Can I have an off topic rant please!
Our geneticist phoned me this morning about us arranging an appt for us to see a geneticist in Edinburgh to get another persons view on the chromo issue and he said he'd thought of another option seeing as the ethical option was no longer possible due to how late I'd got my amnio results.
The geneticists suggestion this morning was that I have Miss Bumpity, spend as much time with her as I'd like when she is born and then have her fostered
He said if we wanted to stay in contact with her we could but wouldn't have to and then if her care needs reduced as she got older we could choose to have her back but again we wouldn't have to if we didn't want to
I was absolutely
horrified at him even suggesting this!! I told him that would not be a route we'd be looking at going down and I said to him about we are waiting to hear from social services about getting a carer for Findlay for a few hrs a week of respite care (as to date we don't get any so I don't get a break at all) and he said to speak to her and she might be able to tell me more about fostering
I have to agree with what my Mum said the other day about she thinks the hospital are worried we might take legal action about the fact that due to hospital admin cock ups meaning we had the amnio so late we have been given no option but to put Miss Bumpity through all that she is now likely to go through, we'll almost certainly have to move house in the future (as whilst we could extend our house to put a bedroom and wetroom for F downstairs there's no way we could extend to put 2 of each in which is what we will likely need now with Miss Bumpity ) etc and I wonder if the geneticist is 'suggesting' this so that if we did take legal action the hospital can then turn round and say 'well we gave you an alternative option so you didn't have to look after 2'. It's the only reason I can think of that he would even be suggesting the idea
He's making it sound like all we care about is how much work it is going to be which isn't the case at all as whilst yes of course it will be an awful lot of hard work and stress with 2 of them (and Dave mentioned to them being concerned about the effect on me and my health as he is at work full time) our main concern is of course for her and the fact that we no longer have the option of sparing her going through everything she will likely go through as whislt it would absolutely break me I would do anything to spare her going through everything.
I was in the car with a lady from the special needs group F goes to when he phoned and she and the other Mum's at the group were disgusted by what the geneticist had suggested so at least I know it's not me overreacting and that what he said was bang out of order.