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My Rainbow is Born x
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Hello my friends it is with much sadness that I am writing this.. I had my 12 week scan a few weeks ago which showed a 3.5mm nuchal fold which is Abnormal(although fro
Reading posts some baby's are born normal.) I was given a 10%risk of downs and my partner and myself decided not to have the amnio which carries a 1% risk of miscarriage., having had 3 early miscarriages already I was not prepared to take that risk., so on the day of amnio I went along and asked for a scan instead as I'd been alarmed the day before to have had some mild cramping...
On the scan the consultant spotted a soft marker for heart defect which points to downs.., also I was told that as it was spotted at 6 weeks the heart damage would be catastrophic and that at best baby would survive to omy 2 weeks even after surgery if she didn't die in the womb before that...
I had a heartbreaking few weeks to decide on what the best thing to do was we went ahead with the amnio which confirmed our little girl did indeed have downs..
We felt the kindest thing would be to opt for an ethical termination. Which I had done last week on my 40th birthday., baby emma was born then on our shared birthday...
I am just so lost and devastated for my poor little angel but knoW we made the best decision and have spared her from suffering...
My little girl should have been born before Xmas which will be hard as I know 3 people who are due around that time..
Oooo Mandy I am so sorry to hear your news. You not only faced a some tragic news about Emma but had to make the toughest decision any parent could ever be faced with. You are a brave and strong lady. To have had your Daughter have a life of pain and suffering would have been devastating. This is just my opinon and I felt exactly the same when I was told about my Son inheriting my translocation and I knew if he had lived it would have been a life of suffering for him.
Know she is looking down on you and thanking you for being such a brave and strong Mummy xxx