polaris
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i took the example of sleep for a 4 month old and a 6-7 month old from the book. now this actually worked well with ds1. with ds2 i just hardly keep up. like time flies and he is almost 5 months now
the white in the graph represents sleep, and green is sleep time.
t means hours.
oh and this is an icelandic book. the day in iceland ends late. people wake up lik 8am to go to work, since it only takes 10 mins to go to work, hence the late bed time. we woke up 7 to go to work when we had to drive ds1 to playschool.
It's interesting, I was just talking to someone about this.
Studies have shown that the circadian rhythms of people around the world are shockingly similar. For example, the vast majority of people do best (sleeping most soundly and most restoratively) with a 10pm bedtime regardless of where they live. I'm not sure how the changees in culture, how long it's light out, etc. influence these factors. Weissbluth would aruge that they don't, but I'm not convinced.
Anyway, one of my personal pet-peeves is people saying "all babies are different" in regards to sleep and encouraging moms to "ignore the experts". Sorry, but the current advice of how much a baby should sleep and when they should sleep is based on years and years of research on circadian rhythms and biology. They're not just random guidelines and MOST babies do best if they sleep as recommended.
Noelle, I do agree with you and I am really interested in the sleep research and optimal sleep patterns. However since having Clara I have definitely relaxed my beliefs to some extent and embraced the individuality of babies a lot more. Thomas was in many ways a text-book baby with regard to sleep - I wouldn't say that he was a great sleeper but he did well with the expert-endorsed schedules and wake-times and his sleep as a whole seemed to follow the general pattern that is described in sleep books.
Clara is much less textbook in that regard. She sort of does her own thing with regard to sleep. Having said that I am still guided by age-appropriate schedules/wake-times etc. but I find that I have to be a lot more flexible with Clara and things just don't always work as well as they worked for Thomas.
Having said that I do totally agree that many people are much too quick to say things like "oh I just dropped his nap because he just didn't seem to want to sleep during the day anymore" or "I just keep him up until midnight because that's what works for us" or whatever, because I do agree that in most cases that baby would be better on a more age-appropriate schedule and sometimes it's just parental convenience/preference or lack of awareness. But it's honestly only since having a second child, very different to my first, that I have really genuinely realized that all babies actually are different and what works like a charm for one actually may not be a good fit at all for a different baby. I didn't really fully believe that when I only had one.