does pass. Feeling low I can deal with, being sick I cannot hope you're ok x

 

[rainbows_x]

Haven't been on for a while.Me and OH broke up.I am noot coping,I am the one who ended it but I rang him earlier begging him to take me back,I don'twant to be alone.

I've had my dose doubled and been put on sleeping pills. This is my first night alone,FOB and Ava aren't here and I am going mad. I had to email the Samaritans.