Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[joey300187]

preston do you know where your going in august as different places test different things. xx

 

[Hope4allofyou]

Hello I have read this forum for the past 3 years but never wrote anything on here....Here is my story. I had 3 children by the time I was 24 easily with no probs what so ever. I got sterilized happy with my lot and life went on. When my daughter was 6 months old I separated from my then partner due to abuse. I struggled and worked hard as a single mum until i was 29 and then met a lovely man whom I married that had no children of his own. Things for years were so good and he was fab with my other children which made me kind of think that deep down he would like to have a child of his own to experience the whole experience. He maintained that he loved me and accepted that we would not have a child together for quite sometime. I suppose that I knew in my heart that he would like to have a child and I also felt like I would like to complete our lovely family and share the experience with him. I looked into reversal of sterilization and spoke to him about it. I was age 33 at this point. Finally at the thought something could be done and it could be a real possibility he confessed that he would love to have a child of his own but if it was not possible then he is very grateful for what we already have. I started to research having reversal with microscopic surgery. I found a man called Dr.Hisham in Cambridge that did it this way and I booked him up! The surgery went well and after he told me that the right side was ok and that the left side was spot on. I left on a high thinking it would be all plain sailing from then on as getting pregnant and staying pregnant had been "a piece of cake" How wrong I was!!!
14 days after my reversal I had my period right on time then during that following month I concieved......We were over the moon and in my cocky state went straight out and bought some comfy leggings etc v.excited. Because I had the digital test that said the weeks on I decided to do the second one out of the box 2 weeks later. The first had said 2 - 3 weeks and I just liked seeing the word PREGNANT. I did it again and the weeks came up the same but I honestly didn't register that in my head I just saw the word and showed my husband......He said "why is it still saying 2 -3 weeks?" Then I worried! The next day was a Monday and I was the only one running a small wholesale company with the Boss being away so could not get to the Docs straight away and while in work started to feel a burning pain in my uterus and instinctively knew it was going pear shaped! Anyway cut it all a bit shorter this happened another 4 times in a row and by this time I realised what other ladies have to go through and how lucky I was to have my other children so easily and how lucky I was to have them atall. Still after this though I became very obsessed, heart broken over my losses, a pee on a stick addict , sorry to my husband for not being able to give him a baby when he is so fab and ate pineapple, brazil nuts, yams and every little wish and prayer etc ....you name it I did it. I had chromosomal testing (both of us) sperm counts, hormone levels and even bought clomid off the internet and preseed because my doc's I felt were not helping me and since the 4 miscarriages had not got pregnant for 11 months! I booked in for a HSG which showed both my tubes were completely blocked....I refused to believe it for some reason and got pregnant the following month. The same story unexplained miscarriage after miscarriage with like 2 or 3 months between getting pregnant. I had looked at statistics and knew that staying pregnant was a virtually nill percent without anyone finding what was wrong with me. My husband had had enough of all the heart ache he felt we were putting ourselves through and wanted us to give up. I told my doc that I had read success stories on the net and that maybe it could happen for me and he told me that I had to remember that the success stories were v.rare and I was only reading what I wanted to hear. I had my 10th miscarriage then out of the blue bled 2 weeks after that again then got pregnant again and balled my eyes out because I just did not want to go through it all again.
AND THEN IT STAYED
AND STAYED
AND STAYED??????
At 6 weeks I went to the Doc and said to do my hcg then went back 2 days later to do it again.....it had trippled?
Everyday I thought it was going to be gone checking my boobs for soreness and dark colouring every 2 mins.....had vaginal scan .....Still there... heart beating.....no sickness what so ever so thought it was still gonna go wrong .... had some weird pains and panicked , had another v scan and heart still beating. 8 weeks 6 days had spotting and burning yet another v scan.....all good. Totally amazed still could not believe it after all the heart ache.
Friday had a scan and I am 13 weeks and all is perfect.
I still don't know why all my early miscarriages happened and I still check my boobs every 5 mins and I have had no sickness just the odd yuck feeling now and again and out of superstition I have avoided writing about it untill now but wanted to share it with you all once I had got to this point. Don't give up and don't let doctors give you statistics (we are all a statistic in our own way) I have told my story in a much less emotional way than it really has been because if I was to write all of it I would still be here while giving birth lol.
Love and best wishes to all of you
Happy to answer any questions xxxxxxxxxx

 

[Mon_n_john]

That was so nice of you to share with us Hope, thank you, Congrats and good luck to you!

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Hope4allofyou, thanks indeed for sharing that, after 10 miscarriages thats brilliant that this one is sticking. Wishing you lots of luck. Take care x

 

[daviess3]

What an emotional rollercoaster did you do anything different this month progesterone aspirin clexane etc? so pleased for you xx

 

[daviess3]

Ladies pls give me some advice? Positive pregnancy tests since 11dpo!! Today 16dpo the tests are faint yesterday I thought they were fainter! So I brought a clearblue digi used afternoon urine an not pregnant!! Tesco still showing pregnant! Should I stop using progesterone? As this will prevent bleeding? Or should I go to docs? I feel really crap! Docs never do anything or the consultant feel in limbo! If I'm having a chemical should I just let it happen? X

 

[jenny25]

hun im in the process of my 5th loss 4th mc and this is what happened too me postive digi and frer 8dpo my frer tests did not get darker by tuesday i had my hcg drawn and it was 18 so it must of dropped and friday i started to mc the night before i done a digi it said not pregnant if your on progesterone it wont stop you from bleeding hun xxx

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Hey, that does suck, no wonder you feel like crap. It sounds like your HCG has dropped and maybe a chemical pregnancy. If the clearblue digital is saying not pregnant then sadly I'd go with that as they are very sensitive and correct. Its a tricky one regarding the progesterone but I'd be tempted to stop taking it incase your delaying the inevitable. Im sorry this is happening, you seem to have been through a hell of a lot, noone deserves this. Hang in there x

 

[daviess3]

Thanks ladies, saw doc got a form for bloodtest Tom so will find out hcg level but not getting my hopes up! But I just don't no where to go next! I need referring to a decent specialist that is actually going to help me! X

 

[Mon_n_john]

I'm so sorry Davie. That does sound like a chemical. I've had a few so I totally understand, it's a horrible feeling and very confusing. I wouldn't stop my prog. until I knew my HCG wasn't doubling within 3 days, but that's just me. Let us know how it goes at the dr.'s appt.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Hope4allofyou- thanks for taking the time to share your story with us. Congratulations!!!

Davies- sorry to hear this, hun. Like Mon said, I wouldn't stop the progesterone just yet.

 

[daviess3]

Doctor was rubbish!! She fiirstly said why on earth are you still testing!! I said coz i have had 3 mc!!!! Pleased to no she read my notes!! Just got hcg blood form thats that!! Just want some answers! Has anyone tried prog injections? x

 

[jenny25]

Hey hun i have just seen dr sathanandan at the fertility clinic and he is putting me on progesterone after ovulation and clomid but that could change as i have just had another loss i wont find out our new plan if any ... daviess i have sent you a pm xxx

 

[LeeC]

Hi Davies.

I have had this happen a couple of times sounds like a chemical pg to me.
My tests just kept getting fainter and like you Clearblue Digi confirmed not pregnant
However, best to keep on progesterone til you get your bloodwork back.
If it's bad news, stop the progesterone I continued to m/c a couple of days after stopping the progesterone.
So sorry to hear your news and will be keeping my fx'd for you honey xxx

 

[Mon_n_john]

Davie, I have been on progesterone 3 cycles total. My 1st prog. cycle I was pregnant and at 14 DPO my prog. was low at 8.8 and I was put on 800 mg. a day via 4 vaginal suppositories. Unfortunately, I had a mc, probably because it was too late at that point.

My 2nd prog. cycle was when I was pregnant with my son. That was done out of precaution due to 3 previous mcs. Who knows if that is what made the difference but the result was a very healthy baby boy delivered at 36 weeks & 5 days.

My 3rd prog. cycle was last month. I was given Crinone 8% prog. gel which is considered the best prog. on the market. That was just a precaution just in case I was pregnant last cycle, which I wasn't, because I had just had a mc the previous month. I will now take prog. from 7 DPO - 14 DPO unless I get a positive. In that case I would continue to use it. The gel is also a vaginal application but at least it is once a day instead of 4 times a day with the capsules.

Hope that gives you an idea regarding prog. protocol.

 

[daviess3]

Thanks ladies jenny wheres the fertility clinic you go to is it private?
Monnjohn i have been on cyclogest 400mg this time from bfp so 11dpo do you think thats to late>? Thanks for all your advice ladies i really appreciate it xx

 

[Mon_n_john]

I would say that if you really have low prog. issues you need to start at 7 DPO, this is according to my RE's nurse who I spoke to today. It will help to ensure you have a thicker lining and of course, help support the pregnancy.

As you Dr. of course but I have been told to start mine before a BFP. Are you being seen by a fertility specialist?

 

[Mon_n_john]

Oh and I forgot to add that with my successful prog. cycle I started it at 10 DPO which is when I got my BFP.

 

[daviess3]

Seen a recuurent mc specialist who did lots of tests everything was negative! So told to try again with low dose aspirin 400mg of cyclogest from bfp and clexane injections from 6weeks, I do have low progesterone which is why i was on clomid in the 1st place! I just feel like i keep getting fobbed off!! An no one gives a toss! Dont no what to demand next lol x

 

[Mon_n_john]

I'm sorry honey. I wish I could help more but I would certainly push for prog. earlier in your cycle. Not familiar with cyclogest but in the states Crinone 8% is the BEST prog. money can buy. Hugs!