I'm so sorry for your loss
I've had two miscarriages, one very straightforward one at home, started with spotting on the Friday and then woke up to full scale bleeding and pain on the Saturday morning. The worst of it happened overnight Sat/Sun and throughout the day on Sunday.
I didn't even go to the GP until Monday, and she got my an appointment at EPAU on the Weds but they said it was pointless scanning me as clearly it was all over already. They had me POAS to see if my HCG had dropped and it was negative already, just 5 days after the MC had started. The bleeding continued a couple more days after that and that was that. I ovulated exactly a fortnight later and Toby was conceived.
It was my first pregnancy, and first mc, we had only found out on the Tues that i was pregnant so it was all a bit of a shock and i wasn't prepared for the intensity of the pains or how much i would bleed. I was only 5 weeks along so assumed such an early mc would be very much like a bad period but it felt very different to me. Emotionally/mentally it was intense but i really rolled with it- cried and bawled when i needed to, talked when i needed to, lay in bed being quiet when i needed to etc.
My second miscarriage was my 3rd pregnancy and very different. I knew something wasn't right from the start and sure enough an early scan confirmed things weren't looking as they should. I had scans every single week for four weeks before my miscarriage was finally officially 'confirmed' and i was offered conservative management, medical management or the surgical option. By that point i felt i had been walking around in a daze, not knowing if i was 'really' pregnant or not for a month already. My body had given me no signs that it was ready to let go, no pain, no bleeding, no spotting, nothing. I couldn't handle the waiting any longer and opted for the ERPC. I was fortunate enough to get a cancellation slot and had the procedure two days later. Physically it was very straightforward, and the pain/bleeding was very minimal, just a couple of days of discomfort and spotting afterwards. Emotionally i found it harder to connect with the experience, as i had been put under GA pregnant and then you wake up not pregnant, and i felt empty and numb and not sure how to feel or think or behave. Toby was my saviour and helped me stay positive.
This time we waited for AF to show, which it did, exactly a calendar month later, and then Rudy was conceived that cycle.
I think only you can know which is the right option for you at the time. Having experienced both a natural complete mc at home and an erpc/d&c, i wouldn't say one is any worse/better than the other. They were both very different experiences, each one difficult in it's own way but i didn't have any problems/complications from either iyswim?
I'm not sure if that will have been helpful for you but i hope so
Sending you lots and lots of hugs