Really scared and need advice

[x_Chanty-x]

Hi everyone. I'm 14 and i just found out i'm about 3 weeks pregnant. I haven't told anyone yet and i need advice because when i first started going out with my boyfriend Brett my mum warned me not to get pregnant. Now i'm pregnant and it wasn't planned or anything but i really need help.

 

[vicky9207]

hey im 15 n had my baby 1 month ago my mum said the same thing lol n i did lol. i think u should tell ur mum asap!!! wat is ur relationship with ur mum? gud luck

 

[ella170]

im 17, i no thats older but its still young
everytime i left the house to go to my bf my mum said use condoms lol
she really made a point about it and now im 7 weeks pregnant and i cant go through wiv an abortion cos of my views on it
i dont think i can tell her, im just tryna put it off as long as possible cos i dont kno how shes gonna react.
but.. the thing is, ur already pregnant and its too late for ur mum to say 'u shud have used protection'. whats done it done, so dont worry bout that bit, worry about what ur gonna do about the pregnancy.
btw when i get round to tellin my mum i think ill tell her that i used condoms everytime and i dnt no how it happend lol
x

 

[vicky9207]

btw when i get round to tellin my mum i think ill tell her that i used condoms everytime and i dnt no how it happend lol
x

i told my mum that n it didnt work lol she didnt believe me my mum supported me the whole way though

 

[ella170]

oh shit lol i shud start thinkin of a plan b

 

[vicky9207]

lol

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh darling, I am sorry. Please talk to your mum as soon as you are brave enough to do so. My sister got pregnant at the same age as you. She told my mum who was not happy but supported her with her decision.

You need to share this with someone.

Lots of love xx

 

[greenkat]

Your mum warned you because she didn't want you to get pregnant, but now that you are I bet she'll do everything she can to support you, any good mum would.

I imagine you feel really scared - I am and I'm 20 but there's lots of support that you can take advantage of, and as you can see (from all the posts) you're not alone.

 

[nikky0907]

Yes,what's done it's done.
I'm 18,going on 19 and I'm pregnant.
My mom didn't tell me to use protection because she is not really interested in me(nice relationship,huh?).
Anyway,I don't want to scare you with the outcome.

Good luck,you should tell your mom,maybe once she realises that the situation cannot be changed,she'll support you.

 

[bigbelly2]

what ever happens people will notice "sooner rather than later" but as and when you are ready and when you feel the time is right youll tell who ever you need to... you WILL just know whens right, yes your mother may not be happy and will prob talk to you about all your options (some of which you may not want to hear) but listen to her (the saying with age comes wisdom and with wisdom comes age really is so true) try and stay calm, youll need to be very adult about it when talking to her and try and put yourself in her situation etc (i didnt and wasnt able to do this with my mom when i fell pregnant the first time and now i can see how i could have made things so much easier)...
i think youll be surprised by her reaction what ever happens she loves you and will want the best for BOTH of you!!
think positive thoughts
h x

 

[mBLACK]

Hm well I'm 15 and was 14 when I got pregnant, my advice is tell somebody you are close to (an adult), somebody who will support you, will not judge you and help you think of your options.
Remember there are 3 - raising the baby, adoption and abortion. It might seem hard at first once your family finds out but don't worry, gradually they will come to terms with this and accept it.

 

[mBLACK]

I also told my grandparents and parents that I used a condom everytime but it broke I think they know I bullshitted though!

 

[Liz]

At the end of the day girlies ur goin to go thru the best and most important time of ur life! u need as much support as u can get!
what i wud do is quickly tell her bcoz the longer u put it off the worse its guna b and then its over and dun with

 

[Blob]

Hey im 19, so older but still scared as anything, I swore i wasnt going to tell my mum for a while cos i was so worried she'd be disapointed in me. But in the end she just gave me a hug and told me i shouldnt of worried about telling her. Good luck

 

[YummyMummy]

Im 18, will turn 19 2 months after babys due....when i 1st told my mum she was disappointed wouldnt tlk 2 me, but after i showed her baba on the scan she came round, trust me ur mum will come round once she realises that you want the baby after all shes ur mum, she loves u no matter what.
me n mum use 2 hav a not so good relationship but since she came to terms with me being pregnant were like best friends & has turned into super granma she cants top tellin people...
but if u find it hard to tell her tell maybe a teacher u trust or an adult and get them to sit down with you when u tell ur mum, my friend did that and she said it really helped havin someone else there.
wishin u all the best hunni if u ever wanna talk then jus message me ok hun

x

 

[Danielle]

hi im 18 and im just over 6 weeks pregnant. my mom always said to me be careful you no what all moms say. she didnt want me to get pregnant. i told her about a week ago, she was shocked but shes come to terms with it now. if you havnt already id tell your mom it will make you feel better. good luck hun

 

[x_Chanty-x]

Thanks to u all for giving me advice but now i need more advice lol. I haven't told my mom yet but i've told my boyfriend. He broke up with me this morning and said he doesn't want anything to do with the baby. Now i'm gonna be a single teen mom with no1 2 turn 2. I can't bring myself to abort this baby and have decided to keep it but now i'm scared at how i'm gonna cope. Did any1 hav 2 cope on their own and if so, how did u cope?

 

[ella170]

what a prick, u dont need someone like that around when ur havin a baby anyway.
u need to tell someone who isnt gonna persuade u to have an abortion and confuse u. i told 3 of my best m8s nd theyre all tellin me to kill it, and it just makes things even worse for me.
the way things are goin wiv the bf, i might have to do this on my own too. if u can tell an adult that really cares about u (maybe an aunt or close family friend if u cant tell ur mum), then they will do everything to help u out xx

 

[nikky0907]

Well,I'm not with the father but he still supports me...

I can tell you that a lot of girls did everythimg by themselves,built a whole life by themselves and with their kids...

You need to find your way.

 

[mommytashaX2]

Hi everyone. I'm 14 and i just found out i'm about 3 weeks pregnant. I haven't told anyone yet and i need advice because when i first started going out with my boyfriend Brett my mum warned me not to get pregnant. Now i'm pregnant and it wasn't planned or anything but i really need help.

I was 14 when i got pregnant with my first baby. I was a virgin and got pregnant on my first time!! I wanted to have an abortion out of fear of what my family would think because no one knew I even had a boyfriend, but my mom took me to the doctor when my period was late and we ended up finding out together. She freaked out little by little through out the pregnancy but she was the only one that was truly there for me and made sure that I had everything I needed. I know its scary, but if you want to go through with it, its probably best that you tell your mother now.. She may be disappointed, but thats your mom and she might not respond how you think. You'll get through it!!