pregnancy & text buddy- aug 2010

[QueSeraSera]

thats awesome that youre both set up for good paying jobs. but i think your OH is right, for now you should just rest and try to stay relaxed. but if you have 6 you probably wont be working anyway...probably be a stay at home mom cause im sure the childcare would be outrageous! at least it is here. about $450/mo for a single kid...and thats the discounted military rate!

thats awesome that you have someone there that is that close to your due date and you know well. im sure that will be really nice for support and someone to do al the fun baby stuff.

 

[dizzy65]

wow thats a lot of money for child care for sure. If its that much here then it is probably best to stay home because if i worked my hole pay check would be going to day care but i would defantly work after the kids are in school for a full day. unless i can get a job that has benifits with child care so i get a really good discount. i know at the college they have child care..

Yes it will be good to have sum one to do all the fun baby stuff with

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea im not sure if its like that everywhere. it might just be that hawaii is super expensive. i was looking at a nonmilitary place downtown where i work and it was 1000$ a month for an infant! i almost fainted! but that would be awesome if you could find a place with child care benefits, and at least youll have that at university...they dont have things like that here. it wouldnt matter for me though, as i will be graduating in may anyway.

oh i definitely think itll be good to have someone to experience it with! i wish i has someone like that here. is she near you or is she near where youll be moving? at any rate, its good that you get along and awesome that youre due so close together

 

[dizzy65]

wholy thats a little bit expensive for child care. thats crazy. soo much money, i guess they are just tryng to make people more broke then they are already ha ha.. i hope that its not that bad here i will have to look into it i suppose. are you going to be doing child care then for your kids? ah thats good you are graduating in may but it sucks that the university doesnt have any child care or anything.

She lives right down the road from my OH's dad so she is really close to us. well sort of .. we wont be staying with OH's dad very long just tell we can get our own place. but it will be good.. we were looking to buy a house that is right across the street from her. and its by OH's dad and its close enough for my parents to come and visit too. so when we get down there we wil have to see about it

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea i know! its almost not worth it to go back to work if youre going to be spending almost an entire paycheck on childcare! lol. we are discussing it financially if i could stay home for a bit, but ill probably just take about 6 to 8 weeks off or so and then go back. itll be hard to leave the little one at daycare, but we also need money coming in. were hoping we will be able to find a private childcare provider...someone we can get to know and trust that only has a few kids in their house, instead of having to take the baby to a center with tons of kids and different providers all the time.

wow that house location sounds really perfect! youll be close to a lot of both you and your OHs family. and if youre right across from her, your kids can have playdates together! thats really cool that youre thinking of buying...weve been wanting too but because my DH is in the military and gets moved around every 4 years or so, we cant really do that right now. but thats an exciting thing for sure!

 

[dizzy65]

that sounds like a good idea having some one you know baby sit for your baby that way you can work easier knowing that you trust the person you leave your baby with plus it will probably be a lot cheaper than day care i think that i would much rather do that than leave my baby in a center with loads of ther kids for sure.

wow i couldnt imagin moving every 4 years. it would be so hard. i found it hard when we moved from there to here and having to do that, it would be so hard once you just get settled in to take off again. or maybe its really exciting too getting to meet all sorts of new people and have lots of new adventures

I have the flu mixed with morning sickness right now so im like really sick and it sucks big time because we arent aloud and cold meds so i just have to let the flu run its course i guess

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea i think its a much better idea to see if we can find a private provider. i like that i would get to know the person well and also that they are only allowed to watch like 4 or 5 kids per provider. so it seems like the baby would get more attention than at a big center.

moving isnt that difficult. i mean, i moved away from everyone i knew at 18 to hawaii far far away where i didnt know a soul. i think once you do that, it makes everything much easier. plus, some of the places we could go are pretty exciting. others, though are not so much. the only thing i worry about is when our kids are getting older, them having to leave their friends. but my DH is only in the military 11 more years anyway and then we will move somewhere and settle down probably. plus, theres the chance that the next place we go we could end up staying out the rest of the time. so its not really that bad. for example, my DH will have been in hawaii 6 years before we move, so its not always a sure thing moving that often.

im sorry your sick! i was so scared i would get sick because my stepson had a bit of a bug, but i avoided getting it thankfully. when i usually get sick i just take tons of medicine to combat it quickly, and you cant do that when pregnant...which made me nervous even more. hopefully you get well soon and the sickness goes away quickly! sending you well wishes!

 

[dizzy65]

yes for sure the baby would get lots more attention at a smaller place with less kids than at a bigger center

oh well thats good that you dont have to move that much. i think you are right after the first time you move it doesnt seem that bad after word when you move again. we moved up here from home which is 12 hours away (14 in the winter) and at the begining i was soo home sick but now its so much more easier to be away from every one i do still get home sick, but for differant reasons then before. now its just that the weather here is way differant, winter here lasts way longer and i hate snow and cold i am totally a beach girl. OH loves snow mobiling and stuff like that and i just love the warmth. and at home the snows usually gone by march. So thats a main reason i feel so home sick now.

Thanks. it really sucks being sick while pregnant not being able to take any cold meds. We moved into my MIL's place where everyone here has colds and caughs and while pregnant your immune system is differant so i got sick way easier than if i wasnt pregnant. but hopefully it will go away sooner.

I got OH to agree to let me and my kitty go stay with my parents for a week so i wll be home for like 3 weeks (2 weeks with him, one week by my self) so i get to see the nice spring weather i am so happy

 

[QueSeraSera]

i know totally what you mean about the change in weather making you homesick. i grew up in wyoming where it is super cold and the winters last from about october to may. i hated the snow and the cold, so i decided to come to university in hawaii where theres beaches and it is warm all year long. mostly, i love the weather here and don't miss the snow, but around christmastime i get so homesick. partly because i miss my family, but also partly because celebrating christmas in 70 degree weather is just plain wrong. there are times when the warmth is fantastic, and there are certain times that just call for cold weather, snow, and being snuggled up in big sweaters next to a fireplace! but you do eventually get used to it. i dont blame you though, for wanting to go back to a place that isnt so cold!

hopefully youre right about the cold, maybe because your immune system is all changed it will be able to fight off the flu symptoms more quickly that normal! fingers crossed for you that thats the case!

that will be nice to go see your parents for awhile and get out of the cold! im sure with you being pregnant and all they will be excited to spend the extra time with you too! and i bet your kitty will appreciate it too...getting to go spend time with people who dont put it out into the cold!

 

[dizzy65]

yes i agree the perfect time for the cold and snow is around christmas time.. i love it when it snows around christmas time and seeing all the decorations and all that stuff around. the snow makes it all so much more beautiful . but its like after christmas holidays are over like after new years and all that its like its time for the snow to go lets get back to some normal weather haha. Where i grew up was B.C canada and they are cold there in the winter but not for as long as here, they have there winter from like november to mid febuary, and here its winter from october to june. so its way differant. but i live way up north here too. and just get so sick and tired of being stuck in the cold all the time.

i hope so i really hate being sick its no fun at all.

Yes my kitty will like being there in the spring like weather because if he gets kicked out side not like he will but if he does it will be nice and warm for him

 

[QueSeraSera]

i totally agree! here around christmas time everyone puts the lights up and the decorations in the yard, but it just kinda looks silly without snow all around. i mean, they put lights on the palm trees! its just weird and i always want to be back home during that time of the year. but, just like you said, after the holidays im good with the warm weather again! lol

hopefully youre getting a lot of sleep and fluids. that should help out some. and you gotta have chicken noodle soup! thats sure to help you feel better

 

[dizzy65]

haha that would look funny.. lights in palm trees, i couldnt imagin

Yes lots of fluids and chicken noodle soup was trying to get OH to make me some but he got hurt pretty bad at work today so he cant really help me with anything at the moment. it sucks. but he is doing okay..

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea its really pretty silly looking. the tourists love it because theyve all come from cold places to spend christmas on the beach, and im sure its all so different for them. but when you do it year after year, it kinda gets old. lol

that really sucks that your OH is hurt too! just when you need someone to be taking care of you too! i hope is alright and starts feeling better quickly, and you too!

 

[dizzy65]

haha yeah i bet. i think it would be interesting to see for sure but i wouldnt want it for all my chirstmases i love being home around my family and all that around christmas with all the pretty snow and lights. Usually the day after christmas or in the week after christmas my OH goes out with my dad and my uncle and my Uncles Brother in law and they all go ice fishing up in the bush and they have great fun and it would be really hard to ice fish if it was like summer weather out there ha ha ha. I think I like how we spend our christmas

He is doing better today, he just has a broken thumb and a sprenged knee and he stretched his leg and brused alot of his bones and he hurt his back pretty bad. but not bad enough to stop him going to work. He fell off of a 10 foot drop and bounced off of a trailor and hit the ground so it was a pretty rough drop and he is lucky he didnt do much more damage like break any major bones or anything and im very thankful he is okay. The one bone he broke His thumb, was one he broke when he was in high school, and he just re broke an old injury that never really healed properly so we are hoping that this time it heals as it should. it used to click. So OH is kind of in a half cast on his hand. he is under no cercumstance aloud to lift with that hand which is totally understandable so he is on light duty he says its better than being off all together. i dont really know if it is.

Your 9 weeks now that must be exciting hay one week down only 31 more to go hehe. how are you feeling?

 

[QueSeraSera]

yea your christmases sound like a lot of fun! i used to go back home and do the big family christmas in the cold and snow and go sledding and build snowmen with my nephew and all that fun stuff. its just been the past couple of years we havent been able to afford the flights back...its really expensive to fly from hawaii to my hometown. like $1000 a person...and theres me, DH, and my stepson. so it takes a very good year for us to be able to manage it. lol.

wow! that sounds like a pretty bad fall your OH took! youre right though, it seems like hes lucky he didnt do any worse damage...it could have eaily been much much worse with him having worse broken bones. and what a positive way too look at it...this gives his thumb a chance to heal right this time! i can't believe hes still working though...i would think he would need a couple of days to recover from something like that. i mean, even if nothing else is broken he must be really sore still. im glad he isn't worse off than he is is though! seems like he should heal up pretty quickly

yea nine weeks now and the baby is the size of a grape. lol. im feeling pretty well. im still really tired all of the time. and the past few days any food i look at makes me nauseous. last week i was constantly hungry and wanting any food, and this week every single thing i contemplate eating turns my stomach. form one extreme to the other! lol. how have you been doing? staying rested up and fighting that flu off?

 

[dizzy65]

wow that is quite expensive to come home. you would have to save up lots to get home. plus im guessing flights to and from hawaii around christmas time would be really expensive and hard to come by so you would have to book a month or two in advance to get tickets out and back in just to make sure you have a spot. than the flights would be really crowded. but once in a while it would be good to go home and be with the family. It would be pretty expensive for the 3 of you to go and next year the four of you to go.. that really sucks. but maybe when you move you will be closer to the snow and all of that

Yes he is very lucky that nothing got really badly broken like a leg or anything that would prevent him from working, i think he should take some time off but OH said he cant afford it i just rolled my eyes at him when he said that, i just wish for once he would think of him self. Hopefully he wont be in pain for two long, he should heal pretty quickly, he is limping and stuff which is to be expected with what has happend to him.

I totally know what you mean about being tired all time time it sucks. that sucks for feeling natious when looking at food. each week i find its differant one week im fine no morning sickness the next week im with my head in the toilet. Im getting lots of rest trying to fight off this flu, hopefully it wont be with me very long. Hope you start to feel better soon. Morning sickness and feeling natious can really suck some times. Especially when you know you have to eat but the thought of it makes you just want to throw up everywhere. Hopefully your next week will be a little bit easier

 

[courtney13]

i am due august 3rd! PS! how do i get the baby things to show up underneath???

 

[dizzy65]

welcome! and what do you mean?

 

[QueSeraSera]

hello courtney! welcome!

yea its pretty expensive, luckily when the baby comes it will be able to fly free for the until its two years old. we got a lot of our traveling in before my stepson turned two so he was free! haha. the only bad part is that he doesnt get his own seat. so he had to be on our laps for the 5 hour flight to california and then however far we were going from there. but totally worth it to save the money, lol once we move back to the mainland it will be better cause then we will have the option to drive...here its fly or nothing.

i know how the thing with your OH can be...my DH is the same way, hes hardheaded and once he has his mind set on something its impossible to get him to change his mind!

its so crazy how quick the symptoms can change! i guess its kind of a good thing though, because even though i feel terrible right now i know that theres hope that next week ill be feeling fine! lol. i bet yours has been super bad with morning sickness and the flu combined...hopefully your next week will better too!

 

[dizzy65]

ooh thats cool that babies can fly for free.. we will have to dothat some time when baby is born i wasnt sure if they did or not because i know on the buses the babies get to ride for free, but they also get there own seat. and kids under 5 get a lower rate on the buses, i wasnt sure if it was the same with planes. My mom and i used to take the grey hound all the time when i was little to go and see my gramma who lived 8.5 hours away from us.

i totally know what you mean, one week ill be fine and next week ill be like crap. but its good in a way feeling sick with morning sickness and everything because you know that its a good pregnancy and that there is actaully something going on in there. When we get into Second tri the symptoms are supposed to be differant also, we are supposed to feel less tired and sick. I hope so hehe . because i dont know how much more of throwing up i can take. haha. But on the plus side my flu is starting to get better