Possibly upsetting thread - MC at home?

[chuck]

Remember you dont have to say good bye to us we're always here for a chat and support.

 

[aliss]

Thank you girls for all your personal stories and support, it has really given me the desire for the "home birth" that we wanted, even under the worst of circumstances. We have family a few streets away who is aware of what's going to happen and they are on speed dial to come pick up Alexandre when the time comes (it will upset him to witness, I've been told at 9-10 weeks, it will be similar to actual contractions/a short labour). Thanks chuck, I'll still be around If I can have Evie at home, maybe that will be the push I need to be brave for #3.

 

[chuck]

Like I said it'll be tough really tough but eventually you can use this to help make you stronger it wont all be in vain.

X

 

[aliss]

Thank you I've seen the doctor and she is supportive of my home "birth" with Evie. I have started my Misoprostol pills and it should happen within the next 3 days. Thanks for your support.

 

[aliss]

I think Evie will be coming tonight, I am getting some tightenings that apparently are what people call early labour pains. Since I was pumped full of pitocin with Alexandre's horrific labour, I suppose this is what natural contractions may start like. Hmm.... not minding the experience, as bizarre as that sounds. I think Evie will be my little angel to restore my faith in labour. I know obviously at almost 10 weeks it is not the same as full term but still... it's a bit of an eye opening experience.

 

[chuck]

Hope things go smoothly for your LO's early birthday.

 

[modo]

Oh Aliss I am so sorry

 

[ljo1984]

I think Evie will be coming tonight, I am getting some tightenings that apparently are what people call early labour pains. Since I was pumped full of pitocin with Alexandre's horrific labour, I suppose this is what natural contractions may start like. Hmm.... not minding the experience, as bizarre as that sounds. I think Evie will be my little angel to restore my faith in labour. I know obviously at almost 10 weeks it is not the same as full term but still... it's a bit of an eye opening experience.

i had pitocin with imogen too, although was going natural before hand, and sounds like early labour. i hope things went/are going smoothly. im thinking of you. sending loads of and floaty for you little angel. xxxx

 

[numum]

a beautiful angel spreads her wings. I am so sorry aliss. Like you so bravely said maybe evie will help you take a huge leap of faith all love and lighting a candle here for her x

 

[Nikki_d72]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope things went as gently as they could for you and little Evie. Fly high little angel xxx

 

[Lliena]

So sorry Aliss

 

[aliss]

Thanks girls It's over, happened in the peace of my own home and not in the hospital surgery, I wouldn't have had it any other way Thanks for your support and encouraging stories of doing it at home. Most other women I spoke to have had a D&C instead. It was hard to wait knowing the baby had died almost 2 weeks before but in the end I think this was better mentally.

 

[ljo1984]

Glad all went well and you got to say goodbye properly to your angel. Like I said I had a d&c with grace but would definatly opt for home if anything like that was to happen again. Sending lots of love to you and evie, she'll always be with you. Xxxxx

 

[InVivoVeritas]

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I've had one D&C and four miscarriages at home. The D&C was hell, unsupportive midwives, questions not answered and no respect for my grief at losing a very much loved baby.

When I miscarried at home my heart was still broken, but at least I could do things my way and say goodbye properly. It made the loss easier to come to terms with.

 

[summer rain]

Hi Hun

Sorry to hear about your loss. I had a MMC in 2009, I only got my BFP at about 8 weeks and something just didn't feel right about the pregnancy that I couldn't put my finger on. The hospital messed up my booking so my booking appt and scan were scheduled for nearly 16 weeks, the evening after my booking appointment I started to bleed heavily in my poor in laws house-just exactly a week before my BIL and his wife had their daughter at 26 wks and she died at 48 hours old. We went to A&E and they said it may be a miscarriage but for various reasons they decided it probably wasn't and moved my scan forward by 2 days, when the lady did the scan it took her a long time to find the baby because he or she had stopped growing at 9 or 10 weeks. It was really horrible and we had to wait hours to speak to a specialist who said we could go for the surgery but he would personally advise waiting and seeing, as the bleeding although it had tapered off meant things had probably started to happen. They don't do the tablet option as it has various risks associated with it.

So we went home and I had the idea of taking various supplements with high levels of natural prostaglandins in to help things along, maybe it was a fluke but around 45 minutes after taking those, 32 capsules altogether of starflower oil, black seed oil and flax seed oil things really started to happen. The amount of blood was a lot and I did nearly faint at one point but I think that was due to the ick factor of the blood as opposed to any medical reason, for me the sac with baby came out first and fell into the toilet bowl so I fished it out, it was surreal to think this could have been a baby, it was so teeny. The placenta was the worst bit, as the sac and placenta had continued to grow so both were quite big. After 4 hours the bleeding went to a light pinkish discharge.

At my local hospital they rescan you every 2 weeks until they are sure everything has come out, thankfully this took only 2 scans for me. I would only do things this way in the future, it was upsetting and traumatic but wasn't very painful plus I was in my own home. Xx