Pregnancy after our preemies support thread!

[Hotmum]

Try and get some rest if you can hun...

I hope they bring the heart scan forwards, would it be worth trying to call them tomorrow to see if they can?

Would there be any chance of moving back down near your mum so you have more support close by?

Hotmum, I am catholic, and I tell you; sometimes God is shit at his job...why would he make people that don't deserve the pain suffer?...I really don't buy all the 'god will only give you what he thinks you can deal with' stuff much

I dont know what works for you but everyone is different...

I know that MY faith is holding me still =)
I have no parents, or ANY family around and I meant it, like NOBODY in the United States and my husband also have just his mom, nobody else, so siblings or dad or anything, I do have friends, but you know, is different...
Nobody was really helping me with the bedrest besides husband and grandma, and while I was in the hospital, I had nobody either, my husband worked 7-6 and grandma was taking care of my 2 year old, so I was pretty much alone...
And I am christian, I do pray a lot, and I know how faith helped me, I am emotional still but I know is in God´s hands...
I know it isnt fair thinking - 'god will only give you what he thinks you can deal with' - I am not saying that either...

I know that we can blame God a lot of times, but for lottie is not totally over yet, so I just suggested what I´ve been trying... faith

that´s all... I know that must be HARD, but if you re not...

I will be praying for you lottie...

I am not a saint, I blame God before, but even when I blamed him, he was the only one there for me... I had a hard life, but I am not telling my story to be the victim here, just wanted to explain my point of view =)

sorry for anything that I said... just trying to help =)

 

[Hotmum]

Lottie, I know we have spoken a little before, but had to come on the thread to let you know I am thinking of you. I feel as if we have a connection because of our girls, sadly for all the wrong reasons. We both knew, didnt we? Even when everyone around us was saying otherwise. No matter what happens with Bumpity, I will be there for you, I promise Lots of love chick

As for me, for those of you that dont know, yesterday at 24+1 it was confirmed that Bubble has grown her angel wings. So I am finding it really hard to believe in a god right now, I mean seven miscarriages and for the second time in my life I am sitting at home waiting for an induction to go and give birth to my daughter knowing that there will be no screams from her, only silence, knowing that I will spend a few short hours with her trying to create memories then go home with some photos, empty arms and a broken heart. I know (after being told by a woman moments after my scan yesterday), that it is said that god doesnt give you what you cant carry, but believe me when I say I cant carry this pain again, I just cant. Burying your child once is so wrong, and now to be thinking of burying her little sister with her is, well beyond words.

Sorry if I offend anyone

I didnt say God gives you what you can carry...

I was just trying to give a positive thinking for lottie... I dont even know why some people got so angry about it...
I was just trying to help =(

- I am really sorry Tasha, and I honestly can´t even say anything, because Is beyond pain what you are feeling right now...
If you were anywhere around I would give you a tie hug... I know how thinks are not fair sometimes...

I am sorry...

 

[you&me]

Hotmum...I never got 'angry' as you put it over your post about it..I simply said 'god is shit at his job sometimes'...you stated your view about how god has helped you...I stated mine...right now they are just different views...my anger is however that 2 wonderful people are being put through so much heartache and pain...for a second time, nobody deserves it the once, let alone twice.

Tasha, I have been thinking of you so much today, I hope you managed to get some precious memories of bubble to hold close to you.

Lottie, I hope today has been as gentle as possible on you, and that you have managed to get some rest.

Hope all of you ladies are okay?

 

[Hotmum]

sorry if I ofended ANYONE, I was really trying to help...

tty

 

[Hotmum]

Hotmum...I never got 'angry' as you put it over your post about it..I simply said 'god is shit at his job sometimes'...you stated your view about how god has helped you...I stated mine...right now they are just different views...my anger is however that 2 wonderful people are being put through so much heartache and pain...for a second time, nobody deserves it the once, let alone twice.

Tasha, I have been thinking of you so much today, I hope you managed to get some precious memories of bubble to hold close to you.

Lottie, I hope today has been as gentle as possible on you, and that you have managed to get some rest.

Hope all of you ladies are okay?

I know... And It is really not fair... I just wanted to help, that´s all...

I just wish I could help more...

I am so sorry ladies

 

[nkbapbt]

I wasn't angry either...though I think my post maybe sounded like it was. I am with you&me...I am extremely angry that these two ladies are going through this..again. While I do not share your views Hotmum, I certainly would never ever oust you for them or get upset at you for them...unless you tried to put them on me, you know? But you didn't.

I think both ladies can use all the support they can get, I cannot speak on their faith beliefs and what works for them....but I can't imagine anyone being upset at you for what you said as it came from a place of caring.

I hope everyone is well today.

Lottie - I have no words. I just want you to know, I am here whatever decision you make. I hope you know that no matter what your heart says, whatever decision you make...there is no blame...there is no guilt. The reason is..because we all know your choices will be made out of a place of love. There can be no guilt nor blame in that. And even though Ive said it, we all know that will not be the case. But in the times you do feel those ways...remember all of us here think you are wonderful. We all are so proud of you...

 

[Hotmum]

I wasn't angry either...though I think my post maybe sounded like it was. I am with you&me...I am extremely angry that these two ladies are going through this..again. While I do not share your views Hotmum, I certainly would never ever oust you for them or get upset at you for them...unless you tried to put them on me, you know? But you didn't.

I think both ladies can use all the support they can get, I cannot speak on their faith beliefs and what works for them....but I can't imagine anyone being upset at you for what you said as it came from a place of caring.

I hope everyone is well today.

Lottie - I have no words. I just want you to know, I am here whatever decision you make. I hope you know that no matter what your heart says, whatever decision you make...there is no blame...there is no guilt. The reason is..because we all know your choices will be made out of a place of love. There can be no guilt nor blame in that. And even though Ive said it, we all know that will not be the case. But in the times you do feel those ways...remember all of us here think you are wonderful. We all are so proud of you...

yeah, like I said, I was just trying to give some support, at the end is REALLY her choice and like I said from the beggining, whatever she choose I will be here too.

She doesn´t deserve that, actually NOBODY does...


_ anyways just a question, how you´re doing?
and your bedrest? =)

 

[embojet]

Just wantd to poke my head in here and say that I am so sorry Tasha and Lottie . I know I dont have time to come on here much any more and dont post often but I follow what goes on and I am thinking of both of you

 

[nkbapbt]

Bed rest is...bed rest. he he. I had a positive OB appointment yesterday, everything is currently stable and I was discharged from the in home nursing program (which I am glad about as they honestly weren't overly helpful..I mean it was nice, but I felt like I was being baby sat a bit..and I don't want to take away their time for people who are in more need of it). My cervix is funneling but not overtly fast, so while it's opening its stable..

I am in the third tri now...which is some where I have never been!

Baby M weighs 850 g and is a week behind in measurement in some areas...but is healthy and doing well. So that's all good!

How is everyone else?

 

[you&me]

Nic, I am so sorry...I forgot to say to you about your third tri today

This baby is weird...doesn't seem to like sweets much...well pick n mix in particular for the first time I scoffed my face on the stuff...then back it came

 

[Bec L]

So so sorry to hear that Lottie xxx

 

[Veck]

Im really sorry for Tasha's little baby. Life can be just so cruel sometimes. I'm sending all my love and support to her and her family.

And Lottie, so sorry as well. I read about your little boy's condition and I'm so sorry that you're going through the same thing again...whatever you do we'll support you.

xx

 

[Scottiemum]

Hi, I sometimes read this thread as one day I hope to be brave enough to have another baby like you all. Just wanted to say I am really sorry for Tasha and Lottie, I cant imagine what you must be going through. Thinking of you. XXXXX

 

[mummy3]

You and me, you can pass that pick n mix this way...

Nic, for 3rd tri!

Sandi, how you getting on?

Tasha

Lottie Always here for you ladies

Eilidh failed her well baby check today, she was meant to have her 1 month vaccinations but her weightgain was nowhere near enough. She gained a total of just under 4oz in 2 weeks and is 4lb 10oz now at 5 weeks. We are already supplementing with 24 cal neosure and have to increase the # of feeds we do this then follow up next week.

 

[AP]

for all of you. Tasha and Lottie know im always here for yous girls ok?

Amy you really do have another little one huh?

Nic third tri must blow ur mind hun!!!

You&mw im saying boy already

We are ok. I am scared for when DH goes back to work. I dunno how i can logically put alex to bed and leave tori ykwim? Stumped.

 

[you&me]

Uhhhhh...I don't know what to do with boys!!! I only know how to look after little girl's...

Does Alex settle pretty easy at bed time?...how does her routine go?

 

[AP]

Thats my other issue, MIL fucked the bedtine up royally. She put Alex in her cot to play. (when she was told not to and in fact shouldnt have even been up-yeah that was THAT day!)

If there one thing more banned than porn in this house, its alex in a cot for anything other than bed

So last two nights we've put her in her cot, she tries to get up , gets stressed and throws up. Within 1 minute. :/

So we need to clean her up... And start again....

 

[you&me]

fookin MIL's!!!

You will find that you will fall into a routine when hubby goes back to work...what time does Alex generally go to bed?...it may fall around a time Tori will nap...or do you have a baby carrier so you can be hand free to see to Alex?

 

[AP]

You&me, sling+boobs+tori+alex= erm....

 

[you&me]

You&me, sling+boobs+tori+alex= erm....

oh yeah!!!

I am full of bright ideas today I tell ya!!




Lottie...how are you?