positive opk @ 8dpo...HELP!!!

[mzswizz]

Fngrs-We posted at the same exact time But i'll repost my message. Below

Fngrs-I see what you are talking about now. Its like a faint line in the tweaked pic!! And hoping you do get your super sticky beanie FXed

 

[FngrsCrossed]

I just had my DH look at it...and. he sees it too! we are nuts but we aren't nuts...ya' know?! lol

 

[mzswizz]

you know i do the same thing with my dh And speaking of dh....he just sent me a text and its so sweet.

This is after i told him i scheduled an appt for him to get his new car inspected for our new insurance company: "Ok thanks babes u been really helpful and i appreciate u stepping up" Our men know how to brighten up our day.

 

[FngrsCrossed]

Just saw your post MsSwizz...see...we are nuts, but we aren't in a way! it's amazing how the three of us do that to each other...post at the same time and then I don't know about you ladies but I get so confused and I have to look at the previous post. We must be fast typer's and impatient all in one. I type 72 wpm...and 120 on the number pad...lol College is such a great thing...lol I passed keyboarding (per-requisite) with an A

 

[FngrsCrossed]

yes they do know how to brighten our day!!! I love when DH is sweet like that. Don't you just love meshing well with you DH?! awesome...

 

[mzswizz]

Dang it we did it again And this is sooo funny how we all type fast and end up typing posting at the same exact time. Even if our messages are different lengths I think thats when our conversing skills and ttc skills come into play

And yes we have more good moments then bad and thats good. But when it gets bad..we try to make it right quickly because we both have the same anger level. Im like the female version of him so its better to be on a good note then to be Ike and Tina Turner

 

[L.E.]

Awww... sweet DHs... Mine has been even better since he's gone back to college (online). I thought it would stress him out, but I think it makes him feel better about himself, which puts him in a better mood. My DH pretty much lets me do whatever I want, so when he comes home today and I tell him I spent my day chatting and dinners are leftovers, he will understand lol.

 

[mzswizz]

lol Usually I do atleast one major thing like finish all the laundry or something and then relax. Atleast he cant say i didnt do anything

 

[L.E.]

Don't you ladies think the line is in the wrong spot? Plus I don't really see it in person. In person it looks more like I have a white evap with color on either side from dried urine/dye mixed or something. I'm going to TRY not to test anymore tonight (haha) and see what happens the next couple of days.

PS That was sweet of your DH to look at the test, Fngrs. If I showed my hubby that pic he would definitely call it a bfn. He actually won't say our chemical was a chemical. He says "We don't know what happened." It's a sore spot for me because you don't get lines on 15 FRERs and not know what happened. I know what happened. Makes me sad to even think about it. I still have the tests and they still have lines (actually got darker when dried), but he's not convinced. He said the lines were too light. He's an absolutely wonderful man but it actually sort of hurts my feelings that he can't just agree that it was what I say it was. And my mom doesn't really consider it a loss either, so really only you ladies understand. I have 3 friends who know about it but I think only 1 actually gets it.

 

[FngrsCrossed]

Well ladies, I planted some flowers with the kids today...so technically I have done nothing. lol I am going to make dinner though, we had leftovers (easter bbq) for luch today. He usually leaves me be when he sees me online, and he plays his game or watches sports on TV. But if I didn't cook tonight then I don't think it would matter much as he is still full from lunch. And he so deserves to play his game with all the dancing he has to do, even with being exhausted working up to 16-18 hours a day. So he is going to dance and "try" to enjoy his off days... probably could enjoy them more without being sexually harassed

 

[L.E.]

I usually accomplish something too but not today. We had family over and dinner here yesterday on 1 hour of sleep... 2 church services, clean up... crashed for 3 hrs yesterday evening and slept long last night, but still feel like just relaxing today. I got a shower and the dishwasher is going lol... and my DS ate twice, played with a friend at my mom's (next door) and is watching a show now. Back to business tomorrow if I can step away from the pee sticks lol.

 

[L.E.]

Fngrs, we had Honey Baked Ham for our dinner yesterday with a bunch of other stuff and that's what we're going to have tonight (minus a lot of the other stuff since it is gone). A $50 ham is not going to waste!! lol Speaking of which, I need to go get that going before DH gets home. I'll likely be on later.

 

[FngrsCrossed]

Nope the line is in the correct spot...I used wondfo last cycle and I have some on the way (which you excited me and made me order L.E.) So no they are in the right spot. Do you see them? My Dh says he can see it too. It's better in the one that is fresh and not the dry one...I think I have some pics of my Wondfo's..will post them.

My Dh usually is willing to look at tests and check for lines. he looks at my chart asks questions, and pretty much has the feel of how the female cycle works and what hormone does what. So it was no problem and I am sure he is abliged to do so, he is as line happy as I am. He even double checks my opk's for me. And he is honest with it, if he thinks is - then he going to say that. If it's + then he will say that too..

I think it's just harder for men to accept loss. I was suppose to surprise my DH with the hpt's I took in Feb, but the lines were light and was to scared it would result in a loss and had to tell him before time. So I had him dip a test and watch it like a hawk, so he would know that it wasn't error and it wasn't a fluke. He believed there was a baby for sure when he dipped it and saw the faint line, even with diluted urine. It does create a sore spot, it's like you aren't being believed. And you know you aren't lieing,that you were pregnant and something went wrong. dr.'s can't explain CP's beyond chromosomal abnormalities. But I would print info up for him and talk to him about how it makes me feel that he won't say that I was pregnant. He could talk to a lot of women on here and get the same story that you went through. There is no way all of us are just saying this happened to them. you ladies saw my tests yourselves. I think once they get a better understanding of what it is and see that it happen frequently then that's when they can finally say, "ok my wife was pregnant and we lost the baby." It's easier to believe it didn't happen than it is to have to face it...


Anyhow, the lines are in the right spot..I will post mine brb

 

[FngrsCrossed]

same Wonfo pics from last cycle...

 

[FngrsCrossed]

Fngrs, we had Honey Baked Ham for our dinner yesterday with a bunch of other stuff and that's what we're going to have tonight (minus a lot of the other stuff since it is gone). A $50 ham is not going to waste!! lol Speaking of which, I need to go get that going before DH gets home. I'll likely be on later.

I love Honey baked Ham so much...My mom just boycotted the whole idea. She wanted to cook something easier (or stick my dad with the job of cooking lol) and just have us do the sides. We usually do ham and a turkey for Easter and all the sides too. But mother wasn't feeling the whole large dinner thing. she even spoke of paper plates, which was a good idea to me, but then my grandmother cringed...She likes to set the table. I am so glad you guys had a good time at church. we did also. Our church didn't have an evening service so we had to accept that. And I think once DH ate...he wouldn't have made another service. You'd swear that my DH is a large man, but he isn't he is just super tall (6ft 3 1/2 inches) his weight is ideal but gosh can he put down some food. I don't know if i prefer feeding him or shopping for clothes...lol Both are bad...I'd rather kiss him, yea that's it! It's free to kiss him and doesn't require much work!!!

 

[L.E.]

LOL We didn't have an evening service either, but we had a sunrise service at 6:30 a.m. with breakfast following, Sunday School (my hubby had a little nap and we missed it), and then 'worship' service at 11 which we made it to... Though on an hour of sleep I was pretty sleepy during it. I play the piano and boy was it hard to focus during those services on such little sleep. I'm so glad I didn't mess up royally lol.

I agree that it's easier to think it didn't happen then cope with a loss. I gave him info to read about how there isn't really false positives, and about chemicals and all that. I told him I'm much rather believe it was my period and so would any woman in her right mind (though honestly I think there are some ladies in general and on here not in their right minds - not you ladies of course). He said he doesn't not believe me but I guess in his heart of hearts he's just not sure and there's nothing I can do about that. I told him it makes me feel like he thinks I'm lying and he says he doesn't think that at all, so I really just avoid talking about it as it just makes me upset.

All of it was easier with my son. I took my test on a whim because I wasn't regular and it was positive- really dark and I had no idea how far along I was. Only had a tiny bit of spotting once with him. We were NTNP, so I didn't have all this peeing on sticks. It did take us 2 years, so it wasn't some quick thing either, but it was just easier. Plus I was only 23 when I conceived and had him, so I wasn't in as big of a rush. With 30 coming at the end of the year, and our 10 yr anniversary coming up, I feel more pressure than ever.

 

[L.E.]

We wouldn't have the Honeybaked ham except we had a gift certificate from my hubby's work from Christmas for $35 and a $5 off coupon, so my mom paid the $10 for it. And then I, my mom, and my sister all made part of the dinner so no one did everything. The Honeybaked hams are pre-cooked and supposedly best at room temperature so I just put it in the crockpot on low before our 11 a.m. service and it was actually hot by dinner at 1:30. I was hoping more for just warm, but my low setting is pretty hot.

 

[FngrsCrossed]

Thank God you didn't mess it up...God would have totally understood though. At least you guys were there, even if you would have messed up. I would have still clapped and shouted. I just enjoyed our service so much. I think God dedicated that whole service to me yesterday. The first song that they sang was Beautiful things by Gungor. And during the first part before the singing they played a powerpoint on the projector, about how God doesn't make mistakes; and "you may feel sad" "you may feel inadequate" but God doesn't make mistakes. I felt the spirit of God all over me and then I heard the voice that said he didn't take my baby for no reason. And I just know that out of the dust (as the song says) some beautiful will come out...I had been so hurt about losing him that I questioned God and why this happened. I even will admit to being upset after it really sank in. I have even vented in this very thread about women hurting their children. I just know the whole service was for me, even the sermon at the end of the play. I tell you L.E. the devil tried to stop me from going, I really didn't want to go this Sunday. I just didn't. I almost stayed with my grandmother at her house until Dh and the children got back. But then I thought, that what the devil wants, me to miss my word. God must have something for me....And he did.

Anyhow, coupons are suck a lifesaver, that reminds me that we have a Butterball coupon that we need to be using soon. It's good for a ham or turkey and DH's boss gave us a lot of them before Thanksgiving. So we gave several away to family and friends. So we have the one left and need to use it. I couldn't see us trying to keep all of them, they were a true help and blessing to everyone that we gave them to.

Well I am glad that Dh believes you. There is nothing more hurting then to know what you are talking about and no one believes or even understands you. Maybe not talking about it is a good thing.

I went to the bathroom a few minutes ago and I think I have some OV spotting!! It was faint pink and if I had not taken a second look (thank god I check CM) I would have totally missed that! I have only had this happen one other time. So this is nice to see. Of course 2 wipes and it was gone. So I guess the egg has burst out of the follicle! Oh my goodness I could just burst myself!!! my left ovary is killing me...OWWWW! I moved so wrong just then.

Gosh do you feel OV pains like that?

 

[FngrsCrossed]

I know what you mean about feeling pressure. I am already 33 so 35 is around the corner. Plus our Anniversary is coming up too. It's seems harder to get pregnant when you are trying to get pregnant. But it's going to happen it has to!

 

[L.E.]

So glad you made it to your service and that it helped you. I know I really have to watch and make sure I don't get bitter. It's so easy to let my mind wander that way, but I just remind myself of how blessed I am with such a wonderful little family! I'm always telling my son that complaining about things he doesn't have is being unthankful for what you do have, so I end up preaching to myself so to speak lol.

Well my mom went to the Dollar Store so I asked her to pick me up an OPK. I used the sample from earlier that I got those dark Wondfos on and it was definitely negative. My Dollar Store keeps stocking the same one Mzswizz originally started this thread with and I really miss the other kind. The other kind is the kind I'd used in Dec. and Jan. I don't think these get quite as dark, but then again I haven't O'd since then, so maybe I just haven't had the chance to see it.

Anyway, here is that negative OPK (in and out of the plastic case):