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So glad things worked out Megan, and it's awesome you had such a good night too!
MrsPear - Her adjusted age is barely 4 weeks.
DH and I are thinking it might be an issue with what I'm eating. we have a sneaking suspicion that she has an intolerance to cow's milk protein so, starting today, I'm on a dairy-free diet. We're off to the doc's on Thursday to see what he has to say. Thankfully she's still gaining weight at a good rate, but the blood in her stool is getting worse which may also explain her fussiness. I'm hoping we caught it early enough that there won't be any lasting issues.
She's ben pretty lethargic all day but, given how her night was, it's understandable.
Yuck. Mummy insomnia is the worst. We had an awful day yesterday that culminated in me having to leave town without getting my errands done with a screaming baby all the way home.
I was so upset and DH just doesn't understand. He thinks he's a wonderful child and the truth is he is 100% better for DH. But for me, all he wants is to be held. I can't do anything all day. He won't just sit and entertain himself in the pushchair. As soon as we arrived yesterday he woke up after a 20 minute nap and screamed until I gave up and went home an hour later. He screamed until we were practically outside the front door again.
I tried to get an early night but didn't fall asleep until 11 and woke up at 1.30 waiting for him to wake up. He woke at 2 and I didn't get back to sleep.
I spent the whole day and night just thinking how disappointed I am that I don't enjoy being a Mum. I have a month left on maternity leave and feel like a spoilt brat that I haven't enjoyed it. Every other Mum doesn't want to leave their child and I'm looking forward to it. It isn't enjoyable to spend my days with him. DH just looks at me like I'm a monster.
I'm glad that your LOs sleep is improving. Ours is all over the place, still heavily disrupted by rolling and last night he decided he wanted food again. There will always be something until he is 2/3 years old, I can just tell that he is going to be that child.
I don't know why I signed up for this.
Do you know yesterday I could have written this myself. I feel so ashamed. I really love Joni, but I was trying to explain to OH, a lot of the time I don't actually enjoy being with her. I really think it's tiredness that does it. I feel like such an awful person inside because I don't think it's normal to feel this way. I think we may both be a bit depressed. I can't tell you what a relief it is to know that I am not alone though.
Yesterday she cried for over an hour when I was trying to get her to take her first nap, so I ended up just putting her on the playmat and going on the computer to calm down. She finally had a nap of less than 30 minutes and then was still crying afterwards. I wanted to get ready to go to the library so I had to just put her down crying whilst I got dressed etc. Then we caught the bus, and she slept for about 20 minutes. So she was still knackered and we didn't have any fun at the library. She slept about the same on the way home, was completely overtired at home and we spent about 1.5 hours rocking, singing, doing anything to get her to sleep and she had about 15 minutes in all that time. Finally she went to bed (what a relief) and since 1:30 she's been up at least once an hour if not several times.
So all in all, I feel like my days are a real battle to get her to nap, dealing with the aftermath of not having a nap, and dreading nighttime when I won't get any sleep.
I'm sorry to be on such a downer. I just feel so sad todya. Big hugs Mrsbeano, it truly isn't just you
Thank you for responding. Feeling pretty lonely here and as you say, its nice to feel as though there's someone else there who understands, although I am also sorry that you're having a rough time of it.
I KNOW its the sleep deprivation and its a really vicious circle. Quinn has had 2 separate weeks where he has STTN. By the end of the second time around, I managed to relax enough and also STTN. The next night he woke up again and the previous nights I was still up waiting for him.
Just feeling sorry for myself. I need to snap out of it. I've told my husband that he needs to be home from work ASAP at the moment and I'm going to make an effort to go out on my own before I lose the plot completely.
I am giving up on trying to get out and about during the day with Quinn though. It is too stressful to try and get him to nap outside of his cot and I've had enough of being the only person with the screaming baby in the pram. Yesterday I cried in Boots ffs!
Never, ever, ever again. Ever.
Do you know yesterday I could have written this myself. I feel so ashamed. I really love Joni, but I was trying to explain to OH, a lot of the time I don't actually enjoy being with her. I really think it's tiredness that does it. I feel like such an awful person inside because I don't think it's normal to feel this way. I think we may both be a bit depressed. I can't tell you what a relief it is to know that I am not alone though.
Yesterday she cried for over an hour when I was trying to get her to take her first nap, so I ended up just putting her on the playmat and going on the computer to calm down. She finally had a nap of less than 30 minutes and then was still crying afterwards. I wanted to get ready to go to the library so I had to just put her down crying whilst I got dressed etc. Then we caught the bus, and she slept for about 20 minutes. So she was still knackered and we didn't have any fun at the library. She slept about the same on the way home, was completely overtired at home and we spent about 1.5 hours rocking, singing, doing anything to get her to sleep and she had about 15 minutes in all that time. Finally she went to bed (what a relief) and since 1:30 she's been up at least once an hour if not several times.
So all in all, I feel like my days are a real battle to get her to nap, dealing with the aftermath of not having a nap, and dreading nighttime when I won't get any sleep.
I'm sorry to be on such a downer. I just feel so sad todya. Big hugs Mrsbeano, it truly isn't just you
Thank you for responding. Feeling pretty lonely here and as you say, its nice to feel as though there's someone else there who understands, although I am also sorry that you're having a rough time of it.
I KNOW its the sleep deprivation and its a really vicious circle. Quinn has had 2 separate weeks where he has STTN. By the end of the second time around, I managed to relax enough and also STTN. The next night he woke up again and the previous nights I was still up waiting for him.
Just feeling sorry for myself. I need to snap out of it. I've told my husband that he needs to be home from work ASAP at the moment and I'm going to make an effort to go out on my own before I lose the plot completely.
I am giving up on trying to get out and about during the day with Quinn though. It is too stressful to try and get him to nap outside of his cot and I've had enough of being the only person with the screaming baby in the pram. Yesterday I cried in Boots ffs!
Never, ever, ever again. Ever.
Haha parallel lives, I cried on the bus
It does help going out and about- I don't actually care what other people think of Joni crying but I just wish that I could enjoy my time being out with her instead of just desperately trying to stop her crying xx
Alright girls. In terms of sleep, last night was our best night EVER. She missed her last nap of the day, so had been up for four hours when she went to bed. She went to bed at six. When we went to bed at 9, I thought it was strange she hadn't woken yet, so I checked on her and she was still asleep, but I hit her dresser walking out, and it made her wake up so I fed her and she went right back to sleep.
Fast forward 6 hours (3am), I wake up and think WOW, why hasn't Lilly waken up yet??
I glanced over at the monitor and saw it was UNPLUGGED. I plugged it in, and about five minutes later Lilly started screaming, turns out her arm was stuck through the crib bars. I fed her, cuddled her, and put her back down. Then she slept until 8am, waking several times but no crying and she settled herself back to sleep.
I know she woke between 9 and 3 when the monitor was unplugged, and it breaks my heart knowing she was probably crying for me and I wasn't there. :/ I basically did unintentional CIO.
She's fine and happy today though.
I gotta say, even though I feel awful about last night, it was nice getting a whole six hour stretch of sleep, then getting another five hour stretch after feeding her.
You know I've been thinking and I think you may be right. Her room is across the hall from ours, about six feet between us. And if I'm upstairs during her nap and don't have the monitor I always hear her when she wakes up or cries. Surely I would have heard her if she cried last night, even without the monitor.
Maybe I have been going to her at night when its not needed.
You know I've been thinking and I think you may be right. Her room is across the hall from ours, about six feet between us. And if I'm upstairs during her nap and don't have the monitor I always hear her when she wakes up or cries. Surely I would have heard her if she cried last night, even without the monitor.
Maybe I have been going to her at night when its not needed.
Your setup sounds just like ours. Try it without the monitor for a night. I bet she suprises you Although you may not sleep much be worried at first!
We got breathable bumpers for Charlotte's crib. We too had that "stuck in the bars" issue, she rolls everywhere. They really helped!
Noelle - OMG sweetie I'm so happy for you Remember when you opened this thread feeling desperate for some sleep? Does that feel like a long time ago now? Go Charlotte!
You know I've been thinking and I think you may be right. Her room is across the hall from ours, about six feet between us. And if I'm upstairs during her nap and don't have the monitor I always hear her when she wakes up or cries. Surely I would have heard her if she cried last night, even without the monitor.
Maybe I have been going to her at night when its not needed.
Your setup sounds just like ours. Try it without the monitor for a night. I bet she suprises you Although you may not sleep much be worried at first!
We got breathable bumpers for Charlotte's crib. We too had that "stuck in the bars" issue, she rolls everywhere. They really helped!
Thanks guys for your encouraging words.
I think I'm going to!
I've been looking into the breathable bumpers. This is only the first time this has happened, but I don't want it happening again! She was so scared.