pregnancy & text buddy- aug 2010

[dizzy65]

ya i have my scan set for march 3rd and at that point i will be 15 weeks 1 day so it'll be good to see the baby then they usually do one at 12 weeks but they are short of doctors up here but i dont mind the wait it just makes it that much more special when i get to see bean

I dont no if i will be ableto restrain my self either if they ask me if i wana no the sex of the baby but i will have to because OH doesnt want to know what the sex of the baby is and i dont either not until its time But i still would really like to know what we are having so we could go and pick out little blue things or little pink things

I hope so that blanket will be really special because my grandma made it

What do u want a boy or agirl?

 

[QueSeraSera]

i guess i lucked out that my OH wants to know the sex this time. i think it would have turned out badly if i wanted to know and he didnt. lol. im sure i would have thought they could tell just me and i could keep it a secret...but i know that wouldnt actually work! so luckily we both decided we wanted to find out! OH didn't find out last time because his ex didnt want to, but this time he wants to know.

first and foremost, i just want a healthy baby. i wont be upset by not having the gender "i want" or anything like that. i just want a baby mostly. but i would love to have a girl. there is already my stepson and so we are doing all of the fun "boy" stuff with him, but ultimately i would like to buy some dresses and ribbons. my husband is certain its a boy. his greatgrandfather, grandfather, and father only had boys...so he is set on the fact that he can only have boys. i think that is silly. he obviously has the chromosome to have girls, but he just wont accept that as a possibility. lol

i also really want a girl because we have good ideas for girl names, but are struggling agreeing on boy ones. so having a girl would avoid having long discussions over names

 

[dizzy65]

haha ya you did luck out for sure i dont think i could keep it a secret if i found out the sex and OH didnt i would blabb it and then i would feel bad as he doesnt want to know. but it is our first so it will be good for a surprise when we have our second we may find out but thats a long time away im just happy that im pregnant right now

Im like you i just want it to be happy and healthy thats all that matters to me. But I do really want a boy because i grew up with having a sister. OH he has the same oppinion as your DH he says that as most of his side of the family is all boys that he is only capable of making boys and wont see the fact that there is a 50, 50 chance that it will be a girl hehe.

We have names picked out for both boy and girl we've had them picked out for a while, so there will be no fighting on names there we have both agreed on some pretty good names we think any way

 

[dizzy65]

humm that post posted twice

 

[QueSeraSera]

i dont get guys sometimes. its a fact that there is a 50% chance of a boy and a 50% chance of a girl. but they refuse to believe it! i think part of it for my OH is that he wants more boys too...he thinks girls are too much stress later on, dealing with dating, pregnancy, and all that stuff. i think he is just silly.

we thought up a girls name easily and both love it, but the boys name we have three different first names we like, but cant pick which. and we cant think of good middle names for any of them! so i dont think we will fight over boys names...i just think it will take more work!

i just noticed youre at 10 weeks today! congrats! youre like 1/4 of the way to labor!

 

[dizzy65]

ya i no my OH is like ooh boys will be so much easier to have because they dont cry as much (ya right) and then when they get older theres make up and having to be the scary father so none of her bfs will want to come over and then what if she gets pregnant at being a teenager.. The way Guys think seriously lol. he keeps joking with me its goina be twin boys (because twins run in both of our families.. im like omg hahaha

Names are hard to think of because u want to pick a name for the baby that they will like and not be afraid to say that that is there name and all of that..

Thanks im so excited to be 10 weeks. that means only 5 weeks tell my scan

 

[QueSeraSera]

my DH is the exact same way when i say its gonna be a girl! he keeps saying theyre so much work and what if she gets pregnant and how are we gonna deal with boyfriends. and im thinking...um boys are work too and they could get a girl pregnant and theyll have girlfriends...so whats the difference!? haha. like you said, guy think so strangely

the whole name thing is very difficult. my husband is italian so he wants traditional italian names, which i respect. but we also have to make sure that they arent so obscure that theyre unpronouncable, or my parents feel shut out cause they arent itlian, or the kid get made fun of. theres a very fine line with traditional names i think. plus we want to integrate some family names, so that makes it more difficult. like the middle name lee is common in my family, but there isnt really an italian equivalent. causes more work trying to find the right name. but its fun at the same time!

5 more weeks til your scan! hooray! itll be here before ya know it!

 

[dizzy65]

ooh i no i tried explaining to OH that its goina be no deferant with a boy that they could also get a girl pregnant and stuff like that and he just kinda was like well its differant with a girl its like lol... he just been saying girls will be lots more work and all that..

With the middle names for our baby if its a boy the middle name is going to be after my grandfather who passed away when i was 10 and if its a girl the middle name with be after OH's Grandma that passed away when OH was 16, so the middle names have come pretty easy, but first names our minds may change when it gets closer and closer to the date we just have to make sure its the perfect one. I was joking with him that the baby will have my last name and he was like no im the father it will have my last name haha it was funny to see his reaction.

I know 5 weeks it seems so far away but it will be here before i know it im so excited

 

[QueSeraSera]

haha! i bet the last name thing definitely got a rise out of him! its always fun to mess around with them a bit.

thats very cool about the middle names youve chosen. thats always nice when you can have names with meaning like that. my DH mentioned naming the baby if its a boy after his greatgrandfather whom he absolutely adored. the name was pasquale. which i think is a very cool name, but he would like it for a first name and i said maybe a middle name would be better. im just scared that most people would pronounce it wrong since its italian and you have to pronounce the final "e" like a long "A"

i figure we have quite awhile yet to figure it out!

 

[dizzy65]

haha yep gotta keep them on there toes

i think that having an italian name would be cool in school the teachers and sub teachers will pernounce ever the simpilest names wrong, they prounounced my wrong too and mine is basic (shannon) and after the first time they meet him/her they will probably not get it wrong again it is very cool that your DH wants to stick to tradition and have an italian name. Maybe you guys could comprimise and do a name that means something to him and a name that means something to you

Yes you are right there is lots of time left yet to think up names

 

[QueSeraSera]

ahhh no way! my name is shannon too! that is really crazy, because its not really THAT common of a name. at least i dont run into other shannons very often! hah...what a weird coincidence. but if you tell me your husbands name is roberto then thats just gonna be kinda creepy!

i know what you mean though about teachers getting every name in the book wrong, so i guess i really shouldnt place that much importance on that factor.

ive never really wanted to name my kids after family or anything. i dont know why...probably because i had a unique name in my family and everyone else was named after the older generations. it made me feel special. lol. so luckily i dont have any names that im attached to as far as that goes.

the other boy name weve been thinking about that i think i like more is carmine. easy to pronounce, traditional italian...but still no luck on the middle name. luckily the deadline for picking names isnt until the 20 week mark when we find out the gender. i want to have them picked by then so once we know if its a boy or a girl we can start calling it by name. wierd...i know.

 

[dizzy65]

haha thats awesome i dont find too many people with my name haha no my OH's name is jason hehe that would be creapy if they had the same name too it would be weird haha

Carmine thats a cool name. middle names usually are harder to come up with than the first names. The name we have picked out for a boy is either Joshua, or Nicholas and for a girl its either Summr or Emily. So we will still have a bit of deciding to do when the time comes i guess.. i think its cute that you wana start calling it by its name, instead of just him or her.. Like we will be calling it it until its born it kinda feels weird to call it an it when ill be like 39 weeks and it will be likea real baby in there.

I cant wait tell i go to the doctor and i find out when my bean is actually supposed to be here and when the actuall due date is. the doctor i went tosee at the clinic said if i did a hormone sample that they would be able to tell how far along i did it. so of course idid the hormone sample. and than he looked at it and say they are very very high then iwas like so how far along am i and he was like oh i cant tell u that i wasl ike gee thanks lol

 

[QueSeraSera]

pfew! glad to find out we arent actually the same person! hehe.

i agree i think carmine is much cuter that pasquale. and a little more straightforward on the pronounciation! i really like both nicholas and joshua for a boy. when i was younger i always said i would name my son nicholas, but then about 2 years ago my friend named her son that. so now it would just be weird! lol. but i do really like it. and ive always love the season names...summer and autumn. such pretty names. emily is really nice too. you guys have some great choices picked out!

i know some women think its weird but im definitely the type that wants to get to know my baby before it is born. i plan on doing the reading to the belly thing and music to the belly thing. i guess i see it like you said, its really like a real, grown baby in there towards the end...and so i want to start treating it that way. my husband says im out of control! haha.

thats pretty lame that the doc said he would be able to tell how far along you were and then couldnt! what was the point of getting the test then?! from my schedule of appointments it doesnt seem like i will be having any dating procedures done until the ultrasound! and thats not until like week 20! i would like to know sooner a more accurate due date. but maybe im just mistaken. i go to the first informational/registration appointment tomorrow, so im sure i will find out more then.

 

[dizzy65]

thanks i really like names like summer and autumn too. Thats why we have chose if its a girl to name her summer.

I plan to do the whole reading and music to the tummy thing too because i believe that they can hear the voices and music and it will be comforting to them i think to at least once a day be able to hear our voices so maybe when it comes out he/she will be more familiar with us and he/she will already know us in some ways because they were comforted by our voices in the womb . OH thinks im crazy to hes like dont u think ur going a bit over board. but no i dont. because like u said i want to get to know my baby before it is out. I guess they will never know what its like because they dont get the joy of carrying it ..

Ya it seems so far away to the ultra sound to find out how far u are actually along it would be weird to go there and they tell u that ur like a month further along than u thought ha ha.. but i am excited to know when to expect my baby

 

[QueSeraSera]

i think youre right, i think that boys just cant understand certain things because they just arent going through the same thing as we are. i have read many studys that describe the benefits of reading, talking, and playing music for babies still in the womb. and one of the things is like you said, babies are more familiar with their parents voices and more easily soothed.

i cant even imagine what i would do if they told me i was a lot farther along than i thought! that would be insane! but it would mean a shorter time until i meet the baby, so it would probably be good news!

 

[dizzy65]

yes ive herd that too it makes them calmer and more relaxing when hearing their parents voices so im goina try it

that would be funny if they said i was further along than i thought it would be kind of a relief to know im further along but at the same time it would be scary to know that its shorter time tell u get to see the baby, and theres just all the stuff to do that much sooner

 

[QueSeraSera]

oh definitely. if i found out i was a month further i would probably freak out at first because id think i was behind in getting stuff done. but after the shock wore off, id be happy about it being closer to labor.

didnt you say you were gonna be moving midway through your pregnancy to be closer to your family? thats a pretty big undertaking while pregnant! lol. but it will totally be worth it. i wish my family was nearby. for me, its just me and my husband out here and of course his stepson. but i know after i give birth ill be wishing my parents lived here. luckily theyre already planning on being here for the birth and a week or two after.

 

[dizzy65]

yep we are moving closer mid way threw my pregnancy but its because OH is getting paid to go back to school and stuff so we will be moving there and doing the rest of my pregnancy near my parents. and his dad. it will be good. my dad just sudjested thou if the situation where im currantly living gets any worse that i should move back home tell OH can come down and we can move out because right now im way to stressed living here, so me and my cat will be moving maybe to where my parents live. for a while any way

 

[QueSeraSera]

that would be awesome to get paid to go to school! and it works out perfectly because it puts you near to both of your families.

is there something wrong with the place youre living in now? if it is tending to be a stress factor fo you then it probably wouldnt be a bad idea to go ahead and move close to your parents now. especially since you are supposed to make sure youre as relaxed and not stressed as possible! im sure it would be hard to be away from OH, but it might be better in the long run for the baby. when were you originally to be moving for the school year?

 

[dizzy65]

yeah its a pretty good deal them paying him to go back

Yes these people im living with are horrid. First off they have fed me expired food (i didnt no it was expired at the time) and they are so stupid that they dont no there is anything wrong with eatin food thats been expired for over a month and they get sick and wonder why. And they are constantly yelling at each other, and there son always hits on me and makes me really uncomfortable. And they are always judging me on everything. There is so much more thats why my dad said that if i need to me and my cat can come stay with them tell OH can move up there. The thing that really gets me is my cat is 3 months old and he is an inside cat and they put him out side and when SIL told her that trouble is an inside cat he said oh well thats too bad i put him out side. i almost smacked him !!